However, all women have the inherent physical ability to ejaculate.
Some women are very comfortable with this. But some women have never even had an orgasm before, even with active sexual life. It is relatively easy to help a woman squirt, if she’s already orgasmic. However, a woman who has never had an orgasm will be a much greater challenge.
Still, making your partner squirt is quite possible. It’s actually fairly easy once you’ve gotten her to do it once. And, just like everything in life – practice makes perfect.
This One Thing Guys Do Is Completely Ruining Your Chance To Satisfy Her
If you’re wondering whether or not you satisfied your girl last night, let me help you out. You didn’t. A woman’s orgasm isn’t a secret, and it’s not something she wants to hide from you. If you have to ask her whether or not she came, most likely she didn’t.
So, the question becomes why not? Before you blame her- considering the fact that you’ve been working out five times a week, which means it must not have anything to do with your own physicality- take a step back.
A lack or loss of physical attraction isn’t the only thing stopping women from having an orgasm. There’s something men do that has affected our chance at satisfying women. And, until today, we had no idea we’re doing it.
There is an age-old stereotype, written by men, that assumes women are and should remain the more passive and weak members of a heterosexual relationship. Technically speaking, it’s called “Benevolent Sexism” and a recent study found that it might be ruining your sex life.
So, it has more to do with going to the gym than you’d like to believe.
When a woman accepts and internalizes this role, she ends up choosing dominant partners who hold the same ideals and tend to be more selfish in bed.
Women who reject these ideals tend to take more control in the bedroom, focusing on their own pleasure and have far more satisfying sex lives. Not only are they more likely to get into sexual mood, have greater orgasms but also they’re less likely to perceive you (their partner) as being selfish.
And this, in turn, will make her want to return the favor more willingly.
So, stop treating your girl like she’s a damsel in distress. Stop acting like your own sexual desires are more important than hers. Let your girl take the reigns for once.
Trust me, you’ll be happy you did it. When sex is good for your girl, it’s even better for you. When she is able to trust and desire you to squirt and release her juices out, it’s like a symphony of mutual joy!
But before you read how to make her squirt, let’s clarify:
What Is Squirting?
We’ve known for a long time that some women can produce notable amounts of liquid from their genitals – during sexual excitement or orgasm. Hippocrates and the Kama Sutra both reference female ‘semen’. Female ejaculation is perfectly normal, and research suggests that it may be common despite people rarely discussing it.
Squirting is female form of ejaculating from the vagina which can occur before, during, after, or even without orgasm. Many specialists view female ejaculation and squirting as distinctly different things.
Squirting fluid is usually colorless and odorless, released from female body in large quantities, whereas ejaculate fluid is typically thick and appears milky.
Immediately after climaxing, the body releases hormones prolactin and oxytocin which are known for:
- relieving stress
- boosting the immune system
- protecting against heart disease
- lowering blood pressure
IMPORTANT: Even though it’s a mind blowing experience with multiple health and relationship bonding qualities, some women simply may not want that.
The fact that you want her to squirt doesn’t mean that she is comfortable with that as well. Don’t be the dude who is putting expectations on his partner to suddenly produce Niagara Falls from her vagina. Each women is different, each women reacts differently.
- No expectations, please
Consent, trust and mutual understanding are the key to any sexual interaction, also in the case of mutual pleasure. Once you are on the same page with your partner you can head to our ultimate guide on how to make her squirt and release the sexual joy in the most pure, wet way.
Female sexuality is a complex subject and every sexual encounter take source from her brain. Helping a woman squirt and feel great in bed with you in general is more than just a bedroom technique. You need to be ready for what will happen. This means preparing your home and your body.
- Adore Your Sexual Goddess
For a woman to feel truly safe and sexually connected she needs to have a feeling of intimacy with her partner and feel good about her self.
You want a great sex tip? Treat your lover as a Goddess. Trust me it works. Appreciate her femininity, her curves or whatever keeps you attracted to her. Make her feel comfortable and adored. Great sex is to cherish each other best selves, it’s almost ceremonial.
