Dating is a lot more different that it used to be before social media existed. Fair to say the reality is that there is never been a better time to date.
But let’s face it! Many people cannot seem to really understand the rules of this game and they just don’t know how to fit in.
Finding a match in Tinder is actually not “a match” if you fail to get a realistic outcome from it. In other words, why would you call a match if you never manage to get her number or go on a date.
By now, we’re sure you’ve gone through a dozen of stupid websites which try to sell you the same superficial advice even claiming to be scientifically proved. As a result, you may have ended up hopeless about your dating life. Admit it, at some point in our lives many of us very in pretty much the same situation.
Now let’s leave the science behind for a while because in the end it is just a matter of simple principles which we have been avoiding all the time (uncounsciously indeed).
My friend of mine discovered Tinder a few months ago. He is a good looking and socially confident 23 years old guy very busy running after his career as an entrepreneur. Be it a stupid excuse or not he was not going to spend time around going to pick girls out there. Social media would give him enough time for both his career and his dating life. So he sat down, did a little research and found out when is the best to use Tinder Boost.
At the beginning he was so excited because it seemed to him that the whole thing was so simple. “Swipe left and right is all it takes” he would proudly assert. Little did he know that social media apps are not all about finding each other online and exchanging few messages before moving into separated ways.
Soon he started to complain that finding “a match” was not really that straightforward as he thought it would. He would easily and confidently set the basis of good a conversation which ultimately led nowhere. At the maximum he would stay engaged for two days then the other person would move away. The worst part of it was that he didn’t have a clue where was the problem.
If you have been caught in a similar situation you surely need some helps. You would be surprised if you were told that all you have been missing were a few simple tips all the time and if you start applying them you’ll see instant results.
Starting from now on, follow these tips explained below to get any girl’s number on Tinder.
Keep it simple
Sounds like a no-brainer, but it is actually a point at which many fail to do it at all. Keep in mind that in the end you’re communicating with a human being who is not interested to hear your bullshit in the first place.
You have to engage in a fun conversation which aims to spark some initial emotional bits upon which further contact can be achieved. But how do you go with the flow?
Sounds like a no-brainer, but it is actually a point at which many fail to do it at all. Keep in mind that in the end you’re communicating with a human being who is not interested to hear your bullshit in the first place. You have to engage in a fun conversation which aims to spark some initial emotional bits upon which further contact can be achieved. But how do you go with the flow?
First and foremost don’t try to show off at any cost. My friend was so addicted to his career that he would always make it the center of the conversation. He would start talking about his entrepreneurial skills while the other persons was clearly tired of his boring stories going like “Woww nice” , “Oh good”, “good for you” and phrases like this.
Girl: Well done
Boy: Yeah, we’re working hard to expand our business and reach more clients. We’re actually in a good track cause earnings are climbing high
Boy: It’s like I barely find time for a drink on Friday nights. Go hard or go home, you know? hahaha
In turn, girls get annoyed and clearly think of you as an egoist or an individual with low self-confidence who is desperate to talk about his professional abilities. In addition, you’ll be perceived as a weirdo. Thus, if you’re doing the same to feel the girl attracted to you stop right now, because you’re only ruin your chances.
Don’t be the guy who has always has something to say. If you disagree with everything she says her mind will tell her you’re definitely the one to on date with. And most importantly be hilarious. Casual jokes don’t just make the conversation funny but they also show a lot about your intelligence.
Lastly don’t change topic just because you don’t like her stuff. For instance, if she talks about a movie which you don’t like at all, admit it but let her know you’re getting her point as why she likes it.
When my friend realized that he wouldn’t get anywhere by constantly talking about how passionate he is about his future business he decided to cut his urge in half. He would not anymore make efforts to engage in a friendly conversation and would immediately ask for a date. He missed his shot once again. In social media you cannot act like in a real life where you pick up a girl and go like “Hey how you doing? My name is John. Can I have your number?”.
Surely, genuine relationships are not built on Tinder but a proper conversation can definitely set the basis for one. Rushing goes against this. A girl knows what your ultimate goal is if you send her message but she’s not looking for someone who’s thinking of her as an easy target. So you gotta play the game smart and make it more interesting.
What can kill interest more than monotony? Absolutely nothing. Life would not be wonderful even all we have are happy moments. There must be other emotional experiences. Many relevant researchers in psychology have revealed that girls love men who can make them feel both ends of emotional experiences. They even use a sinusoidal pattern in math to describe this.
To be able to get a girl’s number on Tinder you must induce this emotional pattern. You can do it if you talk about different topics with each having a different emotional context. For example, at one moment you can tell her about how much you enjoy walking by sea during sunsets, while later on you can talk about boring moments you have during your job. She will gain trust and see you as more interesting.
Don’t agree with everything
A team of researchers at the University of Bristol in UK has conducted an experiment to reveal what role does agreement and disagreement plays in the first date. It was found that if you initially start disagreeing with almost everything that the other person says then later on start to agree it sends a signal to their brain that they had an effect on you, hence they see you as more attractive.
If you agree with everything a girl says on Tinder you risk of being labeled as a person without personal opinions and lack of attitude. Don’t forget to be polite in the process.
Ask for little favors
Have you ever heard about Benjamin Franklin effect in psychology? As you might easily guess it is named after the famous American politician and scientist, Benjamin Franklin which used it often to defeat his political opponents though it was known for long time ago.
In principle if you ask someone to do something for you then their brain would unconsciously think they might like you as long as they make effort of responding to favors you had requested. It does mean you have to ask the girl to do the impossible for you, little favors would be great as well.
For example, you can tell her you want to watch a movie to boost your mood but have no idea about what movie to pick so she might give any suggestion. When she tries to find one to suggest her neurons will set on fire and instantly you’ll appear more endearing.
Make Your Shot
After you have gone through all steps explained above and you have received clear signs that the girl is into you it is time you to make your move and ask for her number. Given below are some signs that she’s ready to do that.
She replies within seconds (eventually a few minutes)
She uses a lot of emojis (not everyone would take their time to seek the right emoji)
She makes a lot of questions (it indicates a high rate of interest)
She sends long messages (phrases like “OK”, “Oh nice”, “Got it”, “ofc” “idk” are a clear sign she’s not into you)
She likes your jokes