6 Tips to Boost Sexual Confidence In The Bedroom
A modern man has to deal with ostentatiously sexual content all the time. Pictures of handsome, athletic, half naked men are shown in mainstream magazines and street billboards in every city. Easy access to porn where every woman seems pleased by her partner in every sexual position can put even more insecurity into a man’s head when he is entering the bedroom with his lady. Sex is not taboo anymore.
Men feel pressure to have sex with only the most beautiful partners, and also to be confident, high performance lovers EVERYTIME. But what if you are just a regular guy that sometimes feels shy in the bed? Read how to boost your sexual confidence in the bedroom!
1. Stop overthinking
The bedroom is definitely not a place to overthink things. Women hate when a guy is overly logical, too controlling, and overly analytical. In bed, you should get in touch with your inner animal and follow your instincts. Forget about your fears and just do what you want. Don’t think “Should I kiss her there or somewhere else?”
Don’t ask too many questions. If you want to do something exciting in bed, do it and observe your partner’s reaction. Don’t be afraid of rejection. If she doesn’t want to try something, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t want sex. Relax and follow your sexual instincts – look, touch, hear, taste, and smell her.
2.Treat sex as a regular activity
You are not alone. A lot of guys, especially younger ones, get anxious when it comes to sex. They think they need to start acting differently, forgetting that sex is a normal activity that all people do like eating, laughing, or sleeping.
Don’t make a big deal out of it. It’s all about having fun and spending time with your partner. Comfortably progress from one step to the next, while acting like yourself. Act like everything is normal. Instead of seeing sex as the center of your universe, make it one of your goals. Make it a natural part of your relationship.
3. Play with her
During sex, going slower is usually better than too much, too fast. Delay gratification and build sexual tension to make her want you more and more. Tease her. You are more likely to turn her on this way. Stop for a while, lean back, and just relax. She will probably get even more turned on than she already is.
Make her ASK you for sex. “Please” is a great word — so teach her to use it. Stay cool and collected and you’ll make her CRAZY about you. I don’t have to add that a woman asking you to please her more will be a confidence booster.
4. Don’t compare yourself with anyone
When it comes to giving and receiving pleasure, it doesn’t really matter how you look, how old you are, how much money you make, how tall you are, or what you weigh. Once you’re in bed with a woman, it doesn’t really matter. How you make a woman feel depends on how you act.
If you want her to experience a mind-blowing intimate situation with you, forget about your hang-ups. Don’t think about her ex-lovers or male pornstars. Just be there and then, focus on her, and follow your instincts.
5. Exercise to feel better about your body
A well-maintained body, alive and vibrant, is one of your most reliable assets when it comes to sex. If you are fit, you won’t be as tired in bed, so you can please your partner more. Read How To Be Fit When You Are Busy.
6. Don’t idealize any woman
Be aware that women have even more pressure on their appearance, age, and weight than men. They often have a negative body image, so they can be insecure and shy. Most guys get fooled into believing that just because a woman is gorgeous, she’s also extremely confident and honest. When you accept the reality that people are people, a beautiful woman is just another person.
To make it easier for you to approach women, you have to take them off the pedestal you put them on. If she ends up in bed with you, what could be a bigger confidence booster? In order to satisfy her better and gain more sexual confidence, communicate with her. Learn what she likes and become the best lover she has ever had.
If a woman is naked with you in bed, what other proof of your attractiveness and manhood do you need? Stop overthinking and have fun!