Ever seen the movie Hitch?
I never thought I’d see the day where I’d be recommending a Will Smith movie (and if I must – let it be Men In Black at least!)
But there’s one powerful sentence in that movie that sums up all you need to know about women and how to get them to like you.
And the good news?
It’s at the very beginning of the movie!
You can suffer the rest of it if you want to or you can snag that sentence and move on with your day – whatever floats your boat.
Ready for it?
In the opening sequence, at the very beginning of the film, Will Smith’s character ‘Hitch’ says something I will never forget.
“No woman ever leaves her house thinking ‘I don’t want to get swept off my feet today…'”
Think about that for a second.
Are you sweeping women off their feet?
Now before you jump in and give me that ‘Ohhhh but isn’t that being need’ crap, let me just stop you right there.
No, it abso-fucking-lutely is not. And your fear of coming off needy is exactly what makes her think you’re needy in the first place.
Confident men don’t fear being vulnerable.
What they DO fear is failing to speak their truth as authentically as possible – but we’ll get back to that shortly 😉
First, here’s a REALLY cool study:
At Cornell University, the department of psychology showed pictures of average-looking men to a group of women and asked the women to rate the men’s looks on a scale of 1 to 10.
They all got below average ratings.
A few weeks later, those women were shown another set of pictures of men, only this time, the scientists conducting the study used photoshop to expand the men’s pupils by 40%.
Your pupils dilate when you look at something you LIKE.
When asked to rate these men, they were rated 7 and above on 10.
They were the SAME EXACT PHOTOS those women were shown only weeks before!
So what changed?
BECAUSE the subconscious of these women picked up on the dilated pupils (meaning that these men already liked them) they were far more likely to like them in return and thus rate them as more attractive – regardless of how they looked.
They dart their eyes away awkwardly because they were told it’s impolite to stare, and they ‘play it cool’ pretending they don’t really care.
So remember earlier when I said that the only fear of a confident man is that he doesn’t express himself as authentically as he can?
Well, here’s how to tell a girl you like her and pretty much guarantee she’ll like you back:
Speak your truth authentically!
Drop all pretence, leave yourself no room to retreat, nothing to fall back on – burn your fucking boats and show up fully like a man!
“I saw you from over there and I had to come up here, interrupt your conversation with your friends, walk across the street through traffic and leave my friends behind – because from the moment I saw you I can’t take my eyes off you and I’m not leaving here without getting your name”.
DAMN! Now there’s a man she can’t ignore!
Remember: what woman leaves her house thinking ‘I don’t want to get swept off my feet today’? So stop playing it small and let the lesser men of the world makes excuses for their desires. You’ll stand meters above them and begin to walk with giants.
Give. Love. Serve.