- Sensual Environment
The environment matters as well. First, you need to clean your place. Keep things tidy! Women notice everything. She will notice if your place isn’t properly clean. This will not help her relax. Maybe you want to take a blanket and indulge each other somewhere in nature?? I would do that for example. Wild and pure, that are my things.
In case you stay in the house, you’ll want to be sure your place smells good. If your room is clean, then that’s a start. Add a vanilla smelling candle to increase her relaxation. Women tend to have a strong sense of smell. Don’t allow her nose to hurt your chances in bed.
You’ll also want to have a way to dim your lights. Most women don’t want to have sex with the lights on. However, you don’t want things pitch-black either. Try installing a light dimmer in your bedroom. Candles can also provide good, low lighting – if placed in the right areas of the room.
Music can also help a woman relax. You’ll want to put on some relaxing, sexual music. The key is to use music that a woman is familiar with, but not TOO familiar with. This way she won’t be singing the words in her head while you’re naked together. She’ll just enjoy the music.
Think classical music, ambient, smooth jazz, or something similar. Some women enjoy energetic rock music during sex, but you’ll have to find that out beforehand.
- The Art of Giving a Sensual Massage
Wondering how to make her squirt? Learn to touch her body first, and I don’t mean pussy.
A good sensual massage is a lot like good lovemaking. It connects two people in a relaxed and blissful (albeit horny) state. Done properly, a sensual massage brings both lovers together, even though only one feels the pleasure. However, that pleasure is almost always accompanied by sensual lovemaking or great sex. A win-win for all involved!
So, what exactly is a sensual massage? Well, it’s a massage that allows you to focus on your partner’s erogenous zones – to relieve stress, relax, and increase intimacy. The goal of the massage is to bring the two of you together; it is not to give her an orgasm. However, this does occasionally happen.
Giving a sensual massage brings another aspect of intimacy into your relationship, because it is non-sexual. This extra intimacy is even achieved if sex happens after the massage.
A sensual massage (also called a tantric massage) is a great way to bond with your partner. Just make sure you communicate before you begin. You’ll want to be on the same comfort level before your hands start exploring her body.
You don’t need to be a professional masseuse to give a great sensual massage. You just need to understand what to do and when to do it. While there are hundreds of different ways to give your partner a sensual massage, we’ll stick to the basics.
Here’s how to give a sensual massage to your girl before you make her squirt
One of the most important aspects of a successful sensual massage is setting everything up just right. If you don’t set things up properly, you partner won’t enjoy the massage as much.
Luckily, the set-up for a sensual massage is pretty simple. To begin, plan a time to have the massage. Tell your partner you want to give her a massage. (She’ll know you want sex after.) She won’t care, because she knows she’ll be horny after the massage.
Next, prepare your place. Clean your whole home, and clear your bedroom of any distractions. Actually make your bed and put down a blanket you wouldn’t mind having oil on.
Next, grab a few candles. You’ll want to light them right before she arrives. Try to get a candle with a relaxing scent, like vanilla. Grab an extra sheet and place it next to your bed.
You’ll want to incorporate music as well. The best massage music is slow and relaxing, but sensual. Try finding some slow, instrumental R & B, jazz, or blues (no vocals to distract her). Or, try downloading a sensual spa mix. This should be played at a soft volume.
The last part of the set-up is selecting an oil to use. You do not want to use lotion. Lotion can be cold and may bring a bit of tension to the body when applied. Lotions also absorb into the skin easily and need to be constantly reapplied. Oils, on the other hand, are warm and relaxing. Again, DO NOT USE LOTION.
There are a number of different types of oils to choose from. You’ll want to select an water-based oil. And, as many oils are derived from nuts, you’ll want to make sure your partner isn’t allergic. Here are some great oils to try:
You’ll want to experiment and see what works best for you. We’ve found the top three oils to be almond, apricot, and grape seed.
Once you have selected an oil, you need to prep it for the massage. 15 minutes before the message is to begin, place your massage oil in a warm bowl of water. This way it’ll feel pleasurable when it touches your partner’s skin.
Lastly, make sure to keep your oil near you at all times. It will be needed throughout the massage for continual lubrication.
Now, onto the good stuff…
Your place is all set up. Your girl has arrived. Now what?
