10 Surprising Ways How Sex Affects Your Brain

By Bruce Wilkinson•Posted 3 weeks ago•SEX

We all love sex, don’t we? We know how it’s done and most of us do it quite frequently. However, have you wondered what kind of effect sex can have on your mind and your mental health? You might t

How to Boost Your Sex Life With Natural Aphrodisiacs: Foods and SpanishFly

By Gerard Paul•Posted 3 weeks ago•SEX

Science – and experience – has shown that things like red wine and chocolate interact with your body (and your partner's!) in ways that prime you for sex.

Male/Female Equality: Discussing the Stigma Behind Women Watching Porn

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 months ago•SEX

Times have changed and more women are becoming open with their sexuality, from watching porn to pleasuring themselves and having multiple sexual partners. Yet, there is still a stigma surrounding fema

How To Be More Masculine: Zen Techniques To Increase Your Male Sexual Energy

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 months ago•SEX

In today’s world, it’s easy to be overindulgent. With food and drink, with materials objects, with external stimulation, but one thing that’s rarely talked about is being overindulgent in sexual

How to Quit Porn Addiction and What Does NOFAP Mean

By Thomas•Posted 2 months ago•SEX

There is nothing wrong with turning up the heat in the bedroom by watching some erotic scenes. The problem begins when you spend more time watching porn than maintaining real human relationships.

How to Make Her Squirt and Release Her Goddess Juices Out

By Sarah Williams•Posted 3 months ago•SEX

Look - any “sexual guru” who tells you every single girl can squirt is flat out lying to you. You are about to be sold “snake oil” from a “snake oil salesman” about 100% of the time. There

How To Increase Libido: 9 Foods That Boost Libido Instantly

By Gabriello Gianni•Posted 4 months ago•SEX

We’ve all been in the awkward situation of getting to a climax point with a new lady and nothing happens.

How to Cure Erectile Dysfunction Naturally, Without Drugs – 12 Proven Ways

By Patrick Banks•Posted 7 months ago•SEX

Erectile dysfunction (‘ED‘) can shatter a man’s confidence to pieces. It can ruin his self-worth and turn his world upside down. But even worse, it can also ruin relationships and families.

Want to Give Her Sex She Will Never Forget? Make Her Peg You

By Laura Varnishe•Posted 7 months ago•SEX

Quick Survey: The hottest sexual trend of 2015 was: 1 – Facesitting. 2 – Squirting. 3 – Gender-neutral sex toys. Okay, I have no idea, leave a comment with what you think it was last year and is

Is She Faking An Orgasm? How To Make Her Come for Real

By Brian Adam•Posted 8 months ago•SEX

Sex is a natural act that is practised by millions of people. Some people prefer to have sex with one particular partner that they are in a relationship with, while other individuals do not prefer to

How Effective Are Condoms, How to Put a Condom and The 6 Most Ridiculous Reasons Guys Aren’t Using Them

By David Beeshaw•Posted 8 months ago•SEX

Let's get one thing clear: nobody likes condoms. They smell and feel weird. They're basically a pain in the ass. But consider this: Pregnancy or herpes are an even greater pain in the ass.

How To Talk Dirty To A Girl Over Text – Ready to Use Sexting Examples

By Patrick Banks•Posted 9 months ago•SEX

Sexting is an art itself that is astonishingly simple but woefully frequent to get it wrong. Millions of men are scratching their heads when their partner is put off by some a move they made while sex

BDSM for Beginners: How To Do Bondage & Discipline To Spice Up Your Sex Life

By Elizabeth Morris•Posted 10 months ago•SEX

Since the arrival of the infamous Fifty Shades of Grey series, we have been witness to a huge surge of interest in all things bondage. E.L. James as the author can be credited with not only coming fro

The Surprising Time Your Sex Life Will Regain That Spark

By Patrick Banks•Posted 11 months ago•SEX

Relationships tend to develop in phases and like everything else, the most exciting phase is the first one. You may have found yourself excited at the prospect of getting intimate with someone for the

