Incorrectly setting their goals
A goal is something that is out of reach of the moment, something you are looking up at. If you put “women” as your goal, you’re unconsciously putting women on a pedestal above you. If she looks down at you, is this the guy she wants to be with? No, she’s too busy looking up at another guy.
The goal is to turn yourself into the type of person that is so fun and interesting that it draws people to you. This works the same when guys go out. If you go out and say to yourself, “I’m going to get three phone numbers tonight,” and you don’t achieve that, how does that make you feel? Like crap. Phone numbers, dates and taking a girl home are all side effects of the goal, not the goal itself. If you go out with a goal to, “have fun, grab a few drinks and talk to some people,” that can be much more easily achieved. Then, when you accomplish that goal, you feel happy and want to try and reach more goals. Also, if you go out with the goal to get women, your energy is all off. Women can sense it.
You may come across as desperate or needy or even single-minded bull-headedness. Instead, just try and strike up conversations with people with that being your only goal. If you do that well, then the women you meet will want to continue spending time with you and you’ve realized that but changing the goal, you got the desired outcome that you had always wanted!