These Alpha Male Traits and Characteristics Will Make You Irresistible To Women

By Patrick Banks

Posted 6 years agoGROWTH


You know, the term ‘Alpha Male’ seems to have gathered a bit of a bad rep over the years. What should be a positive and self-affirming state of mind has been interpreted as a gruff, overly masculine, and sometimes overly aggressive outer façade. But I want to help men the world over reclaim the term and learn what it is to be a true alpha male.

You see a lot of people misinterpret the idea of being an alpha male as simply being ‘dominant’ over other men and women, when in reality; ‘dominance’ is just a tiny aspect of the bigger picture.

So in today’s article, I’d like to break down and analyze the traits and characteristics that I believe contribute towards a true alpha male state of being. Starting off with…


The Alpha Male’s Body Language

Have you ever been out at a club or a pub and noticed how when some men walk into the venue, every woman in the joint automatically seems to scan them out? What it is about these men that stoke the curiosity of the opposite sex? Two words – body language.


Here’s a little experiment that I want you to try out – the next time that you’re out on the town and feeling insecure or anxious, I want you to pay attention to your body language. Are you hunched over with your shoulders slouched? Does it feel like you’re trying to shrink yourself so as not to take up too much space? This is exactly the opposite of what an alpha male would be doing.

The alpha male’s posture is as relaxed as it is assertive. Stand tall with your shoulders back and your chest out. Take up as much space as you need to be comfortable; without being a total slouch. Straighten your neck and back and hold your head high.
Either place your hands on your hips or put them in your pockets with your thumbs out; and never hold them across your chest. And as always remember, balance is key. You don’t want to overly exaggerate your posture. That just looks silly.

Do you want to go even further with working on your posture? Check out how to unlock your Hidden Survival Muscle.


The next time you watch a Marlon Brando, Clint Eastwood, Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt movie, pay attention to how their characters move on the screen. The alpha male’s movements are always slow but deliberate; every action feels relaxed but purposeful. When you walk into a room, an office or a bar, walk in slowly but with purpose. If it helps, imagine yourself as the world’s greatest gladiator walking into the Coliseum to do battle.


One thing that I’ve noticed with men who are not alpha is that they always seem to speak really fucking fast. It’s as if they’re worried that if they stop talking people are going to stop paying attention to them. Alpha males on the other hand speak in a slow but deliberate manner. They aren’t afraid to include pauses in their conversation. They know that even if they let a moment of silence drag on for a minute, people are still going to be hanging onto whatever they say next.

This manner of speaking has a powerful effect on people, but it might take a little practice. So make a conscious effort to begin with. Imagine that you’re Marlon Brando from The Godfather if you need to. You wouldn’t worry about someone not hanging onto every word you say now would you?

Eye contact

The ability to hold strong eye contact is another integral part of being a true alpha male. People who are insecure or intimidated don’t hold strong eye contact. Their eyes always dart about as if searching for a more comfortable spot to rest on.

The alpha male, however, is present and his eye contact conveys that. So don’t be afraid of looking people in the eye when you talk to them. This might feel uncomfortable at first, but make a conscious effort and it’ll feel normal over time.


Let’s set the record straight, the notion that an alpha male is some overly serious, macho gruff-pot is a complete lie. Whenever you walk into a bar with a ‘tough’ or ‘serious’ look on your face, you’re not telling people that you’re alpha. You’re just telling them that you’re not very happy with your life and that you probably aren’t getting laid much. So don’t be afraid to have a nice, relaxed smile on your face at all times.


Now while there are a few exceptions (think Steve from The Tao of Steve) alpha males, in general, are well groomed. This doesn’t mean that you need to wear Tom Ford suits and designer eyewear. But paying attention to your wardrobe, your facial hair and overall grooming can go a long way. You wouldn’t ever see James Bond in an ill-fitting suit and bad hairdo, would you?

The Alpha Male’s Personality

Now here’s where we get into the interesting stuff. While the alpha male’s body language is relatively easy to emulate, an alpha personality might take a little longer to cultivate. But remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day and nor is a true alpha male.

Alpha males lead interesting lives

Who would you rather hang out with at a party – Wolverine or Scott Summers? Part of the allure of an alpha male is that they all seem to lead such interesting lives. There’s never a boring moment around one. Now you might ask yourself, “what if my life isn’t all that interesting?” Well for fuck’s sake, go out and make it interesting.

Alpha males don’t qualify themselves

One of the biggest differences between an alpha male and a so-called “beta” is that the beta will forever be trying to prove something to himself and to others. Every time a guy brags about his car or his job, what he’s really conveying is that he’s terrified that people won’t like and accept him for who he truly is. The alpha male on the other hand doesn’t brag about the car he owns, the places he’s been to or the girls he’s been with. In fact, he doesn’t feel the need to. He is confident enough in himself to know that people will like him for him without him having to prove anything to anyone.

