How To Be More Masculine: Zen Techniques To Increase Your Male Sexual Energy

By Patrick Banks

Posted 4 months agoSEX

In today’s world, it’s easy to be overindulgent. With food and drink, with materials objects, with external stimulation, but one thing that’s rarely talked about is being overindulgent in sexual gratification.
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Unfortunately, for many men overindulgence in sexual gratification can leave us weak-willed, spineless and listless.

Not ideal.

How to become more masculine in this crazy, overly stimulated world? It’s time to learn what Taoists and Zen Masters have known for millennia, how to increase your own sexual energy for higher energy levels, more decisiveness, and more masculinity.

How to Be More Masculine Without Becoming a ‘Macho’

Wondering how to get a girlfriend of your dreams, satisfy and spread the strong, gentle and conscious masculine energy around wherever you go? Focus on your puryfiying your sexual energy.

The Microcosmic Orbit

Do you feel tired, lazy, or even apathetic towards your partner (after sex) or life (after masturbation) as soon as you cum? It’s no secret, after we ejaculate most men don’t particularly feel like conquering the world, but that doesn’t have to be that way.

In Tao, the male ejaculate is highly regarded for its life extending and invigorating properties, and Taoists believe that recklessly squandering it through masturbation or unbridled amounts of sex can be harmful in the long term. Their belief is that the sperm containing male ejaculate takes an incredible amount of energy for the body to produce – that it is the life-force of the man.

Scientific studies have confirmed the presence of cerebrospinal fluid in semen, but it’s obvious even to a layperson that millions of exact-DNA-life-producing sperms must take considerable effort, energy, and resources to produce.

There is a Zen saying;

“it takes ten pieces of bread to make one drop of blood, and it takes ten drops of blood to make one drop of semen.”

Because of this, Taoists and Zen Masters take special efforts to conserve their semen. The well-known Zen Master Mantak Chia even went as far as to ejaculate only once for the conception of his child.

Let’s face it, though, for most of us, that isn’t really going to be possible. We need the release now and again. But that doesn’t mean we can’t take away something useful.

These Zen Masters practice what’s called the ‘microcosmic orbit’ which essentially takes the sexual energy that ‘stagnates in the genitals’ and uses breathing to push that energy around the body. This way, the energy isn’t depleted and lost forever via ejaculation, but rather absorbed back throughout the body.

This is one of the ‘try it before you believe it’ things. How to be more masculine and balance your sexual energy? Try refraining from masturbation for a couple of months whilst regularly doing the microcosmic orbit, and then tell me you have trouble talking to the cute girl at the local coffee shop.

Your body will be so full of sexual energy

Your body will be so full of sexual energy you’ll find yourself walking over and saying hi without even thinking about it. Approach anxiety?? Pffttt, cultivate enough sexual energy and approach anxiety will become a thing of the past.

On a side note, this is why watching porn can be so damaging for some men. The endless stimulation allows men to masturbate far beyond any amount they would naturally.

Take it one step further and have sex, but don’t ejaculate at the end, (you could even learn how to make her ejaculate instead.) Finish the session without ejaculating (and with a much more satisfied partner) and then do ten minutes of the microcosmic orbit and tell me you are not ready to conquer the world.

You Are What You Eat: Food and Sexual Energy

The old adage of You Are What You Eat isn’t just a way to cut back on sweets and fatty foods during the holidays. It’s about fueling your body in order for it to perform the way you want it to.

The clinical research on the impact of nutrition leaves absolutely no doubt – healthy food means a healthier body and higher sex drive. End of story. If that means a drastic change in your diet, then it’s time to decide what’s more important – the burger or your orgasm. Enough excuses and hemming and hawing – you know if your diet is out of whack and, if it is, get it together.

In the end of the article we will focus more on the dietary and hormonal aspect on the topic of how to be more masculine.

Move More

The other part of fueling your body is getting it to move. On this score, I think guys are more inclined to get on board without a lot of excuses. After all, if you’re already looking for ways to become more vital then you’ve committed to ending the couch potato lifestyle.

