A Beginner’s Guide to Butt Plugs and How to Use Them

By Patrick Banks

Posted 1 year agoSEX

The impact that both the mind and body can have on each other is marvelous when observed in daily life. Sex is one such example of a process that shows the impact of mind and body on each other. Physical passion and sexual pleasure have always been the center of human society since the very beginning of civilization.
Butt Plugs

Modern times have brought modern exotic sex accessories such as butt plug tails, cat tail butt plug, and many more things that enhance sexual gratification and pleasure.

Every individual expresses his sexual fantasy and identity uniquely in bed. A lot of kinky fantasies and fetishes have been expressed and accepted by people from all around the world.

Anal sex and Butt Plugs, too, have received a huge acceptance from people who love sex and tend to explore their sexual fantasies. If you, too, are a person who is curious and wishes to explore the sexual world of pleasure, you might want to try the butt plugs as an accessory. 

However, as a beginner or a layman, you might want some guidance on how to use butt plugs. 

Are Butt Plugs meant for you?

Before you actually dug into the right way to use a butt plug, are you even sure if or not the butt plugs are meant for you! How are you supposed to be sure of it?  

Butt Plugs are basically anal plugs that double the pleasure of sex. These accessories are used by all people regardless of sex, orientation. 

The first sign that the butt plugs are meant for you would be your interest in anal sex. If you have a thing for anal sex and are intrigued by it, butt plug tails and cat tail butt plug might be the ultimate kinky accessory for you. 

On the contrary, if you are not an “ass man” or somebody who would like to lend and derive pleasure while playing with your female’s other hole, you might want to reconsider your want of butt plugs. 

How does it work?

If you are man into butt plugs, you must know how to use it on your partner or self as per your inclination. The butt plug is basically a heavily lubed plug that you would use to play with your partner’s or your anus and to loosen it up for the real thing. 

Although it might sound all too easy, it is true that if you handle the butt plug wrong, you might end up in the ER and the night of sexual passion and exoticness shall turn into ridicule.

Given the fact that the anus is surrounded by a lot many nerve endings, it acts as a vacuum and it is certainly not as wet and friendly as the other female hole, you need to handle things slowly and softly. 

Otherwise, there is a high chance that you might hurt the person with the butt plug inside him/her. Rough handling intentionally as a play/ or unintentionally might tear and hurt the anus causing injury and bleeding. 

The key to pleasure by butt plugs

There are several types of butt plugs available in the market and all you have to do is pick the one that excites you the most. The shape of almost all the butt plugs is quite the same and is designed specifically to ensure maximum pleasure and no harm. The tip of the plug is made thin to easily enter the hole and then the shape widens in the middle to fill it up. The ending or the neck of the butt plug us again made thin and is attached to a chord or tail as in the cat tail butt plug. The tail or the chord lends you the option to easily pull the plug out.

No one wants the plug to be lost in their hole; as I guess it won’t be the way you would want to get popular after making it to the ER.

What size should I Choose?

Size does matter; and matters the most when you are talking in the context of butt plugs. There is nothing to be confused about when it comes to the size of butt plugs. All you have to and should do is buy the smallest size available. 

Yes, you read that right. If you are a new user, there is no option for you to go big. You should choose the smallest size and work your way up from there. 

People who picked bigger sizes have expressed that they were not able to use the big size for a long time after buying it.

A friend of mine chose to buy the medium size cat tail butt plug against the suggestion of some users. Buddy couldn’t put it in for another decade. The anus won’t let the plug near it; and the shopkeeper would never really want it back. That plug had o wait for 10 years to get into the hole it was meant to.  

Buy small; enjoy big would be the mantra when you consider the size of the butt plug. 

What about the lube? How much is necessary?

You must remember the fact that the rectum does not behave like the vagina. Its mouth does not water on seeing a handsome butt plug or on even the real thing. The anus does not self lubricate. It is why the lube becomes so necessary to be used to make your butt plug fantasy a success.

Now comes the question of how much lube to use and what type of lube to use? There are water-based lubes and silicone-based lubes available in the market. both have their advantages. the silicon-based lubes tend to be soft, and are therefore perfect for new users, but they do tend to break silicon made butt plugs.

You can also use water-based or home oils based butt plugs but they tend to be of a lesser impact than silicon-based lube. This is because the silicone lube is thick and lasts longer giving you the freedom to continue your exotic sexual fantasy for longer. 

How do I put it in and how do I take it out?

Patience is the key to smooth sex with a butt plug. Your mind and body both need to be ready for the action before you actually get into it. Foreplay is a must to trigger your body and to get the hormones rushing in your veins. 

Touching and playing with the anus before it is invaded by a butt p0lug is necessary. Using your or your partner’s finger to excite the anal area would be a great idea. Take your time and let your partner or your body anticipate the action. 

Once the anal area is sensitized, take the well-lubed butt plug and gently glide it in the anus. 

Different people prefer different positions for the insertion to go smoothly. Doggy style is the most preferred by a larger set of people. 

Once the -plug is in, remember that relaxation is the key to anal pleasure. Deep and slow breaths help you stay calm and then your nerves take on the excitement that the butt plug brings.   

If you are concerned about the way of taking the plug out, we recommend that you get it done by your partner – gently and slowly while you breathe slowly and deep and savor in all the pleasure.     

How do I keep it safe and clean?

Sex is fun even if it gets messy but it is equally important to keep it clean and safe. A condom is supposed to the protection while having sex and the same applies when you get into butt plug sexual fantasies. 

Your butt plug might carry bacteria from your GI tract. If you are a woman, be very cautious and ensure that you do not transfer any bacteria or infections from your anal tract top your vagina as it might pose serious problems.  

Other than keeping the plug clean, take it gentle and soft when playing with the butt plug. Make sure that the pleasure is not hindered by any unwanted bruises in the anal area. Make sure that you buy non-porous material based butt plugs such as glass and silicon if you are using it with multiple partners. We say so because on-porous material based butt plugs do not get soaked in bacteria from anus. 


After considering all the “How” and “why” of the Butt plug use, you are now all set for your sexual adventures. Sex is undoubtedly the base of a romance between two humans. The horizons of sexual practices seem to widen with every rising sun, and we are all loving it. 

Butt plugs and other such sex toys open your mind and body to sublime experience which might be unknown to you. Before all, it must be accepted that it is in everyone’s right to experience any sexual fetish that might wish for, and there should be no stigmas attached to it. 

We hope our instructions and information might prove helpful to you in achieving the pleasure that you seek for. 

Keep your mind dirty and the butt plug clean! 

About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.