Are you looking for a way to get girls’ numbers on Tinder?
Maybe you’ve been chatting with some women lately and you want to get their number to have a more private conversation.
Nothing’s smarter than this.
In fact, if you keep talking to girls only on Tinder you can lose a lot of potential dates. That’s because Tinder is full of men and girls are hit up by dozens of them every week.
To differentiate yourself from the competition is necessary to level up your game and start hunting like a pro.
Many men try to find ways to get a girl’s number on Tinder. Some of them by being shameless and asking for it straight out of the gate.
Other men try sending a follow-up message after a date to get her number.
So, what’s the best strategy? Keep reading.
She Gave Me Her Number But…
Back in 2019, I was a single man looking for my next partner online.
During one cold winter night, I had matched with a girl on Tinder that seemed interested in me from the very beginning.
Alice (her name) and I spoke for less than 10 minutes until she decided to give me her number, after a few lines.
I was surprised and happy at the same time because I felt closer to having conquered her.
This had changed my behavior with her, letting me reveal to her that she had been too fast with me.
That was a mistake.
Seeing my reaction, where I explicitly told her she was fast in giving me her number, she was annoyed by my assumptions on her.
That’s when she proposed to me to talk via email.
Can you imagine that? It was a lengthy process, however, I eventually had managed to set a date with her.
On the date, she remarked that she didn’t like the prejudice I had over her since she gave me her number fast.
That’s when I learned one important lesson about girls: never judge them.
In the next section, you’re going to learn how to get a girls’ number on Tinder without making the most common mistakes men make.
Tip #1: Take it Easy
To get a girl’s number on Tinder, you must show that your intentions are not just about hooking up.
I know this might sound counterintuitive but that’s how girls’ brains work. If they see that you’re too hungry to get in between their legs, then your success chances will be highly impaired.
There are many principles you can follow to smoothly take a girls’ number on Tinder:
- Use emoticons to establish common ground at the beginning of the conversation.
- Ask questions that are open-ended and invite them to talk more about themselves.
- Share some of your story and personal information with them for them to feel closer to you.
- Show your vulnerability by sharing a negative experience or mentioning something that you’re insecure about, but do it in a way that doesn’t make it seem like an attack on them.
Try those tips and see how things will change for the better.
Tip #2: Use Scientific Persuasion
As Robert Giardini, an American psychologist and best seller author discovered, it’s essential that to improve your persuasion success, you must provide a reason after making a request.
It has been seen (by his experiments) that by doing this, the compliance rate goes to the roof.
This occurs both in business and in personal relationships, as well as on Tinder.
How can you apply these tips to increase your chances of getting a girl’s number on Tinder?
Ask a girl for her number and then tell her why you want to get her number. In practice, give her a reason to justify your request.
The most common reason you can use is telling the girl that your Tinder is very busy as you have lots of chats open and you might miss hers.
That way you do two smart moves in one.
1: First of all, this shows her that you have a lot of things going on in your Tinder and that you’re not a desperate and needy guy.
2: Secondly, you let her know that you don’t just want her number because you want to sleep with her. That will take lots of the pressure off her and make you look less intimidating.
When I started practicing this, I noticed that girls were more open to my next moves when they saw I wasn’t in a rush.
That’s why this simple move you’ll gain value in her eyes while increasing the chances of getting a girl’s number on Tinder.
Tip #3: Set Up a Date Beforehand
Many men focus on getting the girls’ number as the sole purpose of their conversation. However, if you think about it that’s not the real objective a man has with a girl.
So why focus on actively getting her number when you can get it indirectly?
After all, the worst mistake that guys make is expecting a girl to give them her number after just one chat.
The truth is that she will not give it to you if she doesn’t feel that there is anything more than what she is getting through the chat.
That’s why you should ask for a girls’ number when you already set a date with her and she’s warmed up.
If you can create a promise of a good date with a girl, she will be in a much more comfortable state to leave you her number.
Because she can already taste how the live experience with you is going to be. In a few words, she’s going to create a movie in her mind of pleasurable moments with you.
If you’re able to let her do this, she might ask you to give her your number as it often happens to me.
If you want to get a girl’s number on Tinder like a pro, that’s your way to go!
Getting a girl’s number on Tinder is easy if you know the right way to do it. Always remember to take things slowly because that’s the key to success with girls as things need to blossom like a flower.
Which tip did you like the most?
Dating is a lot more different that it used to be before social media existed. Fair to say the reality is that there is never been a better time to date.
But let’s face it! Many people cannot seem to really understand the rules of this game and they just don’t know how to fit in.
Finding a match in Tinder is actually not “a match” if you fail to get a realistic outcome from it. In other words, why would you call a match if you never manage to get her number or go on a date.
By now, we’re sure you’ve gone through a dozen of stupid websites which try to sell you the same superficial advice even claiming to be scientifically proved. As a result, you may have ended up hopeless about your dating life. Admit it, at some point in our lives many of us very in pretty much the same situation.
Now let’s leave the science behind for a while because in the end it is just a matter of simple principles which we have been avoiding all the time (uncounsciously indeed).