How to Be A Quintessential Gentleman

By Patrick Banks

Posted 11 years agoGROWTH

Do you want to be like Don Draper or James Bond? Do you want to be appreciated by men and adored by women?

Become a Quintessential Gentleman!

Every man that wants to stand out needs to keep a few things in mind—these are the things that separate a quintessential gentleman from just another guy on the street.

Consider the following:

1. Punctuality

It’s always a good idea to be a little early when meeting a woman. If something unexpected comes up, you’ll have plenty of time make other arrangements if need be, and no woman wants to be kept waiting.

2. Having good manners and being considerate

It’s not all about you. Women want to be with a man that knows how women are to be treated. Don’t monopolize conversation and don’t get carried away with telling her about yourself—less is more. The important thing to remember is that this is the time to learn something about her likes and dislikes. Keep it simple but not too bland and be responsive to her answers—a quintessential man is always informed. Don’t be afraid to also take the lead and choose the restaurant and activities for your date—it will show her that you are not afraid to make decisions and also gives you a chance to subtly show her something of your unique personality.

3. Show her that you’re intelligent

Nowadays with text messages and tweets and etc., communication has become informal and abbreviated. Don’t let casual language or curse words seep into too much of your conversation. Show her that you are refined and have a sense of how to express yourself—a quintessential gentleman has the proper words for every occasion.

4. Make others feel comfortable and important

Everyone loves attention. Regardless of who you’re talking to, you want to leave them feeling that your interaction with them was rewarding. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and engage them about their interests and skills. It’s also a great way to network and increase your number of contacts.

5. Don’t be caught off guard when it comes to the weather

As with all things, the quintessential gentleman is informed, especially when it comes to the weather or other factors that might impact your night out. Being perceived as a responsible and caring individual goes a long way in acquiring the suaveness that being a gentleman requires.

6. Make sure she gets home safely

Gentlemen always make sure that a lady makes it back home safely after a date. Make sure you walk her home or get her a cab to her destination. Above all else don’t be creepy and try to invite yourself over—if she’s interested in bringing you in her home, she will invite you.

7. Be mindful of her needs

If you see that the lady you are with is freezing or that her outfit might not be keeping her adequately warm, offer her your jacket or to take her somewhere inside that is warmer. Women are able to spend many hours to preparing their outfits, but they’re often not necessarily practical. Always pay attention to her needs and the feedback she is giving you at any point in time—the quintessential gentleman is always attentive and responsive.

8. Always dress up appropriately for the situation

Unless your work requires you to wear a suit everyday, don’t. Invest in good quality, classic pieces in a variety of colors and patterns, so that you can always look your best without looking overdressed.

9.Expand your knowledge base

The art of conversation is essential to the budding gentleman. Being able to engage in intelligent conversation on a variety of topics makes you feel more confident and the ladies will definitely notice. Avoid difficult or controversial subjects and always remember to be an active and responsive listener—show others that you are interested in them and they will be interested in you as well.

10.Maintain perfect language

Modern man had to adapt his language for communication via short text messages, which definitely makes decreases the quality of our language. Read highbrow literature from time to time to maintain your language skills and learn a new word or two. Never curse in the presence of the lady.

11. Don’t be a jerk, pay the bill

When you go out on a first date, make sure you pay the bill. Don’t make a scene or make it seem like a big deal—it shouldn’t be—just calmly slide your card or cash to the waiter and say nothing of it. If she insists on paying next time, let her.

12. Be attentive

Chivalry shouldn’t necessarily be dead. It’s perfectly acceptable to open the door for her and to take her coat before she sits down. Paying her small compliments about her perfume or outfit is also not a bad idea—it should seem natural and effortless, not forced.

13. Wait for others to get their food before eating

If you’re out with a small group for a meal, the gentlemanly thing to do is to wait for everyone to get their food before taking the first bite. Remember to take small bites, it’ll help you pace yourself, extending your meal while leaving you open to participate in any ongoing conversation.

14. On the sidewalk, walk on the street side

The side you take while walking with women is important. When talking on a sidewalk, the man should take the street side. The origins of this principle dates back quite far, when men aimed to protect women’s dresses and bodies from passing carriages that could splash the lady with street much. Today vehicles have changed, but the risk still exists.

About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.

One thought on “How to Be A Quintessential Gentleman

  1. you’re advice are so great thank you,already some of them are being used by me since life’s nothing more than gentle,kindful actions to every aspect of it!! My greetings to you,and a giantic hug!

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