Alpha males are confident

Now confidence can be a bit of a tricky concept to understand. Think about it, what actually is confidence? Well, I’m a firm believer that the only thing that creates true confidence is competence. For example, take the character Gannicus from the T.V series Spartacus (which you totally should watch, in case you haven’t). He’s supremely confident and forever cocky, but he backs this up with some mad skills with the sword.

So it doesn’t matter if you’re a software programmer or a rockstar, the key to embodying true alpha male confidence is in becoming the best at whatever it is you do. There’s a reason why the Bill Gates and  Mark Zuckerbergs of the world probably get as much action as the Brad Pitts and Johnny Depps.

Alpha males live in their own reality

One of the most alluring things about the alpha male is that he’s in his own reality. For example, think about Marlon Brando from The Godfather. If an unknown man were to walk into his office with a gun, he’d probably pour two drinks and ask the man to sit down. This mindset will take time to cultivate, but once you do, you’ll realize that having your own strong reality can help you saunter through most of life’s situations with ease and grace.

Alpha males are bold

Most men go about life shying away from the unknown and the unfamiliar. Alpha males on the other hand embrace life’s challenges and are never afraid to take a risk. They’re forever ready to speak their mind and stand up for what they believe in.

Alpha males have a sense of humor

One of the most important characteristics of an alpha male is that they don’t themselves or the world around them too seriously. David Duchovny’s character Hank Moody from the T.V series Californication is one of the best examples of this that I can think of. Hank’s nonchalant, devil-may-care attitude not only gets him out of some pretty messy situations, but it also gets him into the pants of some pretty gorgeous women.


The Alpha Male’s Social Skills

At the end of the day, one of the most important aspects of an alpha male is in his ability to take control and lead whatever social situation or group he’s in.

They are able to be the center of conversation

Alpha males in general love being the center of attention and are able to hold the focus of one person or a hundred people with equal ease. When you’re out at a club or a pub, you’ll notice how some men seem to hold court over a large group of people. These alpha males will usually be the ones leading the conversation and the ones who everyone turns to for approval and guidance.

At the same time, true alpha males are also humble in nature. They aren’t afraid to compliment and appreciate others. They don’t feel as if this lowers their own value. Instead, they know that they are a source of value and validation to others.

They are able to lead

All alpha males are natural leaders. And here’s the thing, it doesn’t matter if you’re the captain of a sports team or the CEO of a startup, the ability to lead and direct a group of people is powerful alpha quality.

Alphas keep leading especially when it comes to interactions with girls. They  behave gentle,  confident and always make sure that women see them as sexual beings, not kind of another female friend… Practice makes the master! 

About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.

2 thoughts on “These Alpha Male Traits and Characteristics Will Make You Irresistible To Women

  1. Nothing determines alpha status other than testosterone levels. I dont know what the cut off is between beta and alpha but Im sure there is a scientific figure for free testosterone levels in which determine whether one is consider beta or alpha. Vitamin D3 is a building block for testosterone. I take some 3 milligrams or so a day. Im not per se classic man being short in stature and boyish in appearance (Gemini Rising :)) but I get so much play. Why? T! I pull my cock out at work, tell women to suck it and get mildly playful resistance and no threats of sexual harassment. I tell them to rub my genitals through my pants, again mild resistance and then a pleasant surprise when the same woman comes back minutes later with a look of pride while her hands rough house my wiener. Kisses are easy, uninvited touches (seemingly uninvited) only place me higher in terms of alpha status. A bit of boldness can moisten vagina time after time. No woman I meet would ever disregard me as sexually unacceptable; ever! Every woman every time – regardless of boyfriend husband girlfriend wife… Then comes the SHIP tests (see how I prevail) annoying tests which are always smothered in flirting – dirty looks again knowing that I know their intent. I respond with essentially “do your job, don’t do your job, I don’t give a fuck just get out of the way! ” which is a tactic on my behalf; better part is that they know it’s a tactic and they get off on the fact that my main obsession is flat out sex. Why talk hours with a woman at the bar. Five sentences into it generally turns out to “so me on top of you. ” If they resist I turn away without a thought. Onto the next one, most times moments later. I’m in a stage of mostly play but it’s an avalanche of play that will turn into a waterfall of pussy jizz. Note my dirty language. Metro sexuality (bearded homosexuality) only drives women closer to me when they realize the sharp dressed man is more interested in fashion and general dunce activity like sports talk with his “buddies” than he is into her. Which is a tactic to appear adult but it’s as infantile as it gets. Keep up the good work beta fag hags! D3 = T = Play = Sex

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