You Have Been Hooking up Wrong – This is why

By Patrick Banks

Posted 3 weeks agoSEX

Why I Cannot Find a Girlfriend

A large majority of people have, at one point or another, been in the market for hooking up. Whether this was a result of just being bored, looking for a rebound after a messy breakup or for any other reason is irrelevant. Depending on your overall luck, this endeavour might’ve been infinitely successful or more than likely, it yielded unsatisfactory results.

For a huge cohort of men, this is enough to make them feel hopeless and unloveable which in turn kills all motivation to keep looking for an opportunity to enjoy a mutual, physical encounter that could end under the sheets. It is understandable to feel this way, after all, when you put so much energy into something and the only thing that you get in return is an even larger energy sink, it can feel incredibly infuriating and draining. It’s no hidden truth that millions of men have tried and tried to crack the eternal question of how to universally be good at hooking up but the reality of the situation is, that is not the actual solution to the problem.

You see, the biggest issue with these attempts is that they are trying to solve the wrong problem. You aren’t unsuccessful in hooking up via dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble or Hinge because there’s some hidden secret hack that you simply aren’t privy to, it’s because you are just completely doing it wrong.
In this article, I aim to show you a foolproof hack to hooking up that will guarantee you with an endless array of girls from all over the world, just anxiously waiting for you to call them on a date – or more.

Forget what everyone else says – ditch the dating apps

There are thousands – if not millions – of guides online and offline about how to “master” dating apps and the ancient secrets to getting hundreds of matches on them. These are all completely useless and provide no actual insight into producing genuine results for you to enjoy on the same night. Think of it a little this way: Would a top earning stock broker tell you which stocks to invest in? Absolutely not. That would mean that they would make less money overall as they would have to split the profits with you. This is the exact same psychology that the makers of these guides function on. Why share the spoils with everyone when you can misdirect everyone else and keep it all to yourself?

Delete your dating apps and forget about them because while they may be great for finding one or two people that would be open to hooking up, you aren’t going to be very successful with an endeavour like this. Instead, follow my advice in this blog and enjoy limitless opportunities and, if you wish, every night with a different girl with the body of a model.
Okay. That is an exciting premise, you might think, but what is the actual secret? Well before we get into the true key to success, I must tell you about a few prerequisites that are necessary for this outcome to become reality.

Confidence is key

This is quite self explanatory. How you carry yourself is 50% of the information used to determine the type of impression you make on anyone that you meet. The other 50% is of course their own emotions and logic, which is out of your control, but, the first 50% is exclusively within your own control. This is why it’s important to work on yourself to get to the point where you can confidently converse with anyone and carry yourself in a manner that suggests self confidence, self love and most importantly, self respect.
Most people find it incredibly attractive when someone that they see as a potential partner or hookup carries themselves in a manner that inspires awe and respect because it suggests a very healthy and positive, outcome oriented mindset which mainly is exclusive to mature adults who have their heads screwed on right.

This is why I am willing to die on this hill and say that confidence and the way that you portray and carry yourself in the eyes of others is one of the most important factors of what people think of you. This isn’t exclusive to potential partners though, this applies to literally everyone. So this little piece of universal advice may even get you a better position at your company because maybe if you carry and portray yourself a bit better, you’ll show to others that you do in fact have a lot more value and worth than they might’ve thought at first. It inspires those who already know you to take a second look and assess you again because they might’ve missed something the first time. This level of mysteriousness and reserved confidence is the key to dominating any social setting you’re in – especially dating.

Look and smell good

This is the other key foundation layer to the art of mastering seduction. You could be the most attractive person by nature with the confidence of a true leader, able to inspire nations just with your national abilities – but all of that would be for nothing if you weren’t dressed well and clean.

I simply cannot stress this point enough, one of the first few things that anyone notices about you before they even get a chance to hear you talk is how you dress and how nice you smell and it sometimes baffles me to the utmost aspect how many men forget about these parts; and no, I do not simply just mean to have a 5 minute shower and wash your body with the cheapest 5 in 1 body wash that you could find.  

There is an art to grooming yourself to your best potential and I will try to guide you towards the right path in this part of this article. First of all, you want to find a shampoo and body wash (yes, separate) that doesn’t only smell incredibly nice but also has a level of self care aspects to it. Look for shampoos that are also conditioners – or even better, just get a bottle of conditioner – and shampoos with skincare agents to make sure that you don’t only smell clean and nice, you are also smooth and soft. This alone is enough to turn you from a straight 5/10 to a 7/10 but the advice doesn’t stop there.