How to Make A Woman Orgasm In Under 5 Minutes

By David Carreras•Posted 12 months ago•SEX

How to make a woman orgasm? Dr. Phil says it takes a woman 14 minutes to have an orgasm… well I feel bad for Dr. Phil.  Thing is, he’s not alone with this number… I’ve seen numerous sources s

How to Understand Her Feelings and Build Emotional Intimacy in a Relationship

By Patrick Banks•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

Oftentimes tensions in a relationship are caused not by luck of feelings, but simple misunderstandings. Emotional intimacy refers to the processes used to build deeper, meaningful connections with som

6 Ways To Last Longer In Bed Without Any Pills

By Patrick Banks•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

We’ve all been there. You may have met her that night. You may be on your fourth date with her. Either way, she ends up back in your bed. Clothes start to fly off. You both know exactly what’s abo

How To Be Better In Bed as a Man: 5 Solutions to Become a Great Lover

By Sarah Williams•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

Maybe it’s the porn. I hear this everywhere; men watch too much porn. And this indulgence makes them less equated to deal with a real woman. I don’t know if this is true or not.

Nofap 101: Why Men Are Quitting Porn and Masturbation Altogether

By Jon Anthony•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

You may or may not have noticed that thousands of men have announced they're doing "Nofap November" on social media this month.

9 Reasons Why Women Lose Interest In Sex

By Belinda Andreson•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

You may be wondering why your wife or girlfriend loses interest in being intimate with you. You might have thought that she doesn't love you any more or that she already lost interest in you and your

Top 7 Sexting Mistakes Men Are Making

By Brooke Whistance•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

How to Perform Longer in Bed Using Sex Toys

By Patrick Banks•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

It is always a goal for most of the men: Be “Good in bed.” Satisfy your partner by the longer performance, and be able to give them what they wanted.

10 Hot Ways to Keep the Romance Alive

By Patrick Banks•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

Keep your relationship exciting and the spark burning with these 10 hot ways to keep the romance alive that she will love.

A Beginner’s Guide to Butt Plugs and How to Use Them

By Patrick Banks•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

The impact that both the mind and body can have on each other is marvelous when observed in daily life. Sex is one such example of a process that shows the impact of mind and body on each other. Physi

How CBD Affects Your Libido and Sex Life

By Joe Labonte•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

Many people are thinking more and more about how to take CBD oil. Recent surveys have shown participants to report an overall dramatic increase in libido and better sex life when receiving this substa

How to Increase Libido Through Diet and Exercise

By Gabriello Gianni•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

We’ve all been in the awkward situation of getting to a climax point with a new lady and nothing happens.

How to Become a Better Lover: Ayurvedic Medicines for Mindblowing Lovemaking

By Dr. Rajesh Nair•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

You may have heard of Kama Sutra - an ancient Indian guide on sexuality. The way ahead of time Sanskrit written text was followed later with multiple sculptures, carvings and painted depictions of it

Hook Up Apps: How to Hook Up Online And Is It Really Always OK?

By Patrick Banks•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

It’s no secret that the 20 something generation is inadequate when it comes to romantic relationships. And I can’t say whether I’m for or against this new hook-up culture. Let’s examine them b

What Is The Difference between Hookup Expert and Online Dating

By Patrick Banks•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

Hookup experts dating is becoming as popular as a means of conference singles for all those people that not wish to waste period and profit single's pubs every weekend break.

How Cooking Can Spice Up Your Sex Life Amid Quarantine

By Patrick Banks•Posted 1 year ago•SEX

The quarantine thanks to the outbreak of COVID-19 has changed almost every aspect of most people’s lives. From working at home to changing how much time and how we interact with our significant othe

What Are Tongkat Ali Benefits For Males? – Uses, Advantages, and Side Effects

By Alex Eriksson•Posted 2 years ago•HEALTH

Meet the mighty stick of Ali Tongkat Ali (literally “Ali’s walking stick”), also called Malaysian ginseng, is a tall shrub that’s cultivated and widely used all around Southeast Asia. It’s e