Make pleasantries. Ensure that she’s relaxed and ready to enjoy a massage. Then have her strip down and lay on her stomach on the bed. Gently place the extra white sheet over her entire backside.
Begin by oiling up you own body. Make sure she can watch. Oil up your arms and chest. This will begin to arouse her.
Put a small amount of oil in your hands, and rub them together to warm everything up. Begin touching her body. Use smooth strokes to glide over her neck and shoulders. Caress her arms with your whole hand, moving up and down.
Don’t break contact with her body at any time. Move your hands over her body in a rhythmic and synchronized manner.
Each time you begin to explore a lower part of her body, slowly move the sheet back. This creates anticipation and is very sensual for her.
Let your body weight rest on her. Don’t try to use your arms for strength. Begin using deeper strokes. Press your chest lightly against her back. She’ll find the sensation of your skin brushing her back arousing. Kiss her softly on the jaw and neck.
Slowly come up and lick her lower back. Breathe warm air up and down her spine. Don’t forget – never let your hands break contact with her body. As your warm breath reaches her neck, begin to lightly kiss and nibble her ear.
Move back down and begin to slowly massage her bottom. Start softly, but gradually increase the pressure. Make sure her legs are slightly spread apart so you can reach her inner thighs. Begin to light skim the area with your hands as you breathe on her neck.
Ever so slightly, brush her vagina with the back of your hand as your massage her bottom and inner thighs.
Next, flip her on her back (ever so slowly), remembering to always stay in contact with her. Begin by massaging the front of her shoulders. Work your hands down her arms. Skim over her breasts. Touch them, but don’t focus on them just yet. Softly play with her nipples.
Begin to kiss her stomach as you massage her inner thighs again. Place her leg on your shoulder, and begin to softly kiss her inner thigh. Slowly move down and (ever so gently) kiss the outer lips of her vagina. Continue kissing her inner thigh while you gently massaging her G-spot with one finger. Find the hood of her clit and softly rub it side to side.
Discover what she likes the most – when you kiss her vagina, when you finger her G-spot, or when you play with her clitoris. Listen for her gasps – if she sounds aroused, continue what you’re doing for a bit. As you’re doing the things she likes the most, move your other hand to her nipples and start gently massaging them.
Continue giving her pleasure in this manner until she can’t take it any more. Then slowly place the tip of your penis at the opening of her vagina. Tease her with it a bit; she should be begging for it at this point. Enter her just a bit, and then pull out. Lean over and kiss her as you go in a little further. Pull back out. Gently pull her hair and bite her neck. Then go in a little further. Pull back out. Slowly reach under her and grab her hips. Force her to arch her back and the kiss her as you plunge deep inside her.
The “massage” portion of your evening is now over…
- Keep it Wet Before It Gets Super Wet
Also, make sure you have a nice water-based lubricant on hand. This will quickly increase her arousal. Also, make sure your fingernails are trimmed short. This is very important – You do NOT want long fingernails!
Your fingers will be inside her vagina a lot. If your nails are long, they can scratch and hurt her vagina. This will NOT help her squirt.
Outside The Bedroom
Now, before we go any further I want to make one thing clear…
If a girl has never squirted before, you’ll have to create an incredible amount of arousal for her to do so. A great way to amplify her arousal and to give her a mindblowing orgasm is to begin stimulating her outside of the bedroom.
This starts right when you two meet. This could be at a bar one night, on a first date, or with your wife of ten years. But if you plan to make her squirt, you have to set the mood and tone of the interaction early on.
Women are not as visual as men. To stimulate a woman, you have to stimulate her mind. Do this from the moment the interaction starts. You have to guide her towards what you both want.
This means you have to be a dominant male. You can keep being a cute, loving and carrying person like hopefully you are, but a bit of dominance in bedroom is sexy for most of women. You have to incorporate the confident state of mind.
Speak to her gently but confidently. You can say a few commands, many women consider such leading attitude as super sexy (in bed only!!). No, I’m not saying be a raging dickhead. I’m saying you need to be a firm and self-assured man.
Next, you’ll want to ramp up the dirty talk before you get to the bedroom. This will be easier with a wife or girlfriend, but it can also be done with a girl you just. You can ask what turns her on, or what her favorite position is. Whisper in her ear; say what you want to do to her later (but don’t mention squirting, yet).