The other half of this is actually smelling good. Sure, the shampoo you got smells incredible, but that will go away within an hour of you showering. We need a longer term solution to the smell problem and this is where cologne and great deodorant comes in. In terms of deodorant, you want something that is strong and long lasting, something that won’t compromise you even when you’re spending the most steamy under the covers time with someone; and for cologne, you want something that smells elegant and intoxicatingly addicting but not too strong. Experiment around and find what makes you feel the best but never go cheap on making yourself look and smell good.

The secret to success in hooking up

Here it is. The actual secret to making sure that you are never again rejected or have to spend a boring, drunken night alone in bed after a night out. You won’t believe how simple this is.

Let’s start with what you may already know. Other than dating apps, the other most common way to try and find a hookup is to go to clubs or bars and try to meet people there, buy them a few drinks, dance for a while and pop the big question: Would you like to go back to my place after this?

While this may be effective for a small group of people, this is a very anxiety inducing way of still not producing great outcomes. Most of the time you will find yourself in the same situation as if you went on a dating app, except now you are drunk at a club alone and down a couple hundred bucks after you bought someone a few drinks and they left. Not ideal, is it?

The key to avoiding this and making sure this never happens to you again is simple and can be described in one word: escorts. Not any normal escort though, if you’re looking for a truly mouthwatering selection of only the hottest girls that London could offer with a service that is the definition of a deluxe treatment, you want to have a browse through one of the countless, extensive galleries that London Deluxe (link brand text to https://www.londondeluxe.co.uk/.

London Deluxe has somehow, in its early and short-lifespan, managed to compile a gallery of some of the best girls and shemales that London has to offer – all at the best pricing I have personally seen in my many years of punting.  They offer such a great selection that on my first visit, I was caught up in an awe-struck mesmer for hours, browsing through the countless babes that were literally just a call away to spend a night with.

As a fan of bubbly butts, my first temptation was a girl called Dalia. She’s a bubbly eastern European who provided me with the best service I have ever had in my whole life. We got straight to the point, there was no need to spend hundreds on drinks just for a chance to shoot my shot and we even had some time to sit and chat while cuddling.

This is a great chance to experience a truly authentic Girlfriend Experience and immerse yourself in a world where you have a girlfriend but without any of the actual negatives. You don’t have to worry about emotions, about arguments, all you need to do is simply talk to your escort and arrange everything you wish to happen and you’re set.

And there you have it. The secret that nobody wants you to know in order to have a successful and never failing hook up life. Now go, use this god-given advice to your heart’s content and make sure to say hi to Dalia for me, if you see her.

You have been hooking up wrong – This is why

A large majority of people have, at one point or another, been in the market for hooking up. Whether this was a result of just being bored, looking for a rebound after a messy breakup or for any other reason is irrelevant. Depending on your overall luck, this endeavour might’ve been infinitely successful or more than likely, it yielded unsatisfactory results.

For a huge cohort of men, this is enough to make them feel hopeless and unloveable which in turn kills all motivation to keep looking for an opportunity to enjoy a mutual, physical encounter that could end under the sheets. It is understandable to feel this way, after all, when you put so much energy into something and the only thing that you get in return is an even larger energy sink, it can feel incredibly infuriating and draining. It’s no hidden truth that millions of men have tried and tried to crack the eternal question of how to universally be good at hooking up but the reality of the situation is, that is not the actual solution to the problem.

You see, the biggest issue with these attempts is that they are trying to solve the wrong problem. You aren’t unsuccessful in hooking up via dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble or Hinge because there’s some hidden secret hack that you simply aren’t privy to, it’s because you are just completely doing it wrong.
In this article, I aim to show you a foolproof hack to hooking up that will guarantee you with an endless array of girls from all over the world, just anxiously waiting for you to call them on a date – or more.

Forget what everyone else says – ditch the dating apps

There are thousands – if not millions – of guides online and offline about how to “master” dating apps and the ancient secrets to getting hundreds of matches on them. These are all completely useless and provide no actual insight into producing genuine results for you to enjoy on the same night. Think of it a little this way: Would a top earning stock broker tell you which stocks to invest in? Absolutely not. That would mean that they would make less money overall as they would have to split the profits with you. This is the exact same psychology that the makers of these guides function on. Why share the spoils with everyone when you can misdirect everyone else and keep it all to yourself?

Delete your dating apps and forget about them because while they may be great for finding one or two people that would be open to hooking up, you aren’t going to be very successful with an endeavour like this. Instead, follow my advice in this blog and enjoy limitless opportunities and, if you wish, every night with a different girl with the body of a model.
Okay. That is an exciting premise, you might think, but what is the actual secret? Well before we get into the true key to success, I must tell you about a few prerequisites that are necessary for this outcome to become reality.

