Let’s face it. Sex in and of itself is pretty great, any way you look at it. But there’s just something about the kind of sex that clearly sent your partner to the moon and back that can’t be paralleled. That said, you’re not alone in wishing you knew how to have that effect on all of your partners every time you have sex.
So many guys think the key to that is becoming a total sex master between the sheets. But the fact of the matter is you already know how to have sex. You’ve heard all the tips and tricks a million times. What you need to do next is master the fine art of truly connecting with a woman in bed. Here are some tips to get you started in the right direction.
Go down on her
To be fair, not every woman thinks of oral sex as the be-all and end-all when it comes to her sexual connection with a man. But the vast majority of them consider it a must, so a man who either doesn’t know what he’s doing down there or won’t go down on them at all already has a black mark against him.
So, it’s officially time to get excited about going down on your female partners. Learn your way around her anatomy and develop an instinct for intuiting what individual women like. It’s one of the surest ways to rock her world and ensure she has a fantastic time between the sheets with you.
Work on your physique
Don’t worry. This tip isn’t what it probably sounds like. No one’s about to tell you that you need to morph into a perfectly chiseled, six-foot-plus Adonis to be what women want in bed. But it’s important to remember that sex is physical activity – a form of exercise. Like any physical activity, you’re just plain better at it when you’re in decent shape.
So, if you’ve been looking for some incentive to get serious about your workout routine, consider this it. Regular workouts help you build strength, stamina, and flexibility – all things that make a huge difference in a man’s performance between the sheets. And the way getting fit will make you feel about yourself will send your confidence and body image soaring through the roof, too, and women find that extremely attractive.
Take your time
Most men realize that women are different when it comes to getting turned on and ready to get down to business. However, they still manage to miss the boat a lot of the time. Not only does it take the average woman longer to be ready to be penetrated or otherwise move away from foreplay, but a lot of what turns her on is emotional and mental in nature.
So definitely take your time, but spend that time slowly exploring every inch of her body and enjoying every minute of it. Look into her eyes, and savor the act of breathing her in. Kiss her, touch her, and – if she’s into it – try a little low-key dirty talk. The more turned on she is when you finally do the deed, the more likely it is to be one of those experiences that has her practically levitating off of the bed.
Ask her what she likes
If you’ve been in a long-term relationship for a while, then you probably already have a pretty good idea of what your partner likes. But if you’re in a new relationship or a casual sex enthusiast who’s with lots of new partners on a regular basis, then the quickest way to Pleasure Town is to simply ask her what she likes and wants. If she say she loves being fingered, fingering like a pro is a great way to rock her world.
Don’t worry. You don’t have to be clinical about it or turn it into a job interview. Make it sexy by telling her you want to make her feel good and asking her what she’d like you to do to her. Then lean into the conversation that follows. So many guys think they should get to decide for a woman what she should like, and most never bother to ask, so just doing that will set you apart in a good way.
Be open to toys
If there’s one thing that can easily elevate sex for both of you in an instant, it’s a good sex toy. Options like bullet vibrators, vibrating penis rings, and the like are easy to integrate into any type of sex play that’s on the menu for the evening. And they take away some of the pressure to have an orgasm on her end or give one on yours, so you’re free to just concentrate on each other.
It’s no secret that toys are one of the surest ways to ensure a woman enjoys herself in the bedroom, but many men are too insecure to give them a try. So, consider setting yourself apart in that way. She’ll love you for it and is sure to have an amazing time with you in bed, too.