How to Stay Hard Longer Without Coming: Natural Remedies to Last Longer In Bed

By Patrick Banks

Posted 4 years agoSEX

Premature ejaculation is a very common sexual concern. You might think you are alone, but as many as 1 in 3 men suffer from the condition. It can lead to anxiety, embarrassment, and avoidance of sex. Additionally, many people tend to misunderstand what premature ejaculation is and how to deal with it.
How to Stay Hard Longer Without Coming- Natural Remedies to Last Longer In Bed

Some men have even tried to find the cause of their problem, but the internet can be full of misleading answers. There are countless articles about it online, and some of these articles address treatments and remedies, but how can you be sure any of them actually work? 

What is Premature Ejaculation?

You may be too embarrassed to ask your doctor, or fearful that someone comes across your browser history detailing searches about this topic. Perhaps you’re currently in incognito mode as you read this article. 

While you may feel shy about your sexual concerns, rest assured that countless men around the world suffer the same problem, and we are here to address it. Contrary to popular belief, premature ejaculation is not merely just reaching orgasm before your partner, or before your partner wishes you to. How to stay longer without coming?

In fact, the only definitive measure for premature ejaculation concerns men who climax within one minute of sexual stimulation. Climax that occurs between one minute and one and a half minutes after sexual stimulation begins may be an indicator of premature ejaculation, but is not diagnostic. 

So, if you’re here because you climax before your partner, but after two minutes of stimulation, you can rest assured that you don’t have a problem. However, if you would like to learn to prolong your performance, you are welcome to continue with this article.

What Causes Premature Ejaculation?

There are not many studies, and thus not a lot of evidence to support speculative reasoning for the causes of premature ejaculation. Some sources state that there is a strong correlation that premature ejaculation is caused by sexual anxiety and hypersensitivity in penile receptors. 

The idea that your premature ejaculation may be caused by performance anxiety was proposed as far back as 1943. The trouble with these ideas is that there have been no conclusive studies on the causes of premature ejaculation. Most cases of premature ejaculation are self-reported and seldom monitored, as it is not considered a cause for concern, unlike erectile dysfunction. 

Additionally, many sources claim that men who suffer premature ejaculation may be too shy to participate in studies and this may cause results to be inaccurate. As such, most treatments in the past have been behavioral, such as therapy.

Natural Remedies to Last Longer In Bed

Sometimes, you want to reduce the damage to your body by choosing the natural route. Natural and herbal treatments for premature ejaculation have been around for as long as the ancient civilizations that created them. While these treatments may not be doctor prescribed, that isn’t to say they aren’t effective treatments. Here are the three best natural remedies for premature ejaculation:

Ayurvedic herbal medicine is a great option if you want to avoid potentially harmful medications. This medicine system originates from India, and relies on thousands of herbs to treat a variety of medical conditions, from diabetes to inflammation. Through this practice, they have developed a capsule to be taken twice a day with lukewarm water, which results in delayed ejaculation. 

Similarly, Chinese herbal medicine has also developed a natural herbal remedy to delay ejaculation and boost sexual stamina. While you may be trying to avoid potential liver and kidney damage from mainstream chemical medications, herbal remedies like these are not without side effects. Side effects of these two kinds of medicine include stomach pain, dizziness, and decreased libido. While decreased libido may not be the desired outcome, it is not frequently reported, and patients who use these medications report more positive than negative outcomes.

Numbing agents found in topical creams and lidocaine has been shown to delay ejaculation by reducing sensation to the nerves of the penis. Much like dapoxetine, this is only effective if your cause of premature ejaculation is linked to hypersensitivity. For these creams to be effective, you need to apply it to your penis 10-15 minutes before sex. This might reduce sexual spontaneity, but at least you will be able to climax a little later than usual. 

Lidocaine is used the same, but is a spray rather than a cream. Studies show that these numbing agents really do work in delaying ejaculation by a few minutes. While a few minutes may not seem like a lot, it might be all you need. These creams and sprays are considered safe but may have side effects such as mild pain, mild burning sensation, temporary loss of sensitivity (duh), and a decreased libido. 

Once again, decreased libido might not be ideal, but when you’re in the mood and want to impress your partner by lasting longer, it might be a small price to pay for overall satisfaction

Zinc and magnesium are key factors in your sexual health. Zinc helps to produce testosterone, boost libido, and increase energy. Taking zinc supplements can help improve your sexual performance. Similarly, magnesium plays a role in your ejaculation time. Increasing consumption of magnesium-rich foods has also shown an effect in treating premature ejaculation. These are foods like oysters, pumpkin seeds, soybeans, yogurt, spinach, almonds, chickpeas, sesame seeds, beef, lamb, dark chocolate, garlic and peas. 

While the overconsumption of magnesium generally has no side effects, overconsumption of zinc can cause some problems. These problems include nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, kidney and stomach damage, and a metallic taste in your mouth. It is essential that you follow dosage guidelines when adding supplements to your diet.

