5 Tips to Help You with Dating in College

By Patrick Banks

Posted 4 years agoGROWTH

While in college, it is time to discover so many things, and being in a relationship can be one of them. However, how do you balance love and coursework? Does the relationship help you or distress you? So, as you explore your interests and many other preferences, you might want to try dating.

Although the person you date in college is rarely your future husband or wife. As dating in college is about discovery. Unless you are really lucky to meet your future husband or wife. In this article are tips to help you with dating while in college. 

1. Be yourself 

Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken 😉 You are unique and don’t afraid to use it. For a person truly matching with you, what makes you different from other people will be the best value. Even the most weird, or even socially awkward person can find a perfect partner!

While dating in college, although at first, it can be about fun and games. Ensure that you are yourself as you are brilliant when you are yourself. So as you go through this self-exploration phase, be unapologetically yourself. Also, if you are the kind of falling in love first, then fall in love first, no matter the comments that will come in many ways that you are a needy person.

On the other hand, if you feel better while you remain distant, be distant, as this is truly who you are instead of wearing a mask of who you are not. The internet is full of tips on how to be yourself. You can also find some inspirational articles on anonymous blog sites that can help you to maintain your personality. Plus, you are in college where you need to grow and learn in and outside the lecture halls. Additionally, being yourself will help you maintain proper emotional and physical health while dating. 

2. Don’t be afraid to be a bore 

It all starts with making eyes across the lecture hall. Although after the first few dates many fear that they may be a boring person to be in a relationship. This is common with women, and yet, not everyone can be an infallibly exciting woman. Like the pressure that is around today of having to be exciting to keep a relationship going.

Since boring in many cases can be exhilarating, especially if it’s with the right person. As there’s nothing wrong with sharing a table as you study in the library, or discussing philosophy, among other things that are termed as boring. Thus, do not be afraid to be boring as people are different, and maybe your partner is looking for a not so hyper person. 

3. Exceed your comfort zone 

Don’t get too comfortable in a college and yet it is the time of your life where you are free to self-explore. Plus, when you are in your comfort zone, you will never grow. So try out new stuff with the person you are dating, and in the discomfort, you will grow more comfortable with your partner. Once you have known your comfort zone, exceed it by trying out stuff like a new class together, going for exercise together. In this way, you will find an opportunity to grow together with your partner.

4. Attend free student events 

If you cannot go to a certain event since you do not have the money to pay for them. Make use of the free student events, that many may assume they are boring, but they are much fun as most students there are in your age group. Plus, you will be surprised how much fun these events are. Go to these events and create memories with your partner, and it is a way that is affordable for both of you. To find these events, check through posters in the student union or the college newspaper and check which events you can go to that are affordable for both of you. 

5. Don’t fear to break up 

As much as dating in college can lead you to find your soul mate. It can also lead to a breakup. Thus, it is okay to stay open to the fact that if it is an amicable or ugly break up and do not be afraid to move on. So if the person you are dating was not really for you, and you had to break up. It is alright as much as rejection hurts. Move on and give yourself self-love and do some exploring. Importantly, do not stay in a bad relationship for fear of staying single.

About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.

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