How to Save Your Relationship If You’ve Cheated on Your Partner

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It’s not the cheating that jeopardizes relationships and marriages; it’s the cheating partner’s inability to confess, be honest and leave the past behind and start anew.  Almost half of the couples don’t split up and work on saving their marriage and relationship, but the healing process is difficult. Once trust is breached, it’s very hard to bring it back, and most couples suffer from emotional deprivation, guilt, and resentment.

So, if you have cheated on your partner, then read on how to gain the trust of your spouse and in the process save your relationship.

1. Confess The Truth

The first step in saving your relationship is to regain the trust of your partner. Confess the truth to your partner about everything that leads to this unfortunate event.  Be open and leave nothing secret about the affair right from the beginning. Share important details of your affair, how long have you been cheating, have to tell your affair partner about being in a relationship,  so that your partner can come to terms about the cheating and decide if he or she can forgive you and move on.

2.When You Say “Sorry,” Mean It!

Just saying “I’ m sorry,”  will help to get out of most situations, but it won’t help here that much.

You have to apologize sincerely, write a heartfelt, meaningful letter, and read it to your partner. You owe this to your partner given that you have so caused tremendous emotional damage to your partner and help him or her with the healing process.  Remember that your apology should express deep remorse for your actions and not have any reasons for your cheating.

3. Leave No Secrets & Answer Every Question

Don’t hide anything of your affair and answer every question your partner asks you after you confessed about your affair. Do every possible thing you can so can your partner can trust you again and feel more secure in the relationship. Be accountable for your actions from now on and provide him or her detailed information about whereabouts, your cell phones, your credit cards bills, text messages, Facebook messages, etc. Limit overnight travel, and business trips and make efforts to quit your job in case if your affair partner happens to be a coworker. This may look uncomfortable or even unrealistic to you at first, but it proves you’re dedicated to doing everything possible you can to save this relationship and advance it more than before.

4. End All Connection With Your Affair Partner

It’s common sense that you need to sever every kind of contact with the man or the woman whom you had an affair. If you get call, emails or text messages from your affair lover, even after breaking up the affair, tell your partner about it. Don’t ignore, hide or even delete the evidence of it, without telling your partner about it first. Otherwise, this will be a disaster for your relationship and your partner will assume that your are hiding information and doing things behind his or her back, and all the progress you made will end.

5. Take Help From A Marriage Counselor

Sometimes coping with the cheating partner can be overwhelming for the cheated partner, so taking help from a couple counselor may help him or her in the healing process. A trained and licensed couple counselor will assist you with recovering from the infidelity and guide you and your spouse about saving your marriage and advance your relationship.

6. Take An STDs Test

This can be the most embarrassing part of the affair; most cheating partners try to avoid. But If you want to get back your partner’s trust and take full responsibility for your actions, then get yourself tested for any sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), you might have contracted from your affair partner. This is necessary not because you want to get intimate with her, but she can regain your trust again.

7. Saving Your Relationship Should Be Your Top Priority

Now that your affair is over, it’s time that you dedicate all your energy, attention and time on devoting entirely to save your relationship. This means that you should attend couple counseling and spend more of your free time with your family, including your kids (if you already have them) and extended family members. Make saving your relationship  your number one priority.

8.Be Accepting To The Consequences After The Affair

Even you have apologized and cut off all kinds of connections with your affair partner; there are some consequences of cheating on your partner. So, have patience and be prepared to accept them because that’s the only way to prove you are remorseful about it. The consequences are you may be living separately or in a separate room, lack of intimacy, anger, and occasional mistrust towards you.

Some of them might be very painful to you emotionally and physically, but if you can accept them open heartedly, you can demonstrate to your wife or husband that how the cheating has hurt your partner. This might also help speed up the healing process in recovering your lost marriage.

9. Get Used To The Fact Your Partner Will Keep Talking About The Affair

Infidelity is the tough thing to deal in a relationship. Your partner won’t be forgiving you overnight, and he or she won’t get quickly over the fact you cheated on them either.

Once you admitted about your affair and took all steps to move on, you partner will continue asking you questions about the details of your affairs and will continue to demand answers. Be willing to respond to them, regardless how burdensome it might be for you.

The healing won’t happen unless the cheating partner is ready to open up to his spouse about his or her affairs, communicate freely and honestly about what happened and get their betrayed partners feeling heard.

10.Revive Your Relationship With Your Partner Daily

No matter how remorseful you are or try to put the pieces together to save your relationship,  it is your husband or wife who will have the final say whether they want to be in this relationship or end it straight away. So, try to connect with your spouse meaningfully, get needy for attention more than ever, to prove that you’re far-reaching in saving this relationship.

Be focused, calm, make eye contact, and go to a quiet place and spend more time together. You will notice that this kind effort will reignite the passion in your spouse that will sustain your relationship in the long run.

 

About the author John Eastham

John Eastham started his career as an investigator at an early age beginning in the area of Private Investigations. He provides quality investigation services in the UK and makes use of advanced equipment to solve different cases of clients. He presently works at a private eye agency leading the private investigation.

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