Top 7 Habits That Can Kill Your Sex Life in a Relationship and How To Regain The Spark

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

One primary thing that can bring in a sense of dissatisfaction in a love relationship is the lack of or the absence of sex, especially if you are together for a long time. After all, how many times yo

How to Have Sex With a Girl On The First Night (And Why Is It Better To Wait)

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

You meet a girl on a night out, you’re laughing, having fun, she’s touching you a bit and you are really hoping this will lead somewhere further than a kiss on the cheek. But after a while of flir

HGH Can Make Your Penis Bigger: True or Myth

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

Studies show men are more concerned about the size of the penis than women. However, penis size has little to do with one’s sexual ability and other masculine features. Other than the physical trait

8 Reasons Not Having Sex on a First Date is Better

By Tracey Anne•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

Sex. Sex on a first meeting can be really hot, passionate, sexy and hormone filled, even though research shows that sex is more enjoyable when in a long-term relationship. As Dr Sue Johnson discusses

‘How To Make My Wife Horny?’ – 21 Tips to Understand The Nuances of Her Sexuality

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

Does your wife not want sex with you anymore? Can you not encourage her to make love to you? Do you feel that whenever you finally get some action in bed, you have to “force her” to do it? Change

How to Stay Hard Longer Without Coming: Natural Remedies to Last Longer In Bed

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

Premature ejaculation is a very common sexual concern. You might think you are alone, but as many as 1 in 3 men suffer from the condition. It can lead to anxiety, embarrassment, and avoidance of sex.

Is SpanishFly Too Good to Be True? What is SpanishFly and How It Can Help Your Relationship

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

You must have heard about Spanish Fly! It's a natural libido enhancer that promises to increase your sexual drive for great lovemaking. Its use dates way back to ancient times when Roman gladiators wh

CBD and Sex: Could CBD Spark up Your Sex Life?

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

Can CBD make sex better or increase your libido? Explore the link between CBD and sex here, and find out if CBD could be a solution for your bedroom woes.

How to Get Laid: The Ultimate Guide For Modern Men

By Jon Anthony•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

Everyone wants to get laid. Whether you’re a young man in college, or a 50-year-old man fresh out of a divorce, it’s a question that all men ask: “How do I get laid?” Well, to be honest, it�

Sexsomnia: Here’s What We Know About Sleep Masturbation

By Kathy Mitchell•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

Along with regularly participating in physical exercises and eating healthy foods, sleep is considered an essential part of living a healthy life. It is recommended only to obtain a certain amount of

How to Increase Excitement in Female: 23 Reasons Why a Woman May Suddenly Want to Have Sex

By Roy Emmerson•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

With a stranger. Sober. Or almost sober. Voluntarily and unexpectedly for themselves! And this is not my fantasies, but the fruits of sexologists' research. It's just, sometimes this coincidence of ci

Signs of STD in Men: How to Know If You Have an STD

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

Are you concerned about your sex life and worried about contracting infections? The term STD or Sexually Transmitted Disease refers to a medical condition that passes from a single individual to the n

My Girlfriend Cheated on Me. Should I Leave her?

By Patrick Banks•Posted 2 years ago•SEX

Your girlfriend seemed to be everything you ever wanted in a girl: Beautiful. Smiling. Caring. Smart. Faithful... At least that’s what you thought before you discovered that she was cheating on you.

Why I Don’t Feel Like Having Sex? 11 Secret Libido Killers Revealed

By Patrick Banks•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

If your sex drive is different than that of your partner, it is really hard to deal with the situation. There is definitely no specific number of times you should have sex every single week but whenev

12 Ways How Seemingly Irrelated Lifestyle Choices Can Contribute to Male Infertility

By Patrick Banks•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

More studies are being conducted in the effort to try and better understand male fertility in general, but more specifically, to isolate the reasons why this is happening and what, if anything, can be

What to Do When You’re Attracted to Your Wife’s Hot Friend  

By Rachael Pace•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

  When you find yourself attracted to your wife’s friend, usually men have one of two reactions. The first reaction is to shrug it off. You noticed an attractive girl. So what? You’re

