How To Pick Up Women At The Gym

By Patrick Banks

Posted 10 years agoDATING

how to pick up girl at a gym

I wouldn’t suggest going to the gym just to pick-up girls. However, if you already have a membership there, your gym can be a great place to meet women. A great advantage for a gym is that the women tend to be more athletic, in-shape, and generally take care of their looks – so you’re getting the more attractive girls, even compared to night clubs or bars. In this post I’ll give you several tips on meeting women and getting dates at the gym.

Your Day-Time Bar

I often compare gyms to bars, because like these night venues, many of us don’t go to the gym purely to get in shape. Of course, some girls and some men go out simply to dance. But we can’t hide the fact that we’re biologically programmed to have interest in the opposite sex.

So yes, both men and women will be more than interested to meet in a the gym. And yet, there are many differences between a bar and the gym, that you should be aware of.

You Don’t Need to Be a Stranger

When you approach a girl in a bar, it will usually be a “cold approach” – you’ll be picking up a girl who’s a total stranger to you.You might have exchanged some looks and even eye contact flirting, but you totally don’t know each other – and this is a disadvantage, because women feel much less comfortable to talk to strangers.

Especially when she knows that you’re sexually interested in her. That’s why your openers in bars and clubs need to be extremely interesting and fun, to overcome a woman’s initial rejection.

Anyway, the situation at the gym is totally different. First, you don’t feel that strangers to each other. Even if you haven’t talked before, you’re still members of the same gym and you’ve seen each other before. And second, because you don’t need to begin your conversation with the girl by showing your interest in her.

Long-Term Interaction

When you talk to a girl in a bar, you must “close the deal” at the same night. There are so many clubs and bars, and odds are you’re not going to see her otherwise – you must at least get her phone number. And what about the gym? Well, probably the same girl you’ve spoken to today – you’ll meet her over and over.

An interaction with a girl at the gym should be very slow-motioned. There is no need for a hurry. Also, never begin with showing any interest in her or suggesting to date her.

You can even have 5+ conversations with her before you make any move. I suggest at least 2 interactions before you ask her out.

Gym-Style Openers

What should you talk about with a girl at the gym? Men often get confused about finding the right pickup lines. These lines might be important in other situations, but at the gym they are useless.

First, because a gym is kind of a “social circle”, a woman will rarely reject you or refuse talking to you. Women at the gym will be very responsive. They are actually not doing much (yes, working out is boring) – and will be delighted for something interesting to happen.

According to my experience, the best openers and topics to start conversations at the gym are related to sports and healthy issues. You can ask her a question, make a comment or a statement, or suggest her to do this or that. Just find an excuse to talk about gym-related issues and women wlll talk to you.

Remember: you don’t have to get her fall in love or want to date you – you simply need to make her used to you and build familiarity with her.

Be Her Teacher

Women are attracted to strong men, to confident, high-value guys. As a part of this, it’s known that women tend to be attracted to teachers, professors, and any type of authority man.

So be the high-value man for her. Teach her some exercises, explain about proper nutrition. Make her learn from you, and this will quickly make her attracted to you.

Don’t Be Afraid to Approach

I know, approaching girls in regular situations can be pretty frightening. But at the gym, you don’t need to worry. As I suggested be very platonic and indirect with her, and there is no need to be afraid to approach or to be afraid of rejection. Just get used to chatting with the girls you meet at the gym.

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About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.

3 thoughts on “How To Pick Up Women At The Gym

  1. Except if you pick up women at the gym and act like a dirtbag (as men out to pick up are prone to do) what do you think will happen when they see you in there next time? Or their friends do, or everyone else there they talk to does, or every other person on the place who’s seen what you’re up to. Casual membership and kiss goodbye to anything fitness community orientated my friend, “picking up” at any gym where women are serious about training, very uncool.

  2. If anyone’s reading this in 2018, don’t teach, don’t suggest, don’t do anything to try to help a woman. Say hello or ask her to show you what she’s doing. I run a gym and we get guys who ‘train’ their gfs or whomever and they look stupid doing it.
    Unless your shirt actually says trainer, you’re not a trainer. Don’t act like one.

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