7 great tips you should remember when you want to attract women during a date.
A first date with someone you barely know can be a stressful situation. It’s like entering a new, unknown land. Not only do you not know the best way to approach that particular woman, but you want to impress her without showing fear. Here is a strategy on how to interest a woman you like. How do you behave so your dream date will not turn into the last date?
First: Emphasize your best values
An analytical approach will be useful here. You have to think about what kind of man women would look for in general. Even better, what kind of man the woman you are taking out might like the most? If you don’t know, ask her friends, family, or just look at the other men she has dated. Facebook would be a great tool to utilize for this. Don’t pretend to be somebody who you are not, but if you know she really likes a strong man, show her that she can feel safe with you. If she likes intellectuals, think about what highbrow movies you’ve seen or books you’ve read. In general, emphasize the side of you that you think she will like the most.
There are some general male qualities that every female appreciates – like wisdom, honesty, a sense of humor, and fidelity. Be punctual, smart, and natural.
If you like sports (as in participating in physical activity, not watching football all day with a beer in your hand) tell her about it. Almost all women love fit men. If you have some interesting hobbies, don’t be shy about it. It’s always interesting to listen when somebody is talking passionately about something. Avoid going into too much technical detail though. Instead, keep the story simple with good intonation and a soft voice.
Second: Listen to her!
Women love to talk. They also hate to see when somebody is not paying attention to what they are saying. Follow her words and ask some interesting questions. Make an effort to listen to her! If she is passionately telling you a story about her beloved cat, ask her to show you a picture. Later, say convincingly that is cute. Get involved with her world and don’t be impatient.
Listening to women is good for at least two reasons: It’s saving you from saying something stupid and it’s giving you a huge opportunity to impress her next time. For example, if she says she love Indian food, then research where the best Indian food in town is and take her there.
Third: Look good
She will look at you closely. She will have a few hours to just focus on listening and looking at you, so look as good as you can! Quick reminder for guys who need it: we live in the 21st century. There are products for literally everything that could disturb your good look, so take care of yourself! I don’t tell you to show off and pretend to be somebody you are not, but spend some time grooming yourself properly. Choose the clothes you feel comfortable in, but they must be modest and elegant according to your personal style. Make sure that your clothes, hair, and nails are perfectly clean. Don’t forget about your breath. Have some chewing gum with you. Use perfumes, but don’t overuse them. Quality is more important than quantity in everything. Elegance for men is made by details. Wear nice watch or scarf. The curious female eye will surely notice it!
Fourth: Be natural and friendly
Don’t stress out too much before and during you date. After all, this gorgeous woman is just another human being. If she decided to date you, then she likes you. So feel comfortable and confident. Smile at her. You can use your smile to encourage her to flirt with you. If something goes bad – for example, you or her spilled some wine on the table – say with a smile that it’s for good luck. Show her your sense of humor. Never joke about her, especially about weight and age. Those won’t go well no matter what you say.
Fifth: Show her your gentlemanly side
Simple things: be polite, punctual, attentive, and don’t swear. Open doors for her, take her coat when she is going to sit. Give her some compliments. The safest are about her clothes or perfumes. They don’t necessary have to be pretty, but if she choose them then she thinks they are! These kinds of compliments will also make her think that you have good taste.
Gentleman have to be able to talk about everything. Make an effort and try to lead as intelligent of a conversation as you can. Avoid difficult, controversial subjects like politics or religion. Don’t dig into any subject too much, especially if you see that is not her cup of tea. Ask about her work, music, sports, ect. Control your body language. Avoid any violent or anxious movements. When there is a pause, don’t talk nervously about stupid things. Instead comment on the interior of the restaurant you are in, the food, or some latest news you read. If you go out on a date, pay the bill for both of you. Don’t do it in ostentatious way. When she is in a bathroom, go to the bartender or waiter and pay the bill when she can’t see it.
To sum it all up:
Prepare well for this date. Smile and have friendly conversation, behave naturally and politely. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. Just play up the advantages you already have. She has to be attracted to you, not an artificial image of you! If she agrees on having a date with you, it means that she is interested, so stop stressing out and just enjoy company of a beautiful woman!