You’ll also want to have your hands all over her body before you get to the bedroom. Again, this is easier with a wife or girlfriend. With a girl you haven’t been with before, you’ll have to go a bit slower.
Touch her arms. Touch her legs. Slap her ass every once in a while (wives and girlfriends only). You can ever get a bit raunchy and finger her under a table (again, only if it’s your wife or girlfriend) to get her all warmed-up. Just don’t go too far…
Now, the actual technique of making her squirt revolves around foreplay. It’s much more difficult to make her squirt with your penis, unless she has squirted before (or you have a banana-shaped penis).
But – don’t forget how turned on she has to be…
This can’t be a normal sexual session for her. You have to make things an experience for her. Once inside the bedroom, you must dominate her. Push her against the wall and passionately kiss her as you (lightly!) choke her. Then, throw her on the bed.
Begin to passionately kiss her as you pull her hair. Kiss her neck. Tease her. Begin to reach down her panties and stop. Get her pussy dripping wet before you even take her panties off.
Once she’s ready, rip her panties off and get on top of her. Grab her neck again and kiss her hard. Then, slowly move your hand down to her pussy. Begin to rub her clitoris, ever so gently. Then, quickly grab some lube. Her pussy should already be wet, but you need the lube to increase her sensation.
Once she is very wet, you can start fingering her. Begin to stimulate her G-spot. Insert your index finger into her vagina so that it touches the front wall. Begin to stroke your finger back and forth in a come-hither motion. Start slow and soft. Begin to build intensity by using longer and firmer strokes.
Next, insert another finger and start again. Go slowly at first – gradually build up the speed and strength of your strokes. You should do this for 5-10 minutes. She should be beginning to moan, but not be orgasmic yet…
The next step what actually makes her squirt. When you have two fingers inside her, adjust your palm. You want your palm to be on top of her clitoris while your two fingers are on her G-spot.
The magical G-spot
For those who missed that super important lesson, G-spot is located a few inches inside the vagina along the upper wall. It’s highly sensitive and can sometimes swell when touched or aroused. It’s like your almost cupping her vagina in your hand. Then, you begin to rapidly move your hand up and down. This allows her clit to be stimulated while still stimulating her G-spot.
Your other hand will be on the left-middle part of her abdomen and close to her vagina – right above her pelvic bone where her hip bone starts. You’ll be pressing down with a decent amount of pressure on this part of her stomach with you hand. As you press down with your other hand, your palm with be on her clitoris with your fingers stimulating her G-spot.
Speed things up. Then, speed up some more! Eventually, you’ll be doing this movement as fast as you can. Keep going until she squirts. Don’t worry about being too rough with her vagina. That’s where babies come from – and besides, if it hurts, she’ll tell you.
The key when helping a woman squirt is to make sure you pull up and back with your fingers while keeping contact with her clit.
Switch It Up
That method used just your fingers. But some girls don’t enjoy fingering that much. They prefer to get fucked – hard. Treat these types of girls a bit differently.
(You can also do what was described above and then transition into this method.)
So, if you finger her (like we described above) and she doesn’t squirt, there is still hope. Start fucking her – hard and deep.
When she’s getting hot and bothered, get on top of her and throw her legs over your shoulders. Then, spread them until your pelvis is touching her clitoris. Next, begin to rock back and forth. This movement allows your penis to stroke her G-Spot very deeply while keeping contact with her clit.
This will help some girls to ejaculate. If it doesn’t, then keep going until she’s moaning like crazy. Then, kiss her passionately and begin to finger her (as described earlier) as you pull out. Slowly breathe hot air onto her vagina as you finger her. Then, suck her vagina into your mouth as your finger her. Next, do the rapid finger movement we described earlier as you suck and lick her clitoris.
This method provides the same stimulation as the other method. Some girls just prefer to get fucked for a while before coming. Some girls also prefer oral sex.
That’s All There Is to It
Using these methods, you’ll make a majority of the girls you hook up with squirt (or flood). This will instantly create strong emotions in them for you. Remember, with great power comes great responsibility. Literally 😉