The trick with using movement to enhance sexual energy is to include exercises and activities that directly contribute to improving sexual performance. That means getting outside to soak up the sun and let the power of nature invigorate you naturally. Weightlifting helps increasing testosterone levels naturally, with movements like squats and deadlifts being the two most effective ones for testosterone production.

The study of how nature affects our bodies is an area of science that can truly amaze. Ecotherapy has become one of the hottest and most dynamic areas of study thanks to recent findings like show time spent outdoors can lower depression, increase mental focus and clarity and contributes to better overall health.

Visualize Success

In order to achieve a goal, you simply must be able to define what that goal is. If you are wondering how to be more masculine, likely reaching the pure, powerful primar masculinity is the core of your quest.

Visualization is another key part of:

‘harnessing your sexual energy and channeling it wisely’.

Visualization can also be used to give a physical tangibility to the energy you want to harness. Being able to visualize your sexual, masculine energy as a color or physical presence will help you as you undergo breathing techniques and meditations designed to help you focus that energy to your core.

If you struggle with the visualization process it may be that you’re having a hard time with a new frame of mind – especially, if spirituality is a new area for you. Don’t beat yourself up about this – accepting your current limitations is the only way to expand them.

Instead, start slowly and with no pressure. Simply sit quietly, focus on your breathing and try to create a visualization that works for you. While colors and textures are the common metaphors people use for visualization, you are free to choose whatever form makes you most comfortable. This could be a literal fuel gauge, a volume of water or liquid or even just a sense of volume within yourself. Remember, there are no right or wrong answers and the only way to get it wrong is to never try.

How to be more masculine? Be fully present of who you are. There is nothing more enriching our energy as a human being than being truly aware and present. When women are influenced by homronal turbulances each month, men are blessed with naturally more balanced bodies. Oftentimes, due to patriarchal culture we are taught to

7 Everyday Life Techniques To Become More Aware

Being aware does not mean paying attention to just you. Full awareness comes with much more consideration to those around you and your environment. Becoming more mindful requires a focus on the present. To live in the moment is the goal.

However, it can be difficult for anyone to be truly aware. To experience the emotional rollercoaster of human life without judgment may feel impossible. Anger and resentment are normal thoughts and they can derail positive focus. Practicing awareness can help dissipate these negative anxieties.

Mindfulness is a quality of being that takes training. There are various methods that you can try. Each of us experiences our own moments. Everyday our individual paths cross, but our minds are unique. What works for one person may not work for someone else.

Check out the following 7 techniques anyone can integrate into their daily lives for better awareness.

1. Meditate

Meditation exercises are extremely varied. You do not need to set aside hours of time everyday, 10 minutes can do the trick. Mindful meditation at any length can help to reduce stress levels and anxiety. Some people find these techniques help them sleep as well.

It’s like a conscious state of rest and relaxation for your body and mind. Finding that center balance within yourself is the first step to truly appreciating the moments of your life. There are various YouTube videos with guided walks through the process and it will become much easier with practice.

2. Go outside

Detach from the digital world and go for a run. Take a walk or swim in the sea. Even if you only have time to fit in a pit stop at the park, do it. Greenery is proven to help people achieve meditative states of mind. And when in nature you gain new perspectives.

You can inactively pay attention. Breathe in the fresh air and focus on your mind. Concentrate on your innate interaction with nature. It’s easy to find the time to fit in some outdoor activities everyday. Walk to lunch or bike to work. You don’t have to live by the ocean to experience the affect the natural world will have on your mindfulness.

3. People watch

This does not mean go out with a bunch of your friends, although, socializing is encouraged. It is imperative to a well-balanced and happy human existence. And in any social moment you should practice awareness techniques. Let yourself be in the instant you are experiencing.

However, it can also be advantageous to be around people by yourself. The local café or shopping area are great places to take a few minutes, enjoy a coffee and just watch other people. Do not judge, yet let yourself think about others with kindness. What are their lives like? What do they do for work? How has their day been? This perspective can take you outside of yourself and help you relax in a pleasant peace with your own existence.

