A ‘Cock Tease’: How to Recognize Her And Avoid Being Played

“Cock Tease” Isn’t it a stupid expression?

Let’s face it guys: you’ve all played this game at least once.  You meet a beautiful girl. She seems to be into you.  You buy her drinks all night.  You flirt; she flirts back.  And then, just when you think you’re about to close the deal, she walks away without as much as a good bye.  Yep, she is what they call a ‘Cock Tease.’ The only problem with that is that your cock will most likely not even participate in this mind game. It is your brain that she fucks (and not in a good way).  So how about ‘Brain Fuck’? Better?

Whatever we call them – they are there: the girls who will lead you on and dump you at the most inopportune moment.  Not only do you then realize that you’re not getting any, you also realize that, unfortunately, you’ve been played.  That hurts.

Just recently a matchmaker relayed a story of a guy who met a woman online.  They communicated for over a year until they met.  He was thrilled.  He took her to the fanciest boutique in town and paid for her designer purchases.  She seemed so grateful and pleased, he was ready to propose the next day.  Except for one little problem:  his ‘would-be-wife’ disappeared.  Just like that.  She would not answer his texts or calls and seemingly dropped off the face of the earth as far as he was concerned.

In this case, once again, his cock was not there to play the game.  It was his wallet that took the hit.  And his ego. Brain Fuck.

So what is it, that drives women to behave like arrogant egomaniacs? Financial concern aside (as in the example above), what is it that compels women to lead men on knowing fully well that this encounter will go nowhere?

A variety of issues, actually.  According to a study done by the researchers at the University of Texas, in Austin, and the University of New Brunswick, Canada, women have the need to feel attractive and/or desirable.  They want to feel in control and

Powerful.  Some said that they did not want to seem to ‘easy’ by having sex right away.

The sad truth is that women generally have a lower self esteem then men.  As a result, they may feel this need to be reassured that they are beautiful and desirable.  That need often overshadows the awareness of proper behavior.

So, gentlemen, what are you supposed to do when a drop-dead-gorgeous woman seems interested in you? Should you walk away or do you stand a chance for something more than a bar-conversation?

To help you out, here are 3 sure ways you can recognize that a woman is not into you and you’re not getting any:

  1. No number exchange. If she takes your number but does not give hers in return, guess what?  She has no intention of ever calling you.  Because she is not into you.  Walk away.
  2. She is easily distracted. If she lets a girlfriend or anyone else, be it a bartender or a man who sat down next to her at the bar, distract her attention from you, she is not very interested.  Otherwise, she would devote all her attention to you even if Adonis himself flew into her lap. If she seems like she would rather talk to anyone but you, she is not into you. Walk away.
  3. She is elusive. No matter what you ask, she is non-committal.  Even to easy questions like ‘where did you grow up?’ she will give vague answers, such as ‘Oh, here and there.’  When a girl is not into you, she has no intention of opening up.  Walk away.

Sometimes, guys, you just need to know when to walk away in time.  Linger too long and you may find yourself on a receiving end of a Brain Fuck.

About the author Marina Margulis

Marina is a founder and CEO of NY Socials; New York's Premier Elite Members-Only Dating Club.

Marina holds a professional CMM (Certified Match Maker) certification from the Match Making Institute of America, as well as a CPC (Certified Professional Coach) certification from Fowler International Academy of Professional Coaching.

To find out more, please visit www.NewYorkSocials.com .