So you met a stunning woman at a party the other night. You exchanged numbers and everything went along wonderfully. You exchanged numbers as you casually mentioned ‘I’ll text you sometime’. You walked away with a spring in your step, excited and eager to hear from this girl. After that point however, what do you do? I’ve noticed that many guys nowadays are wondering just what to do on a first date?
First, I wanna say something that’s going to make you wanna slap me; I havnt had a bad date in almost 5 years.
Why? Because I know exactly what to do on a first date! It isn’t some big stressful event in which I have to cancel everything, mentally prepare myself for ‘the big night’ – it’s actually the opposite of that. I’m SO relaxed on my dates it feels like I’ve known these women for years. So how should you go about it?
Okay, let’s get something clear here; Kill the dinner and date. Just stop that shit right now.
I personally love watching movies, and eating dinner is my favourite time of the day, and yes I’ve done both of those with women, often in the same night. But the problem with it is that most men use it as their default date. It’s like standard operating procedure. It’s drab, boring, predictable and in no way different.
Look, when a woman agrees to go on a date with you, it is because she is interested in you. Maybe you didn’t understand this sentence properly; When a woman goes on a date with a man, she is interested in understanding his reality – she wants to play around in the context of you. Does she get to truly experience you at dinner and then a movie? I’m venturing to guess that no, no she doesn’t.
So what to do on a first date that will allow her to experience you? Simple; Do what you love. Stop stressing out about your perfect date, and for God’s sake don’t cancel other plans just because a woman agreed to meet with you. I have a rule; I am always on an adventure, and she is always invited.
That’s it! It means that you need to focus on developing a massively interesting life – not for her but because life should be lived that way! And the next logical step is to just invite her along.
You want examples of what to do on a first date dont you? I currently live in Warsaw, Poland. I wanted to walk around the old city, so I invited a beautiful Lithuanian girl to join me. We met up, walked around, got lost in an alleyway and ended up stumbling upon a hidden garden surrounded by a medieval-type fence. It was a super cool place, so I sat her down and got to know her. What an amazing night!
When I was living in Spain, I would walk up to the old Arabic castle with girls, grab a glass of wine and look out at the sea – that was our adventure. In Canada, one of the best dates I’ve ever had was picking up a girl from the bus stop, doing groceries and cooking together.
Dates like these are simple, and they allow her to experience you! She wants to become a part of your world. I would actually say that what’s most important is for you to decide if she can be a part of your world! I love women that are outgoing and adventurous, which is why my dates are the way they are – nothing formal.
What to do on a first date should never stress you out. It should be fun, wild, exciting! So stop worrying so much, and for the love of God stop taking women to dinner and a movie. Instead, invite her to be a part of your next exciting adventure and watch how your life begins to fill up with amazing, beautiful, passionate women.
To your success,