4. Practice gratitude

Practicing gratitude is an easy technique for awareness that anyone can practice. Make a list every morning on your cell phone or on a white board. Write down at least 5 things you are grateful for. Try doing it again before bed. Some people find journaling tedious. It’s understandable in a busy life to be exhausted at the end of the day. To write it all down takes time.

But it takes only 30 seconds to list a few things you are grateful for. Perhaps you want to use your Instagram or Facebook accounts as platforms to help you focus on what fills your mind with gratitude. Whatever your method, you will quickly notice your attention to what truly matters in life increased.

5. Engage your senses

Stimulate your body and mind with your six senses. Smell the flowers and bring some bright colored roses home. Taste your morning coffee, breathing it deeply in. Pet your dog’s back for a few minutes and notice the soft fur. Close your eyes and listen to your favorite song. Or even break out the paint and mess up a canvas. Whatever it is you do, try to emphasize on each sense everyday. Take the small moments in life and focus on them. Be more aware of not only how they affect you but also how they affect the world around you.

6. Cook

Cooking and baking also stimulate senses of touch, smell and even sound. Each of these senses triggers endorphins in your brain. Going back to basic human needs is sometimes the best way to start practicing mindful awareness. Cooking itself can be a meditative stress reliever. And has been proven to ease depression and anxiety.

The tasks involved in cooking processes create space in your mind. Leaving it free of negative thoughts and focusing on appreciating the task at hand. There is a self-satisfaction and self-reliance built from both of these activities. When you pay attention to what your body and mind need, you will begin to see the positive results.

7. Do Nothing

Doing absolutely nothing is much harder than it sounds. No phones, no other people, no television and no reading or writing. You do not want to surround yourself with material possessions or social situations. Find a few minutes everyday to do nothing.

Some may find this meditative as well, in a sense. However, when truly meditating you are still focusing on breathing and the process of which you are attempting to achieve. But when doing nothing, your mind is not thinking about the past or the future. Push any complex thoughts out of your mind. Just be. When doing nothing your brain will find ways to recharge and reset for a more aware state of being.

In a generation of technology overload it’s increasingly difficult to practice daily methods of mindfulness. Being aware is not always as easy as it may sound. Many of us need to stay connected for our work and careers. And it can feel impossible to find time for yourself, let alone remaining constantly aware.

Do not stress about doing anything the right way. There is only the right way for you. Nurturing a concentrated awareness is a lifelong process. Integrating these 7 techniques into your routine is a good start. Change of habit can take time. And like with many things in life, practice makes perfect.

Remain conscious and attempt to truly connect to the moments in your daily life. It will enhance your overall well being and help you live more centered and attentive to the present moment.

How Yoga Can Boost Your Sexual Performance

How to be more masculine? Do Yoga.

Nah, you may say, what is more feminine than yoga! You would be surpried! Try it first.

Yoga is a body practice that originates from India and has been done by many over thousands of years. It’s becoming extremely popular in the Western world as a tool for improving body fitness and mind calmness.

To most people, it might seem obvious that a yoga session every now and then could help to relax after a busy working day, but not everyone is aware that one of the yoga’s greatest benefits is its ability to improve one’s sex life!

Yoga, a practice with principles that enhances the connection between the mind and the body, exactly where the sexual pleasure lies. So how to boost your sex life using yoga?

Get a Routine

The development of the body with the yoga knowledge can be greatly improved with regular practices of the postures. Maintaining a correct body posture influence how we feel and how other perceive us. Cat pose, cobra pose, lotus pose and downward facing dog reduce back pain and are effective in strengthening the muscles of the back.

To gain a fit body, knowledge of routine exercises and consistent practice is essential. Regular exercises not only keep you fit but also helps protect you from stroke, heart disease, back pain, high blood pressure, obesity and helps reducing stress.

Knowledge of yoga along with its practices can help a person attain a high level of mental, physical, spiritual, emotional and social health. The initial benefit of practicing yoga was to enable achievement of physical fitness and at the same time enhance personal spiritual enlightenment. 

