Dating As A Short Guy: How I Beat My Insecurities
Before we even begin… I’m 5’5.
I’m a bit overweight… I have a crooked face…And I have an awkward voice.
Far from the Brad Pitt standard of beauty and masculine perfection… And yet my life is filled with stunning, extraordinarily beautiful, kind, feminine and passionate women.
How did this happen?
When I say that I am humbled at how incredible my life is, I mean it. See I went from a depressed, unhappy and lonely baby-faced kid to where I am today… And all of it happened because I discovered a secret.
The Secret Sauce To Beat Insecurities
Do you think you’re too fat?
Or too short?
Or too tall?
Or too skinny?
Or too… WHATEVER.
See here’s the thing about insecurities – they all depend on where you choose to place your focus. If you spend your team scanning and searching for reasons you are not good enough, I guarantee you will find them.
However, if you spend your time searching for reasons you are good enough, you’ll also find them!
Surely it can’t be that easy?
Well yes and no…
You see, eliminating your insecurities is a long-term project. Your mind has two components – the thinker and the prover.
Your thinker spends its time creating and shaping your reality tunnel based on what you choose to focus on.
Your prover has a much simpler job; it will gather evidence to reinforce your worldview and will reject any evidence to the contrary.
What I’m saying is that, on any given night, you have all kinds of women who already like you, but if you have low self-esteem, you will focus only on the ones who don’t like you, and use your insecurities to strengthen that world view.
“It’s cause I’m too short!”
Eh… No, it’s cause YOU feel you’re too short!
In the Bible, it says “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”.In the Upanishads, there is a great story about a student who asks his Guru: “Master, how do I become one with God?”
The Guru replies: “sit in that cabin and just focus your attention on a moose. Just meditate on a moose for now”. A month later, the Guru knocks on the cabin door and says “Okay, you can come out now” to which the student replies “I would love to, but my antlers won’t fit through the door!”
You see, you become what you tend to focus on most, so your job in all of this is to simply remove your focus away from the things you don’t want, and onto the things you do want!
Start with that and we can get to the more advanced stuff later.
The Good News
Here’s what’s amazing about personal growth: the moment I stopped feeling like my height was an issue at all, it stopped being one.
I mean that women literally stopped bringing it up, like at all!
See, women aren’t cruel… They will zero in on your insecurities and test you on them, not because they care about it, but because you care about it.
They wanna know where your weaknesses lie, because they serve to inspire you to rise above them. Yes, women are that amazing – and that’s why I love them. See women are the great feminine! They are a microcosm of the world.
The way you respond to women is the way you respond to the world around you and frankly… the bottom line, hard truth is this:
No one gives a damn who you are… Only about how you make them feel.
If you’ve grasped this, then you’ve understood everything!
Give. Love. Serve.