What to Do When You Can’t Fall Asleep Next to Your Partner

By Patrick Banks•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

Sleep is an essential function that helps us get ready for our daily activities. Our body and brain need time to regenerate, repair, and re-establish their own homeostasis (calorie supply, temperature

How a Mattress Can Destroy Your Sex Life

By Patrick Banks•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

Human beings are known to be extremely adventurous in their sex lives from the positions they attempt to the new places they set out to be intimate, and it leaves a lot to be desired. The one thing th

How to Be More Confident in Bed as a Man

By Patrick Banks•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

A modern man has to deal with ostentatiously sexual content all the time. Pictures of handsome, athletic, half naked men are shown in mainstream magazines and street billboards in every city.

5 Reasons Why the State of Sex Education in the United States Sucks

By Patrick Banks•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

The Sex Ed Crisis The United States is a country that sets precedence in many fields. In the field of technology, for example, the country’s Silicon Valley is a worldwide phenomenon. With its new in

First Time Sex: 9 Effective Tips You Should Know Before You Do It

By Peter Hill•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

I remember that day, very clearly. The day I lost my virginity. It was a prom night and was totally pre-planned between myself and my girlfriend whom I thought at that time would eventually be my wife

How to Shave THERE: 10 Considerations to Shave Your Junk Like a Pro

By Patrick Banks•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

The social awkwardness of admitting you shave your man-parts has dissipated in recent years. Several contributing factors have helped to remove the stigma, including social media and Youtube. There ar

Early Morning Sex, a Quicky in the Kitchen, Goodnight Naughty Games… How to Have More Sex in Marriage

By Rachael Pace•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

You and your partner have been having crazy sex. You’ve done it everywhere from your bed to the bathroom at the club. When it comes to your sex life, you’ve hit the jackpot. Then suddenly your wil

Does over-working in the office impact your sexual life?

By Poonam Yadav•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

Growing number of population is suffering from low libido (lack of sexual urge) because they are stressed with too much work. Do you remember the time when your relationship was so sensual and passion

How to Have More Sex: The Top 5 Sleep Positions that Lead to Sex

By Stephanie Annon•Posted 3 years ago•SEX

So you’ve met a girl and you took her out on a date. Things are looking good and starting to get heated. You’ve covered bases 1 and 2 but you are ready to run home. Before you go spend $100 on ros

10 Sex Positions That Will Make You Boost Your Intimacy Levels

By Willo Conner•Posted 4 years ago•SEX

Sexual intimacy is a vital component of a healthy relationship. Intimacy allows you to have passion, get to know one another on a deeper level. It’s easy to assume sexual intimacy doesn’t matter a

How Quitting Smoking Can Change Your Sex & Dating Life

By Patrick Banks•Posted 4 years ago•SEX

How Sleep Apnea Can Wreck Your Sex Life and How to Change That

By Patrick Banks•Posted 4 years ago•SEX

More often than not, snoring loudly at night is treated as a joke or something to be embarrassed about. In fact, some people have such a hard time trying to control their snoring or breathing when the

A Phone Sex Girl’s Guide to … Making a Cracking Good Omelette!

By Sophie Reed•Posted 4 years ago•SEX

Let’s assume that you have met a girl and are in that strange, unknown territory that unfolds once you actually move beyond a one-night stand. Like most guys, you will now probably start to panic: h

9 Reasons Why Fit People Have Much Better Sex

By Cara Haley•Posted 4 years ago•SEX

Do you keep finding flaws in your body? Are you worried about getting completely naked in front of the partner of your choice? How confident are you about your sexual performance? If you have problems

Why This Female Hormone Is Killing Male Sexuality (and How To Fix It)

By Alex Eriksson•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

When you are talking about problems with male sexual health, you usually look at testosterone levels. Estrogen is a female hormone that’s associated with the growth of breasts and secondary sexual c