Boosting Sexual Stamina

Yoga helps to boost sexual performance especially in men and helps develop body stamina, too. Both reasons help to have quality sex as the gained stamina relates positively to the body-psyche. There seems to be a direct correlation between yoga and sex! This is also the reason why men and women flood yoga studios lately.

Cardio Endurance

A yoga practice improves cardio endurance. No matter of the crucial health benefits of having sex, it can be exhausting to maintain it for long.

Men have a higher ability to control orgasm and at times, they may choose whether to have it or not. To sustain a sexual act for long is always tiresome. For that reason, men sometimes decide to end it quickly, what is pretty unusual.

Fortunately, power yoga has been scientifically proven to improve cardiovascular functionality, stamina, and endurance. The cardio exercises performed induces endorphins in the brain that produces feelings of euphoria and pleasure. This means yoga helps in elongating sexual duration while increasing pleasure and satisfaction.

Improved Circulation

Yoga helps to enhance better circulation and blood flow. Poor blood circulation in our bodies is always the reason for erectile dysfunction. This is due to high cholesterol concentration, high blood pressure, and associated diabetic issues. Studies show that continuous practice of yoga for at least three months leads to a drastic decrease in pressure.

This promotes free blood flow to every part of the body. This free blood flow helps not only in arousal processes but also in sustaining the erection longer. This yoga exercise is the only most effective natural way of boosting sexual performance.

Boosts Confidence

Yoga helps improve self-confidence regarding sex. Research projects bring to light a very close association between sexual pleasure and self-esteem. Self-confidence results from a high self-esteem and contributes to an improved sexual experience.

Women can immediately feel when they interact with a man who feels confident about himself and his male sexual energy is shining around. 

Breath Control

Premature ejaculation is a common medical condition among one-third of all men. Breath control slows down all the explicit feelings that one may be having during the sexual act and eventually help you to last longer in bed.

During sex, the parties involved should have a common mindset. This is achieved by breath control by someone who seems to be more in it. Yoga helps in mindset control through the breath up exercises. This enables common and elongated sex at the climax. The less commonly known advantage of controlled breathing: you will become a better kisser!

Prevents Cramping

Yoga helps reduce cramping effects during sex. Cramping exercise always sucks and kills the sexual experience making one to start it over again. This makes the experience boring, and exhaustive thus enable not to reach an orgasm.

Yoga counters this by improving body flexibility. Consistent stretching during yoga practice helps prevent serious cramping.

Some of the most frustrating and embarrassing moments that most men go through include poor performance in bed. This is the only moment that works on someone’s ego and self-confidence. Yoga does it all.

With the practice of yoga, one’s body stamina is improved naturally without necessarily using male enhancing supplements. To men, it’s a high time to switch to yoga as all they want is to get away from the bad sexual experience they’ve just encountered.

From meditation and channeling your powerful masculine sexual energy, balancing the male/female forces through yoga we weant to bring you to the new level of your quest on how to become more masculine.

We are our bodies, and the more pure we stay, the more pure and powerful our sexual energy is.

11 Ways To Protect Yourself From Estrogenic Destruction of Your Manhood

Across the population, testosterone levels are at an all-time low.

The result?

Men are fatter, weaker, more depressed, and less sexual than they’ve ever been before.

There are many reasons for the generational decline in testosterone as we face it today, but a large part of it is due to the ever presence of estrogens in our foods, personal care products, and environment.

Estrogen is the primary female sex hormone and excess exposure to it leads to feminizing effects in men.

In this article, I’ll reveal how you can protect yourself from dangerous estrogens and move towards becoming a more grounded and powerful version of yourself.


Let’s do this.

1. Ditch these high estrogen foods

The first thing you need to watch out for are phytoestrogens.

“Phyto” means “plant” and phytoestrogens are substances created by plants that can mimic the effects of estrogen in your body.

What plants do we need to watch out for?

