After all, there is no quicker way to extinguish the fire of a budding love than by making proclamations too soon. Neither do you want to drive yourself into an anxious fit by remaining unsure of how she feels about you. So, how do you know if the girl like you as well?
In an ideal world, your object of admiration would be upfront about her feelings and expectations. Unfortunately, that is not how it works. The good news, however, is that love is not a word, but a thing you do. Feelings are communicated through cues, and the actions speak for themselves.
Her body language
All the signs that a woman wants you are evident in her body language.
1. It’s in the eyes
According to Dr. Jeremy Nicholson, a psychologist, you will learn a lot from the way a woman looks at you. For instance, if the woman holds your gaze a little longer than usual, the chances are that she considers you more than a friend or a colleague.
Do you often go to look at her and you catch her watching you, only to see her quickly turn away in embarrassment? Well, that is a positive sign that the woman is attracted to you. If a girl is into you, she will be checking you out … a lot. Indeed, some studies have indicated that prolonged eye contact can trigger feelings of love between two people.
Have you ever noticed? We rarely make strong eye contact with people we do not like. In fact, we deliberately avoid eye contact with people with whom we do not want to get drawn in a conversation with. Also, experts indicate that even infants maintain eye contact with people they are interested in.
2. The position of her body means more than her words
A girl who is interested in you will have an open and forward body language. Often, you will notice that her feet point towards you, her legs will be uncrossed and comfortable, and she will have her arms open and the palms up. She will also be smiling and probably fondling with her hair and jewelry.
3. She will find any excuse to touch you
People do not touch people they do not like. If a girl is interested in you, she will not resist to reach out and touch your arms, hands or shoulders. She will straighten your jacket or reach out to touch your knee as she makes a point during a conversation. The more she touches you, the more it is safer to assume that she is interested in you.
4. She loves being close to you
Another good sign that a woman is interested in you is the proximity. A woman who likes you will position herself in such a way that she is always in your immediate orbit. It is no coincidence that she has happened to be in your vicinity on several occasions. She will post up near you as you stand around.
You will realize that you are always seeing her out of the corner of your eye, and in the book store, you always seem to end up in the same row. These signs indicate that the girl wants you and she is doing all she can to get to know you better.
5. She mirrors your body language
Relationship experts say that when we like someone, we subconsciously adjust our body language to mirror theirs. For instance, if you are out on a date and you happen to lean forward into the table, there is a high probability that she will naturally do the same. This behavior is known as ‘interactional symmetry,’ and it starts in infancy.
A study whose results were recorded in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior indicated that people mimic the behavior of those they are attracted to. Pay attention to her body language. Does it mirror your own? What about the words she uses. Is she building on your jokes? She is not consciously copying you; she is just doing what people do when they are around someone they are attracted to.
6. She laughs at your jokes
A study by German Psychologists indicated that a woman’s’ laughter could accurately predict how she feels about the man she is with. Indeed, research further suggests that women want to be with a man who can make them laugh, while a man wants a partner who can laugh at his jokes.
Further, marriage experts indicate that humor plays a huge role in diffusing tension and conflict in the relationship. The degree to which the woman laughs while talking to you is indicative of the degree of success you would have dating her.
7. She asks you personal questions
A friend recently posted on Facebook the way he was having a casual chat with a girl, usual stuff, and then out of the blues, she asks:
- Do you have a baby mama?
- Do you have children?
- Do you have a girlfriend?
While this may appear a bit extreme if a girl wants you she will go out of her way to find out more about you: your values, your passion, and your dreams. This is a good sign that she is genuinely interested in you.
8. Sharing of herself
A woman who wants you will convey her attraction for you by sharing stories about herself, usually information she wouldn’t share with just anyone. According to Social Psychology Quarterly, people do not mind sharing even the embarrassing details about their lives with people that they have an interest in getting to know further.
On the contrary, sharing personal information with someone whom you have no interest in is too great a risk. Pay close attention to the kind of information she shares about yourself with you.
9. She compliments you a lot
A woman may not want to show obvious signs of attraction since she doesn’t want to look unladylike. She could also be shy and afraid of being rejected. As a result, she will end up giving you a lot of compliments, communicating indirectly that she likes you. This is meant to provide you with the confidence to make your move.
Giving you compliments almost certainly means that she wants you and she is interested in having something happen between the two of you.
If you are seeing a few of the signs above, it could be an indication that the girl really does want you.
A word of caution, though
Always put the signs in the context. It doesn’t mean, for instance, that every time a pretty lady looks at you and smiles at you, she wants you. An attractive bank teller may look at you a little longer, just because she is doing her job, not because she is interested in you.
Also, a woman at work will touch your arm, not because she is interested in you, but because she is trying to catch your attention. Also, do not be hung up on individual signals. You should see a few of these signals occurring together before you rule out a coincidence.