Enormous Dildos And Butt Plugs Found In 2,000-Year-Old Ancient Tombs

By Patrick Banks•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

If you thought today’s parties were wild, just wait ’til you hear how turnt the men and women of the Han Dynasty (206 BCE to 220 CE) got. During multiple excavations from 1995 to 2011, scientist

How To Deal With Premature Ejaculation Humiliation

By Patrick Banks•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

Though Premature Ejaculation is the most common male sexual problem, particularly among young men, it is not often discussed. We are constantly bombarded by overtly sexual imagery, and easy access to

17 Dirty Pick-Up Lines To Create Sexual Tension (or at least make her laugh)

By Patrick Banks•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

If we ask you about the most important component of the date, many of you will say ‘chemistry’. However, if we ask you to describe it, many would say something inconclusive and unhelpful; somethin

Premature Ejaculation: 6 Facts About The Most Common Sexual Complaint

By Patrick Banks•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

Every relationship has its challenges and it takes both parties to identify and deal with them. If you are in a sexual relationship, you can agree that communication is very important in making sure t

Men’s Guide to Buying Sexy Female Lingerie

By Patrick Banks•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

Buying lingerie for your sweetheart is one of those Catch 22 situations; on one hand, getting her something that’ll make her eyes pop with excitement will ensure you get a few hot all-nighters in th

Why Do Statues Always Have Small Penises?

By Patrick Banks•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

Most people have, at some point, seen a classical sculpture of a naked man. He was probably gigantic, with perfectly shaped abs, pecs, and glutes – and he probably had way more definition than t

3 Simple Techniques To Stop Being Jealous Of Your Girlfriend’s Sexual History

By Jeff Billings•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

Have you ever suffered from what’s known as “retroactive jealousy” in a relationship?  It’s just like normal jealousy except, rather than thinking about people your wife or girlfriend may sle

The Hidden Link Between Erectile Dysfunction and Heart Disease

By David Gomes•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

Erectile dysfunction is described as impotence, which means not having the ability to gain and keep an erection that is strong enough to perform sexual intercourse. There are numerous causes that invo

Top 4 Tips to Help Make Kegel Exercises a Habit

By David Gomes•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

One of the most common challenges that a lot of men and women face in equal measure is urinary incontinence. This is a very challenging issue that a lot of people will face and due to the sensitivity

This One Thing Guys Do Is Completely Ruining Your Chance To Satisfy Her

By Sarah Williams•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

If you’re wondering whether or not you satisfied your girl last night, let me help you out. You didn’t. A woman’s orgasm isn’t a secret, and it’s not something she wants to hide from you. If

Natural Male Enhancement: 7 Sexual Stamina Boosting Tips You Shouldn’t Miss

By David Gomes•Posted 5 years ago•SEX

A lot of people desire to last longer in bed so that they can help give their partners a great time in bed. This however is not possible with the real problem that is posed by early ejaculation which

Why Sex Is Not The Answer To Loneliness

By Kate Evans•Posted 6 years ago•SEX

The emotional toll of using sex to fill a void. Maybe you’re newly single and feeling uncomfortable without your ex partner, maybe you’ve been single for a long time and are needing validation of

How Yoga Can Boost Your Sexual Performance

By Patrick Banks•Posted 6 years ago•SEX

Yoga is a body practice that originates from India and has been done by many over thousands of years. It’s becoming extremely popular in the Western world as a tool for 

How to Increase Stamina in Bed and Build Up Endurance

By David Gomes•Posted 6 years ago•SEX

What happens in the bedroom is a touchy, private subject, especially because everyone wants to perform well. There’s a lot of pressure to impress, but sometimes that pressure is a double edged sword

Sexting Examples and Strategies: The Ultimate Guide to Master The art of Seductive Texting

By Patrick Roy•Posted 6 years ago•SEX

The definition of "sexting" is as confusing and problematic as the act of sexting itself. In fact, if you send an unsolicited picture of your junk to an unsuspecting sexting partner, you are not a sex

How to Safely Remove Pearly Penile Papules at Home

By Patrick Banks•Posted 6 years ago•SEX

The skin around the penis is delicate and prone to issues that may be a bit embarrassing for most men. This is why a lot of men who suffer from these issues don’t get the medical help they need. It

An Ultimate Guide to Put On And Use Condoms (Infographic)

By Elizabeth Morris•Posted 6 years ago•SEX

News that there was a marked increase in the recorded instances of sexually transmitted diseases such as Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea in the U.S. in the last few years will no doubt surprise some people.