Well, Canadian researchers picked out over a hundred common food items and analyzed them for their phytoestrogen content. The top two foods on their list were flaxseed (379,380 micrograms of phytoestrogens per 100 grams) and soy (103,920 micrograms of phytoestrogens per 100 grams). Nothing else even came close.

Definitely check out the study in its entirety for the full list of estrogenic foods, but know that flaxseed and soy contain upwards of ten thousand times more phytoestrogens than any other plant food out there. If naturally increasing your testosterone levels is a concern, it would be wise to eliminate them completely.

2. Reduce/Eliminate your consumption of grains and cereals

Other than gluten and pesticides – which are major contributors to many of America’s health problems – cereals and grains also contain a yeast that secretes an estrogenic fungus called zearalenone (ZEA).

Not only is ZEA estrogenic, but it has also been found to cause brain problems, impairment of male reproductive systems, and the proliferation of prostate cancer cells. ZEA is so dangerous that a total of 16 countries worldwide have placed limits on the amount of it that’s allowed in food products. The US, however, has no laws against ZEA.

Avoid eating cereals and grains, but also be wary of meats. ZEA finds its way into many grocery store meats since factory farmed animals are fed grains. Opt for good old veggies whenever possible.

3. Buy organic fruits and veggies

Herbicides are chemicals sprayed on crops to ward off weeds. Atrazine, the second most popular herbicide used in the United States, is a potent hormone disruptor.

Although the current research on humans is limited, studies on frogs show atrazine exposure to have extreme feminizing effects. In this study, atrazine exposure completely demasculinized the development of male reproductive organs in frogs.

Having recognized the dangerous effects of this herbicide, the use of atrazine has been completely illegal in the European Union since 2004. In the US, however, farmers use more than 80 million pounds of it every single year.

Bottom line?

Buy your fruits and veggies from a local and trusted farmer whenever possible. Also, always wash your fruits and veggies before consumption.

4. Keep an eye out for artificial food colors, Red No. 3 in particular

Red food coloring dyes are added to everything from typical junk foods like soda, candies, and desserts to so-called health foods like salad dressings and salmon fillets. In this study, 43% of all food items found at a particular US grocery store contained artificial food colors.  

Why are artificial food dyes so bad?

Well, in this study not only was Red No. 3 (a common food coloring agent) found to be estrogenic but it was also found to exert DNA-damaging effects. What’s more is that Red No. 3 also causes central nervous system depression and dopamine uptake inhibition in the brain.

The American government banned Red No. 1 in 1961, and No. 2 and No. 4 were banned in the 70’s. Red No. 3, however, has only been partially banned. This means that it’s not allowed in cosmetic products, but that it is allowed in food products.

Limit your consumption of processed foods and make it a habit to scan the ingredients label. If you see Red No. 3 being listed, either return the item or throw it straight in to the trash can.

5. Avoid using standard industrial bathroom hand soaps

Having read up to this point, you’ve gained an awareness of the dangerous estrogens lurking in our food supply. But what’s possibly even more dangerous are the estrogens lurking in our personal care products.

Alkylphenols (APEs) are an ingredient added to soaps to create the froth. You probably haven’t heard of APEs because they are usually left out from the ingredients list. But run a Google search for “estrogen + nonylphenol,” which is the most commonly used APE, and you’ll find more than a thousand published studies. In this study, exposure to APEs was found to be associated with infertility in men.

Although APEs are commonly used in the US, China had them listed as a severely restricted toxic substance in 2011. APEs are completely banned in the EU as well.

What can you do?

Avoiding APEs can be difficult since they are a hidden ingredient. That being said, avoid buying standard industrial bathroom hand soaps and opt for something all natural.

6. Eliminate lavender products

Lavender is perhaps the most popular plant ingredient used in personal care products. It’s great to chill your mind and set yourself into a meditative mood. But if you use it too much, it may mess up with your hormones!

In this study, chronic exposure to lavender was linked to prepubertal gynecomastia, aka man-boobs. Other studies reveal similar results.

Lavender is an extremely common fragrance agent added to a variety of personal care products. In the previous point we went over how you should opt for an all-natural soap, but that is not enough. Also make sure that lavender is not part of the ingredients.