Confidence is key

This is quite self explanatory. How you carry yourself is 50% of the information used to determine the type of impression you make on anyone that you meet. The other 50% is of course their own emotions and logic, which is out of your control, but, the first 50% is exclusively within your own control. This is why it’s important to work on yourself to get to the point where you can confidently converse with anyone and carry yourself in a manner that suggests self confidence, self love and most importantly, self respect.
Most people find it incredibly attractive when someone that they see as a potential partner or hookup carries themselves in a manner that inspires awe and respect because it suggests a very healthy and positive, outcome oriented mindset which mainly is exclusive to mature adults who have their heads screwed on right.

This is why I am willing to die on this hill and say that confidence and the way that you portray and carry yourself in the eyes of others is one of the most important factors of what people think of you. This isn’t exclusive to potential partners though, this applies to literally everyone. So this little piece of universal advice may even get you a better position at your company because maybe if you carry and portray yourself a bit better, you’ll show to others that you do in fact have a lot more value and worth than they might’ve thought at first. It inspires those who already know you to take a second look and assess you again because they might’ve missed something the first time. This level of mysteriousness and reserved confidence is the key to dominating any social setting you’re in – especially dating.

Look and smell good

This is the other key foundation layer to the art of mastering seduction. You could be the most attractive person by nature with the confidence of a true leader, able to inspire nations just with your national abilities – but all of that would be for nothing if you weren’t dressed well and clean.

I simply cannot stress this point enough, one of the first few things that anyone notices about you before they even get a chance to hear you talk is how you dress and how nice you smell and it sometimes baffles me to the utmost aspect how many men forget about these parts; and no, I do not simply just mean to have a 5 minute shower and wash your body with the cheapest 5 in 1 body wash that you could find.  

There is an art to grooming yourself to your best potential and I will try to guide you towards the right path in this part of this article. First of all, you want to find a shampoo and body wash (yes, separate) that doesn’t only smell incredibly nice but also has a level of self care aspects to it. Look for shampoos that are also conditioners – or even better, just get a bottle of conditioner – and shampoos with skincare agents to make sure that you don’t only smell clean and nice, you are also smooth and soft. This alone is enough to turn you from a straight 5/10 to a 7/10 but the advice doesn’t stop there.

The other half of this is actually smelling good. Sure, the shampoo you got smells incredible, but that will go away within an hour of you showering. We need a longer term solution to the smell problem and this is where cologne and great deodorant comes in. In terms of deodorant, you want something that is strong and long lasting, something that won’t compromise you even when you’re spending the most steamy under the covers time with someone; and for cologne, you want something that smells elegant and intoxicatingly addicting but not too strong. Experiment around and find what makes you feel the best but never go cheap on making yourself look and smell good.

The secret to success in hooking up

Here it is. The actual secret to making sure that you are never again rejected or have to spend a boring, drunken night alone in bed after a night out. You won’t believe how simple this is.

Let’s start with what you may already know. Other than dating apps, the other most common way to try and find a hookup is to go to clubs or bars and try to meet people there, buy them a few drinks, dance for a while and pop the big question: Would you like to go back to my place after this?

While this may be effective for a small group of people, this is a very anxiety inducing way of still not producing great outcomes. Most of the time you will find yourself in the same situation as if you went on a dating app, except now you are drunk at a club alone and down a couple hundred bucks after you bought someone a few drinks and they left. Not ideal, is it?

The key to avoiding this and making sure this never happens to you again is simple and can be described in one word: escorts. Not any normal escort though, if you’re looking for a truly mouthwatering selection of only the hottest girls that London could offer with a service that is the definition of a deluxe treatment, you want to have a browse through one of the countless, extensive galleries that London Deluxe offers.

London Deluxe has somehow, in its early and short-lifespan, managed to compile a gallery of some of the best girls and shemales that London has to offer – all at the best pricing I have personally seen in my many years of punting.  They offer such a great selection that on my first visit, I was caught up in an awe-struck mesmer for hours, browsing through the countless babes that were literally just a call away to spend a night with.

As a fan of bubbly butts, my first temptation was a girl called Dalia. She’s a bubbly eastern European who provided me with the best service I have ever had in my whole life. We got straight to the point, there was no need to spend hundreds on drinks just for a chance to shoot my shot and we even had some time to sit and chat while cuddling.

This is a great chance to experience a truly authentic Girlfriend Experience and immerse yourself in a world where you have a girlfriend but without any of the actual negatives. You don’t have to worry about emotions, about arguments, all you need to do is simply talk to your escort and arrange everything you wish to happen and you’re set.

And there you have it. The secret that nobody wants you to know in order to have a successful and never failing hook up life. Now go, use this god-given advice to your heart’s content and make sure to say hi to Dalia for me, if you see her.

About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.