5 Reasons You Want Her to Laugh During Sex. (Hint: Size Isn’t One of Them!)

By Scott Parman•Posted 6 years ago•SEX

We love sex.  We should, it’s a fantastic gift we can share with each other.  However, there’s a good chance you’re doing it wrong.  If you’re a child of today’s media culture

How to Overcome Psychological ED; Stop Sabotaging Your Game!

By David Carreras•Posted 6 years ago•SEX

Psychological ED, a sort of mental block to getting an erection, is a problem that has affected almost every man at least once in his life. If you’re lucky, you beat it, move on, and it never happen

7 Fifty Shades Of Grey Inspired Ways Of Having Sex

By Willo Conner•Posted 6 years ago•SEX

Christian Grey’s pleasure-pain dynamics of having sex are quite provoking to most people. If you have watched the movie, then there were things you saw that are beyond the imagination of most people

How to Please Any Woman in Bed by “Hacking” Her Brain

By Patrick Banks•Posted 7 years ago•SEX

Is sex is primarily involved with what’s your pants? Nope! The most powerful sexual organ is the brain. Orgasm begins and ends with the brain. When you climax, your brain provokes rhythmic muscl

How to Have Sex Dreams

By Sarah Williams•Posted 7 years ago•SEX

In the land of dreams, you can literally do anything you can imagine because your mind is the only boundary. You can train your real-life skills, understand yourself better, and fulfill your most secr

5 Controversial Truths about Female Sexuality

By Patrick Banks•Posted 7 years ago•SEX

The more I talk with guys about female sexuality, the more I realize that the majority of men have absolutely no clue about this topic. You can’t even imagine how many guys I had to listen to, who r

The 3 Deadly Causes of Premature Ejaculation

By Patrick Banks•Posted 7 years ago•SEX

Of all the problems in our world, premature ejaculation seems like a small, almost irrelevant issue. That is, until you are dealing with ejaculating much too soon personally. Then the issue of prematu

The Art of Giving a Sensual Massage

By Sarah Williams•Posted 7 years ago•SEX

A good sensual massage is a lot like good lovemaking. It connects two people in a relaxed and blissful (albeit horny) state. Done properly, a sensual massage brings both lovers together, even though o

The 3 Ways To Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety

By Patrick Banks•Posted 7 years ago•SEX

Let’s be honest about things here for a minute… If you’re bad in bed, you’re going to struggle keeping attractive women with options in your life. Basically, any woman you’d want to be with

Hooking Up Online Has Never Been Easier, But What’s The Stigma?

By Patrick Banks•Posted 7 years ago•SEX

It’s no secret that the 20 something generation is inadequate when it comes to romantic relationships. And I can’t say whether I’m for or against this new hook-up culture. Let’s examine them b

How To Prolong Sex In 17 Easy Steps

By Patrick Banks•Posted 8 years ago•SEX

Premature ejaculation is more common a problem among men than you may realize – about 30% of men suffer from it regularly. Needless to say, it’s an embarrassing problem. Although girls may take it

How To Pick Up Girls At A Club

By Sarah Williams•Posted 8 years ago•SEX

A Unique Female Perspective On The Pickup Game In the Nightclub The weekend is coming. You are going out with your friends to the club, hoping to get lucky. You will be having a lot of fun, all the be

4 Natural Methods To (really) Last Longer in Bed and the Myths of Premature Ejaculation

By Patrick Banks•Posted 8 years ago•SEX

Premature ejaculation is embarrassing. Even if you’re lucky enough to be with a partner that understands, I’m sure after hearing “it’s all right” a few times you felt that what she really wa