7. Throw out your cheap sunscreen

Benzophenone (BP) & 4-methylbenzylidene camphor (4-MBC) are common ingredients in sunscreen.

Studies point to the fact that both BP and 4-MBC exert estrogenic effects. BP was labeled “Allergen of the Year” by the American Contact Dermatitis Society, but remains legal in both the US and Europe. 4-MBC is legal in America, but was banned in Europe in 2015

Like all the other ingredients you’ve read about so far, BP and 4-MBC mimic the effects of estrogen on the body by binding to estrogen receptors. But the scary part is that the ultraviolet light from the sun can fully fuse them to estrogen receptors, meaning that BP and 4-MBC can end up stuck to an estrogen receptor and remain capable of exerting estrogenic effects over the long term.

Scan your sunscreen ingredients label for BP and 4-MBC. If it has either or both of them, throw it out. Opt for a sunscreen with a high consumer rating that is estrogenic free.

8. Eliminate/reduce your exposure to personal care products with fragrance

Parabens are a preservative added to cosmetic and skincare products to prolong shelf life by preventing the growth of mould and bacteria.

Parabens are highly estrogenic and chronic exposure can interfere with male reproductive function. The European Union has banned a total of 5 commonly used parabens. In the US, however, the majority of them remain completely legal.

Eliminate/reduce your exposure to personal care products with fragrance.

9. Avoid plastics in your environment

Phthalates are chemicals used in the plastic manufacturing process to make plastics more flexible. BPA is a chemical added to plastics to make them more durable.

Phthalates are significantly estrogenic and have considerable negative effects on reproductive health. And it’s the same with BPA.

Plastics are pretty much ubiquitous in everyday life but the following are some actions steps to help reduce your exposure to them. First of all, eliminate all dietary liquids stored in plastics, especially oils. Opt for glass or stainless steel containers. Second, limit your exposure to all types plastics. And finally, never heat your food in the microwave in a plastic container.

10. Reduce/eliminate your exposure to weed

Although the research is limited, there are a couple of studies that point to the fact that weed is estrogenic.

In this study, although it wasn’t performed in humans, researchers concluded that marijuana is an hormone disrupting chemical. Interestingly, in this Danish study marijuana smokers were found to have up to 28% lower sperm concentrations compared to non-marijuana smokers.

Having been a recreational smoker for a while now, accepting the fact that marijuana is estrogenic has been a hard pill to swallow. Nonetheless, I strive to limit my exposure to it. If you’re struggling with estrogen dominance, it would be wise of you to do the same.

11. Stop drinking water from the tap

More than 100 million women worldwide are on chemical contraceptives containing EE2. This was invented to mimic estrogen and activate the estrogen receptor and stay in the body longer than natural estrogen.

EE2 is amongst the most potent estrogenic compounds and studies have found that it leads to reproductive and sexual failures in a variety of organisms.

Where am I going with all of this?

Well, consider the fact that 60% of all married women are on chemical contraceptives and that all of the EE2 is being flushed out of their bodies and being recycled into our water supply. The research has not determined if the EE2 concentrations of EE2 are significant enough to exert a negative influence, but trace amounts of it have been found in our water supply nonetheless.

Your best option is to stick strictly with drinking only spring water. Go on to see if there are any springs near your place. The second best option is to buy a water filter and drink through that. Either way, stay away from drinking directly from the tap.


From our food supply to our personal care products and even our water supply, estrogens are lurking everywhere. Researching this article had me a bit overwhelmed because I realized that it is impossible to avoid estrogens altogether. That being said, the key is to see how we can take that one step forward and optimize from there.

For me, the most important step was to stop drinking water from plastic containers and to stop heating food in plastic tupperware. From there, I significantly reduced my exposure to personal care products and strive to opt for fragerence free whenever I can. See what step would have the most significant impact on your life and take it one step at a time. It’s easy to get overwhelmed, but the key is to consistently compound those little improvements overtime.

About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.