If there’s one thing we men are good at it’s shooting ourselves in the foot.
I mean think about it; how many times have you screwed it up with a girl who was majorly into you just because you just didn’t read the signals she was sending? Sucks, doesn’t it?
But to be honest, it’s hard to blame us guys. We’re just not as emotionally intuitive as women inherently are. And more often than not the subtle signals that a woman sends our way, end up flying way over our heads.
Let’s put a stop to that.
In today’s article, we’d like to talk about 3 simple, but important signs to look out for when a girl is into you. These are by no means the only three indicators of interest a woman will give you, but they are 3 of the most common and easiest to pick up on.
What are the ultimate signs that she likes you?
#1 – Her body language
Let’s start with the basics – her body language.
It’s a scientifically proven fact that more than 90% of all human communication is non-verbal. But what does that mean for the modern seducer? It means that while a woman is telling you one thing with her conversation, she could be telling you 9 other things with her body language.
So what are some common body language cues you can watch out for?
Does she hold strong eye contact?
In general, a woman will only hold strong eye contact with a man she’s interested in. This is because women associate strong eye contact with a deeper emotional connection. And if a girl is really, really into you, you might even notice her pupils dilate a bit when she locks eyes with you.
Does she smile gentle, giggle nervously and get shy while talking to you?
If a girl gets shy while talking with you, it’s a very good sign. Girls often become shyer around people who they find attractive.
Does she play with her hair?
Often times when a girl is talking to or around a guy she’s interested in, she’ll start playing with her hair or fiddling about with her jewelry. Usually, this is a subconscious, knee-jerk reaction and most women hardly even realize when they’re doing it.
Does she lean in when talking to you?
Leaning in and closing the distance between the two of you is usually a very strong sign of attraction, and, more often than not, is actually a subconscious invitation to escalate your advances.
Do her feet point towards you?
Just like leaning in, when a woman is attracted to you, even on a subconscious level, you’ll notice that she’ll always sit or stand with her feet pointed towards you.
#2 – The amount of effort she puts in
OK, so I’m going to give you a bit of a reality check.
Remember the last time a girl canceled on a date because “something came up”?
Remember the last time a girl took ages to reply to your message because she was “really busy”?
The truth is that she just wasn’t all that into you.
You see, at the end of the day, when a woman is really attracted to a man, it doesn’t matter what obstacles are in her way, she’s going to make an effort to overcome them.
For example, if a woman cancels a meeting, skips work and lies to her friends to make some time to come meet you, she’s definitely into you.
Or, for example, if a woman responds immediately to your texts and makes an effort to get you on the phone talking to her, she’s definitely interested.
You’ll also notice this effort when you’re interacting in person with a woman. For example, if she’s really interested in you, you’ll always have her complete and undivided attention, and you’ll also notice that she’ll make an active effort to make sure that her friends or colleagues don’t come in between your interaction.
Think of attraction like poker and the effort a woman puts in like playing chips. Just like a player putting more chips into a pot is a sign of their attachment and interest in the hand, the level of effort a woman makes in a courtship is an indicator of her interest and attachment to you.
#3 – Her level of physical intimacy with you
Have you ever been in a conversation with a girl and noticed that she seems to be “accidentally” touching your arm or brushing up against you a lot.
Well, that’s no accident. She’s basically screaming at you that she’s into you and that she wants you to escalate things.
You see, a woman will only show signs of physical intimacy with a guy that she’s really, really into. No girl is going to get touchy and cuddly with a guy that she’s not even remotely attracted to.
For example, you’ll sometimes notice that a girl who’s really into you will make any excuse to get closer to you, no matter how much space there is around you. She might pretend that she can’t hear you and move closer, or she might pretend that she has something to show you and use that as an excuse to close the distance.
Or when a girl is really, really into you, you’ll also notice that she’ll start touching you in a seemingly innocent way. For example, she might touch your arm lightly when talking to you, or she might playfully smack your chest when making a joke. And if she’s bolder, she might even go as far as to lightly graze your leg or thigh with her hand mid-conversation.
Some parting thoughts
To be completely honest, you won’t be able to master the art of picking up on a woman’s attraction signals overnight. It’ll take time and dozens of interactions with women to build that natural intuition. But when you do, you’ll start picking up on even the most subtle of signals and you’re seduction attempts will be all the more successful for it.