Of all the problems in our world, premature ejaculation seems like a small, almost irrelevant issue. That is, until you are dealing with ejaculating much too soon personally. Then the issue of premature ejaculation goes from irrelevant to the only thing on your mind.
That one to two minutes, or a few seconds, begins to haunt you. You’re embarrassed. You begin to lose confidence, inside and outside the bedroom. It bewilders you that such a small issue can have such a lasting effect on your psyche, and life.
The truth of the matter is that premature ejaculation is not a small issue for anyone who is dealing with coming too soon, or has dealt with it. The issue is one you know must be solved if you’re going to become a truly happy individual. You cannot bear to see the look of disappointment on a woman’s face when she is not satisfied after sex.
Yet, you do not know what to do about your small, but huge problem. Taking a pill isn’t exactly your first choice in solving any of your problems. Hell, you are not even sure why you’re ejaculating early these days. In the past, you never had any issue coming too soon. Sure, you might come quickly with a new girl the first time, but after the first time everything was smooth sailing.
If you’ve found yourself with a quick trigger these days, and I’m not talking on the basketball court, there is some good news. You can cure your premature ejaculation. Many men have done so and so can you. The first step in solving any problem is to understand it.
Thus, here are the 3 deadly causes of premature ejaculation:
Porn & Negative Conditioning
If you’re reading this article instead of going to the doctor to find out why you’re having premature ejaculation issues, then chances are you’ve grown up in the “porn era”. This generation of men has had access to pornography for their whole life. At the click of a button any man in the world can have access to millions of naked women engaging in every type of intercourse imaginable.
While this easy access sounds nice in theory, the consequences can be devastating. Instead of being aroused by the look of a normal, naked woman in front of you, you can only be aroused by fixations from pornography. A beautiful naked woman in front of you may not arouse you, but a video with three Asian schoolgirls being punished for their bad grades certainly does.
While some men can only be aroused by pornography, other men find the opposite effect. Pornography changes chemical reactions in the brain. Often, men condition themselves to ejaculate quickly when masturbating to pornography. This is often associated with the “money shot”. Thus, when a man comes upon a “money shot” while with a real woman, he comes almost instantly because he has conditioned himself to do so.
As well, young men are not the only men who have problems with pornography. Many older men have developed a nasty pornography watching habit with the advent of the Internet. These men may no longer have a desire to sleep with their wives or may continually come quickly when doing so.
If you are dealing with ejaculating prematurely, one of the first things you must do is cut off all porn consumption. Immediately. You must begin to rewire your brain to normal forms of intercourse with one woman.
A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
Men who have continually dealt with premature ejaculation often do a few things. These men occasionally revert to buying creams and/or pills. Or these men often try to only have sex after a night of drinking. Neither one of these solutions are positive or getting to the root of the problem.
Pills and creams simply provide a short-term mask for your problem. Drinking is horrible for your health and can actually lead to premature ejaculation when sober. Solutions that don’t get to the root of the issue will never work. This is especially true when your problem is deeply rooter in your subconscious.
Men, who have no physical defects, often ejaculate premature due to a learned helplessness. This behavior is developed over time and is somewhat of a self-fulfilling prophecy. As many have said, your mind is your most powerful asset. What you think will happen usually does happen.
When a man comes far to quickly with a girl he is interested in, he begins to dwell on this fact. These thoughts are rarely positive. Often, the thoughts are completely negative and the man gets down on himself. These thoughts continue on and a cycle develops. These happening are tenfold if the issue begins to happen continually.
Eventually, this man begins to think of himself as a man who comes quickly. Instead of a great lover, this man thinks about himself as a premature ejaculator. These thoughts continue until being a premature ejaculator is in this man subconscious. He cannot get rid of the idea, even if he tried.
However, there is one way to get thoughts of coming to quickly out of you subconscious and out of your mind altogether. This is through hypnosis. By using hypnosis to cure your premature ejaculation, you get to the actual root of the problem.
Good Ole’ Hormones
While vastly underplayed by media types, hormones often control more of human nature than we’d care to admit. Control over ejaculation is certainly affected by a man’s hormone levels.
With regards to ejaculating, a man’s serotonin levels control his arousal and sensitivity within his genitalia. If you have lower serotonin levels, you will begin to find it much harder to control your ejaculation when having sex with a woman.
However, this cause of premature ejaculation can often be easily fixed. A change in diet and a regular exercise routine will usually help balance a man’s hormone levels, including his serotonin levels.
If eating a healthier diet filled with meats, fruits and vegetables combined with working out isn’t enough, a man can take serotonin enhancing supplements to aid in balancing his hormones and regulating his ejaculation controls.
The Big 3
By address your premature ejaculation proactively, you are already on your way to controlling your ejaculation. Decide which issue or issues may be leading to your premature ejaculation, and then begin to address each issue immediately.
If porn has caused you to lose control of your ejaculation with real women, then stop watching porn. Forever! After a few weeks, begin attempting to have sex with real women again. Positive change won’t happen overnight, especially if you’ve been watching porn consistently for year, but you will begin to notice a difference.
If you ejaculation issues are mental, stop the negative feedback loop as soon as possible. Begin to use hypnosis to change the way your subconscious views your sexual abilities. If done properly, hypnosis can quickly change your ejaculation control for the better.
Lastly, if you’ve been living an unhappy lifestyle then change things up. Eat a healthier diet and begin to work out. Hormones play a role in all facets of life; ejaculation control is no different – healthy lifestyle choices contribute to serotonin production, which will help you control yourself in the throes of passion.
Lastly, your premature ejaculation issue could be caused by a combination of these three factors. If this is a possibility, begin to make every necessary change that could relate to your specific issue.