To really make college life the time of your life, you can’t just play it by ear. Sure, sometimes you can be spontaneous, but on other days you’ve got to plan the hell out of these kinds of things. Yeah, that does sound like a lot of work, but whoever said being popular was all fun and games? Trust me, making waves is hard work.
Of course, if you do manage to pull it off, that will make your life infinitely better. So what are some of the most important things that you need to make sure you do so that your parties will have that extra bit of excitement and energy?
Guys and girls at parties
Lesson number one, girls will often flake. That’s just a fact of life. I can’t explain why they do it, but they do. Lesson number two, most dudes won’t bring women. They just don’t. Instead, they’ll bring more dudes. That’s who they know. That’s who they’ll bring.
And as you well know, if the sausage factor at a party gets too high, then it’s over. You might as well be playing video games.
Don’t let that happen. Don’t throw a party unless you’re sure that you have at least as many women as men saying they’ll come.
In fact, focus all your attention on getting them to come (Though don’t be creepy about it). For where the women go, the men will follow. That’s why ladies nights are always packet in bars.
Get-togethers are a good start
In fact, why not start with something small. It doesn’t immediately have to be the biggest party on campus. If you have something smaller you can still have a lot of fun. What’s more, because it’s intimate and everybody knows that there are only a few people coming, they’re less likely to flake because they know it affects everybody else.
A common strategy I use is to have a pre-party with a bunch of cool people. Then, after we’re all in a good mood (read: roaring drunk and laughing like crazy) we’ll hit a bigger party. Everybody who was at the get together will talk to their friends about what a great time we had.
Then, just rinse and repeat. Rumors will spread. More people will want to come. And before you know it, you don’t even bother to find parties anymore as everybody’s coming to your place instead.
Yeah, of course you can entertain people with jokes, comments and crazy talk. Still, everybody can use a helping hand. For that reason, a great idea is to strategically place party props all over the place.
Here I’m talking about wigs, masks, moustaches, loud clothing items, hats, water pistols, helium balloons and anything else people will be able to play with. You don’t have to tell people about them. Just leave them there. In that way, you won’t force people into fake frivolity.
Instead, when they feel like it, they’ll grab something and put it on. As soon as one person starts, generally other people will follow and try to outdo each other. That will create laughter and amusement all around – which can really liven up a party.
Even better, they’ll want to take pictures of each other dressed up in crazy outfits doing crazy things. These go up on social media and without any extra effort on your part, news of your great parties will spread.
Don’t invite the creeps and get rid of them when you do
There are always a couple of guys that the girls really don’t like. The don’t make them feel safe or comfortable. You’ve got to find out who these people are and either get them to change how they’re behaving or not invite them.
The only way you can find out who the creeps generally are is by listening to what the women have to say. At your party, always ask people if they’re doing okay and if the vibe is good. If they hesitate, press them gently on it.
Now, to be clear, some girls and some guys just don’t get along. That’s not a reason to throw the guy out. What you’re looking for is the guy that lots of girls don’t like or feel comfortable around. These are the creeps and they can make your party end very quickly indeed. The reason is that guys are just physically a lot stronger than guys and women know this. And so, rather than risk a confrontation, they’ll generally prefer leaving and going somewhere else.
If you can, throw them out. If that will cause too much of a scene there’s always the tequila trick. It’s straightforward. Enlist the help of one of the girls that he’s freaking out – preferably one he has the hots for. Set up a line of tequila shots. Then have the girl challenge the guy to a race.
The trick is to give the girl really weak shots (a tiny bit of tequila and the rest water) while he gets full strength ones. They go one for one. She should act like it’s hard for her, but keep challenging him to another one. Soon he’ll be too drunk to creep anybody out. It might be a good idea to keep a bucket handy.
The more alcohol people see, the faster they will drink. And as they often don’t know their limits yet that can get ugly fast. This is particularly true of women, who are less likely to have a lot of drinking experience, are more affected by alcohol anyway and have less body weight to absorb it. That means they get drunk more quickly.
And you really don’t want to spend your whole evening holding their hair out of the toilet (or watching a whole group of girls troop off to take care of their friend).
The solution is to ‘ration’ the alcohol. Hide your supply in different places and then bring it out just as what’s there is about to run out. This is particularly important to do with the hard liquor, as people are far more likely to shoot this and get too trashed.
Even better, if the party is falling apart, then you don’t have to reveal another stash. Instead, you can just say you’re out and let the party die (or let some of the excess baggage go look elsewhere for a party).
Food if vital
Also, to help your party lasts, make sure people eat! A great idea is create huge pans of food that you can easily warm up and serve out to people. The food will help give them a base, absorb a little bit of the alcohol and keep the party going longer.
No, chips are not a good substitute.
Alternatively, if you’ve got a big enough party, then why not talk to a local food vendor with a truck or cart? Tell them about your party and find one that’s willing to come by at about dinner time and sell tacos, fries, hot dogs or whatever else.
Both your guests and the vendor will thank you for it. What’s more, people won’t drift off to eat when they get hungry.
Sundays are difficult days to party like crazy because often everybody has class early on Monday. The Australians came up with a great solution. Just have the party earlier! If, instead of starting at 10, you start at 4, the party will run down by about 10, midnight or at the latest 1 or so.
That means, you’ve all had a great party and yet you haven’t made it impossible to show up for class. In that way you’ll actually attend and can get some help that – if you’re a real party animal – you might well need.
That means, you’ve all had a great party and yet you haven’t made it impossible to show up for class.These parties work especially well with another great Australian tradition: Barbeques!
Introduce everybody to everybody
Always do this. It doesn’t even have to be your party. Do this when you’re out. Do this at a funeral (just more quietly). Just as importantly, if you see any point of commonality between the two people, make sure they know about it!
Do they both like music? Are they both into football? Do they both hate Trump? Great! Let them know as then they’ll have an introductory topic and from there the conversation will generally flow freely.
Note that you’re not just doing this to make the party you’re at work. You’re also doing this to be known as ‘that guy’ (or girl). The person who people remember for introducing them to their new friends or partner. The person that makes it easier to be around new people. The social butterfly. Once you’ve got that title, you’ll be a must to bring to parties and everybody will want to know you because you know (And will introduce them) to everybody else.
Don’t have a screen on
Men are horrible with screens. Maybe it’s because they were hunters back in the stone ages, but when something moves, they want to watch it. So don’t have one. Unplug any TVs you have and wrap a bunch of tape around the plug, to make it impossible to plug in.
That way, people will focus on the party rather than on the game.
Include the neighbors
If you’re throwing a party then invite the neighbors. This will make sure that they are far less likely to complain if the party keeps going too late, even if they don’t show up (they’ll have more good will towards you). And besides, when they then have a party, they’ll be far more likely to invite you.
Besides, it’s nice and you want your neighbors to think you’re nice.
The trick to loving a party is making sure everybody else is loving it too. That won’t just pay off today, but – once you have that reputation – will pay off for all the months and years that you’re at college. People will invite you to their does, because they want to be invited to yours.
And that’s a good place to be. You won’t have to hunt. You won’t have to chase. Instead, the parties will come to you. Even better, you’ll be able to pick and choose or combine forces to create even better events.
Now what’s not to love about that?