How to Talk to Older Girls Online: What Other Men Say In Their First Message (Infographic)

By Patrick Banks

Posted 4 years agoDATING

The first message you send to a woman when dating online is critical to your success. If the first message you send doesn’t get her attention the odds are even worse if you decide to try again. You need to be able to get her interested and stick out from the crowd.

Attractive women are bombarded by messages from men from the moment they first sign on to their online dating site of choice. It is common for them to receive dozens or hundreds of messages a day without ever having to send a message themselves. As a man you need to realize this fact and craft your initial message appropriately.

Wouldn’t it be great to have a better understanding of how the other men competing for the attention of women online are communicating? Fortunately for you, we felt the same way and spent months collecting thousands of initial messages sent to women on various popular dating websites across the country. We read through and analyzed every single message to create the infographic below.

The vast majority of men do not put a lot of effort into their messages and it shows. Most messages we analyzed were bland, boring, and uninspiring to the point that even if a woman wanted to respond she would have to do a lot of work on her part to get an actual conversation started. You need to make it much easier than that if you want to get good results.

As you read through the infographic think about how your messages compare to what the majority of there men are doing. Are you just like all of the other guys messaging her every day or are you actually standing out from the crowd. Are you giving her absolutely nothing to work with by simply saying “Hi” (like a third of men out there) or are you making it easy for her to respond by asking her a question or making a comment worth responding to.

An interesting message that makes it easy for a woman to reply is a fantastic way to make it over biggest roadblock for men dating online and actually prompt a woman to respond to your initial messages. You probably won’t be able to get every woman to respond but a well crafted message that can stand out from the masses will drastically improve your results. 


About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.

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