Treating Premature Ejaculation

If you’re concerned about your ejaculation habits, or they are causing problems in your relationship, there are many treatments available. Treatments include: – psychosexual counseling, – pharmacological medications, – natural remedies. Here we will address each type of treatment, hoping you find the best one for you.

Psychosexual counseling is usually the first port of call. When you see your doctor about premature ejaculation, she or he may send you to a licensed sex counselor. The reason for this is that, as mentioned before, premature ejaculation is usually linked to performance anxiety, and can have adverse effects on your relationship. 

While you might be able to experience a second, more sustained period of lovemaking after the first ejaculation, some men might not be capable of this. This may lead to your partner feeling as though you are selfish, or – if you become embarrassed and avoid sex – could lead to your partner thinking you are no longer attracted to them or that you are having an affair. 

Through counseling, your therapist can address all these concerns in a professional way and may restore trust and confidence in the relationship. If your problem is caused by psychological problems such as anxiety, some counseling sessions may be the solution you require, and you can carry on with a normal sex life after this.

Serotonin reuptake inhibitors can be used to delay ejaculation. After 5-10 days of taking this medication daily, you might experience delayed ejaculation, thus solving your problem. However, there are some negative side effects that may deter using this medication. 

These side effects are often short-lived and usually minor. They include fatigue, yawning, nausea, diarrhea, and sweating. Some patients also report feeling severe agitation. This may seem like a miracle cure, as it creates the result you are looking for. 

However, serotonin-based medications are not widely available – even illegal in some countries – and cannot be used if you have a history of bipolar. There are also medications that cause it to be ineffective or can result in serious complications. Many people who use serotonin-based medications for various conditions also report increased appetite and weight gain, which may be an undesired effect of the medication.

Dapoxetine is the first compound designed to treat premature ejaculation. It helps to reduce penile sensitivity and thus delay your ejaculation. However, as with any treatment, you would need to know what causes your premature ejaculation. It is no help taking this medication if your premature ejaculation is caused by performance anxiety, as it does not address the cause of your anxiety. 

Instead, it reduces sensitivity and is only effective if your cause of premature ejaculation is hypersensitive penile nerves. So, it might be necessary to undergo some testing before your doctor can prescribe any of the aforementioned treatments. This might be embarrassing, but the long-term help will go a long way.

Physical Treatments to Stay Longer in Bed

There are some ways to avoid all kinds of medication. If you are not interested in chemical or herbal treatments, here are some ways you can treat premature ejaculation without them.

Brands like Promescent sell a wide selection of specially designed condoms, sprays, and lubricants is sure to have all aspects of sex covered for you, with quality products developed by urologists that are scientifically tested.

The condoms are designed to feel natural for you and your partner, so you don’t have to feel like there’s a barrier, and the lubricants are safe to use with condoms.

Condoms can help delay ejaculation by reducing sensitivity in the penis. However, you can also buy condoms made of thicker latex, or lubricated with a numbing lotion that can help even more. While you may prefer not wearing condoms for a variety of reasons, it may be helpful in solving your problem.

VitaFlux elevates your nitric oxide levels, improving overall circulation, but also improve your sexual health. It is a natural product, with L-arginine and essential amino acids to support your health.

Finally, Climax Control Spray has no negative side effects and can be used to increase the time you have to please your partner. It reduces sensation, ensuring you last longer. It can even be used to reduce sensation for your partner if they are feeling sensitive or over-stimulated. Increasing your time to play and explore might just be the most romantic thing you and your partner need.

No matter how effective, goodies bought on the internet will never replace checking up with your doctor about sexual issues like erectile dysfunction, weak or hard to gain an erection.

Other methods

The pause-squeeze technique lets arousal dwindle before climax. When you feel close to orgasm, let your partner squeeze the end of your penis where the head meets the shaft, and hold for a few seconds. Once the urge to climax has passed, you can continue having sex. You can do this as much as necessary, and over time you should be able to delay ejaculation without help. 

Similarly, the stop-start method also takes a break during sexual activity. Also referred to as edging, this method leads you close to climax. Once there, it is essential to stop sexual activity immediately and wait until arousal dwindles. Then you can start having sexual activity again. This helps you control your ejaculation.

If you want to try even more natural routes, masturbating an hour or two before sex can relieve sperm build-up and help you to last longer. Alternatively, practicing things like tantric sex, sensual massage, or non-penetrative sexual stimulation can help you last longer. By avoiding sex for a period of time, it can help reduce your fears and anxieties and lead to fulfilling sex life.


Premature ejaculation is a common occurrence in men of all ages. While it may be something you feel embarrassed about, there are a number of causes and treatments available. If you feel like it is something that needs medical attention, doctors can offer a range of tools and medicines to help. However, if you are too shy to ask for help, you can try over-the-counter, natural, and herbal remedies. 

Further, if you want your partner to help you, there are physical practices that you can implement, which may even enhance your sexual experience and improve your bond with your partner. Whichever route you choose, it is important to remember you are not alone, and open communication can help ease the burden.

About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.