A good sense of humor can help you get a lady of your dreams, but in the age of online dating and social networks, it can be really tough to convey your sense of humor – especially if you have never met the girl in person. Of course, you could memorize a couple of jokes and repeat them to every new girl but learning how to charm her over text with your own jokes will help you make the connection and take your relationships to the next level.
Test The Waters First
We all have a different opinion on what is funny and what is boring and if you step out with jokes that she doesn’t get or doesn’t like, you will lose your allure. Ask her simple questions to give you an idea of what she likes – without looking like she is on a job interview.
For example, you can ask:
“Have you seen [the name of a Youtube video]?”
“What do you think about [the celebrity name] hosting a show?”
Does she like Star Wars, South Park and prefers to avoid political humor? This way, you will be a funny guy who knows how to build comfort and pays attention to little details she tells you.
Know Your Strong Sides
When you spend time with your friends, what do they say about you? What is the funniest thing? If you have female friends, ask what things make you charming. If they say that your biting sarcasm is amazing, try to convey this via text. The only thing, don’t direct your sarcastic jokes at her, especially if you don’t know her well. You could look aggressive if she doesn’t know your personality. But you can joke about your roommate or your boss.
If you are clumsy or silly, it is a bit harder to convey. You can use funny Snapchat filters and send her cute but silly selfies to make her laugh. Works all the time! And if you’re a storyteller, share your funny moments. This will also help make the conversation more personal, and you will give a girl a chance to tell you her stories.
Know The Memes
Memes are lifesavers when you don’t know what to do. They are short, easy to understand and convey emotions, making the limited act of texting more elastic. And there are so many memes out there; you can definitely find one that is tailored to her interests. But don’t use too many memes because you still want to keep the conversation personal and make her curious about you, not about funny pictures you found online.
Show That You Are Paying Attention
If you have made it to this step, you have already found a lot about her and can use these things to make her laugh. Pay attention to her texts to create the connection, and she will be flattered. For example, if she had a bad day yesterday, tell her that everything is going to be fine and you are here to support her. Or, if she tells you that she likes red wine, ask her opinion on what you should get next time at the liquor store.
Most importantly, be genuine. Girls can tell when guys are lying or pretending to be someone else and the last thing you want is to meet up in person and all your charm flies away. Be yourself. When you connect on a genuine level, funny jokes come naturally.
If you have no idea how to start a conversation, here is a little guide for you. First and foremost, don’t be boring.
What to text a girl for the first time?
Have you ever wondered how single girls live? They have a barrage of men texting them every day, hoping to get their attention. And many of those men write the same thing: “How are you?” “Hey here” and so on. Don’t be one of them.
Instead, try texting her something like this:
“Stop thinking about me!”
The great thing about this short text is that it doesn’t require any commitment from the girl and it gets her curious.
Send Short Messages
You can send her amazing jokes, but if your message looks like an essay, she won’t even read it. Don’t over think things. Keep your texts short and interesting, for example: “You gave me cooties the other day.” This text is great because it gets the girl laughing and sets the positive tone for the rest of your conversation.
Come Up With A Nickname
Nicknames are an easy way to make your texts more personal. If there is something that came up naturally during your conversation, include it in your next text as it will make it fun and set the tone. If the girl does not have the nickname yet, you can always come up with one as you are writing her a message.
The best nicknames are those that the girl can consider personal – those that reflect her personality and the relationships that exist between two of you. If you want to make up a nickname, find something fun and playful (and make sure the girl would want to be called like that).
Use Emoticons To Set The Tone
The most common mistake that many guys make is trying to be too serious when texting a girl. This is where emoticons can help. They can show the girl your real feelings. They can improve the tone of your texts and a smile emoticon can make a girl smile as well.
They can also make your intentions clear. The girl will not have to guess your real emotions behind your texts. Using emotions when appropriate in the text will give the girl no second reason to guess about your intentions and they help avoid miscommunications. And you can make your jokes look funnier, too!
Tease A Girl A Little
Everyone knows that playful teasing is great for flirting in person, but it is also an effective way to make her laugh. Teasing creates intimacy between you without demanding serious actions. For example, you can use a nickname to make fun of a girl in a cute way without being offensive. Something like “freckles” is a good one.
You can tease her a little bit about things that she said in past. This is the call-back humor, which draws her attention to the time when you had a fun chat, making her think positively about you and your relationships. Remember: you shouldn’t cross the line into being offensive or rude, or your texting relationship will quickly die.
Keep Moving Forward With Your Texts
One of the main things you should know about ladies is that they get bored. And when it comes to texts, they get bored very fast. The fact is, over the course of textual relationships, a lot of guys don’t know what to do to keep moving forward to finally meeting a girl in person. So when everything is going great and the girl is laughing and having fun, they just keep doing the same thing. It’s like they are afraid to make the final step. That’s why it is important to keep things moving forward. Start moving from text to phone conversation, then from phone conversation to date, etc. If you have been talking to her for several days, tell her that you would like to go on a date with her. You know how it’s going.
Role Play With Her
Many girls really like to be imaginative when it comes to role-play because it reduces tension and helps create an attraction by putting two of you in a fun and interesting adventure. Even though it is just texts, you will make her feel close to you.
If you start role-playing with a girl to create attraction, she might get curious about you. In the meanwhile, the girl will experience positive emotions which you have generated just for her. Just have fun and be genuine and you will make her smile as well.
Don’t Text Her Too Often
Let’s say you met a girl in a store, hit it off and got her number. Now you can’t stop thinking about her and want to send a message. And that’s totally fine. However, if she doesn’t respond, don’t send her one message after another.
Girls like guys that pretend to be a little bit scarce at the beginning. And you can convey this attitude over text. Never text her again until you get a reply, and if you don’t, wait a day before texting again. Don’t be one of the guys who ruin their chances by getting over excited and needy with their texts.
So there you have it, simple tricks that help you get a whole lot more dates. So go and use them and come up with your own amazing gags!