This One Thing Guys Do Is Completely Ruining Your Chance To Satisfy Her

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If you’re wondering whether or not you satisfied your girl last night, let me help you out. You didn’t. A woman’s orgasm isn’t a secret, and it’s not something she wants to hide from you. If you have to ask her whether or not she came, most likely she didn’t.

So, the question becomes why not? Before you blame her- considering the fact that you’ve been working out five times a week, which means it must not have anything to do with your own physicality- take a step back.

A lack or loss of physical attraction isn’t the only thing stopping women from having an orgasm. There’s something men do that has affected our chance at satisfying women. And, until today, we had no idea we’re doing it.

There is an age-old stereotype, written by men, that assumes women are and should remain the more passive and weak members of a heterosexual relationship. Technically speaking, it’s called “Benevolent Sexism” and a recent study found that it might be ruining your sex life.

So, it has more to do with going to the gym than you’d like to believe.

When a woman accepts and internalizes this role, she ends up choosing dominant partners who hold the same ideals and tend to be more selfish in bed.

Women who reject these ideals tend to take more control in the bedroom, focusing on their own pleasure and have far more satisfying sex lives. Not only are they more likely to orgasm, they’re less likely to perceive you (their partner) as being selfish.

And this, in turn, will make her want to return the favor more willingly.

So, stop treating your girl like she’s a damsel in distress. Stop acting like your own sexual desires are more important than hers. Let your girl take the reigns for once.

Trust me, you’ll be happy you did it. When sex is good for your girl, it’s even better for you.

About the author Sarah Williams

Sarah Williams is an avid blogger who specializes in dating advice. Her interests include gender relations and the underlying mechanisms that drive human interactions. You can check out her thoughts on men, sex, dating and love at Wingman Magazine.