David Steele, a modern-day pioneer of romantic relationships, holds expertise in all aspects of relationships and marriages. David believes that sex and intimacy are vital pivots holding together your bond with your partner and most importantly, it enchants your bond with a color. David urges men to increase their knowledge and be smart and sensible when it comes to spicing things up with their women.
The following advice is inspired by David’s expertise in the area of sex, relationships, love, and intimacy. It is good information that can score you romance points if you already are not:
1. Not scoring the ground
The number one rule is to test the ground. Unless you and your girl are experts in this sexting thing, do not suddenly drop the bomb with a very high pitch phrase, as you may not find the desired answer.
Start with some hint and some sexy phrase of the style:
“I can’t wait to see you and do with you all these things that are going on in my mind.”
From there, act in line with your response. If it gives you some ground to continue the game till the freeway!
This way you’ll increase the excitement gradually and warrant that you turn to when you see are not going to be an uncomfortable situation but something more natural.
2. Sexting after the first date
Along the same lines of things that can be very uncomfortable, people find themselves engaged in this type of conversation after a first date. Obviously, you both have to set the limits in that new relationship, but this type of talk that can be left on your mobile for posterity (not to mention the photos), should only be had with people with whom you have total confidence.
So you know, keep your fingers away from the phone and wait a bit. The good is always waiting. And it is always better to do sexting once you have had physical relationships than before because when we let the imagination fly, we can leave expectations too high and then not meet in the real plane.
3. Not letting yourself go
If you are going to do something, do it well? Do not go straight to the point, because with sexting that does not work. Here, the key is in the details and in saying absolutely everything that comes to your mind in total detail.
It is about describing every moment that you would like to materialize with your partner, in the most erotic and graphic way possible. Of course, focus especially on saying things that you would really like to do with her. It’s also about heating the environment!
4. Doing it when you’re drunk
When you write messages full of misspellings, with little meaning or too graphic for no apparent reason, they may not have the spicy effect you are expecting them to have. Trust us.
If you go out one night and you start to feel like doing certain things with her, keep your cell phone away. Or at least feel the ground. She may also start liking you and so you make sure you finish the night perfectly… Even if you are married to your partner, there is no rule barring you to do sexting with her. In fact, there’s an interesting research which backs up the idea of sexting among married couples and brands it totally normal.
5. Not using your imagination
If you are not comfortable sending photos of yourself (let’s face it, it can be too risky), you can do something a little more subtle but that will also get a very hot result.
We refer, for example, to send photos of a sexy set that you have, a toy, a lipstick … Or, if you dare, a snapshot of your mouth or your legs. Remember that the key is in the details and in leaving something for the imagination.
6. Being afraid to make mistakes
If something wonderful in sexting is that you can be without makeup, in pyjamas or eating some potatoes. And the truth is that whatever you say, how you are or what you are wearing, does not have to be 100% accurate… No one will notice the difference! Although, it is also true, that if you are predisposed, surely you enjoy much more and make her enjoy it more.
7. Not telling her your fantasies
Although sexting can be a way of having fun, it can improve your sex life. People are not afraid to say what we think or what we feel if we don’t have the other person present before us, so it can be the perfect opportunity to tell you your fantasies without having to see how you blush.
It is possible that he is also excited to do these things but that neither of them has dared to raise it, so start with: “Imagine what you do…” or “Imagine what I do to you…” and give free rein to your imagination. Remember to put it into practice when you are together!
8. Doing THIS
Certain mistakes men tend to commit while sexting and consequently, it can be a major turn off. Problem with 21st-century men is that they are not being assertive. They are either too aggressive or passive, which can put off a woman real quick. And then there are man-child. Your immaturity and immaturity will definitely reflect in the manner you sext.
Avoid using the eggplant emoji. That is surely not the way you should describe your junk. At the same time, do not really exaggerate. Girls find it awful when a guy cannot shut up about his size and girth. You need wordplay to make everything work. Not the technicalities. It only appears to be patriarchial and boring as every girl’s inbox is flooded with a ton of guys boasting about their organs. So, adopt mannerism and be cultured in your interaction.
…so, what really gets a woman turned on?
Eloquence. Your knowledge about female sexuality. Did you know, according to a study, majority of male population cannot locate the clitoris? Entice a woman about your knowledge regarding female sexuality.
Talk about going down on her. Patriarchial society instigates ideas against female oral sex. If you write her paragraphs and excite her about rattling her clit gently with the tip of your tongue, she is absolutely going to lose it! Additionally, do not make snarky comments about vaginas. Embrace them. Show confidence in your words while you embrace them. Do not hit her insecurities. Say no to fish smell.
When a woman finds a man taking interest in giving her utmost pleasure, she cannot resist but yield to it. Many women are programmed and assume that the entire course of action is them pleasing a man, but if you shift roles here and give her a notion that it is SHE who gets to have it all high and steamy, she is going to be absolutely blown and wanting you to put your words into life.