Many people see being single and being happy as two conflicting ideas. The truth is, they can go together just as well as being in love and being happy.
Not only can you stay single and stay happy, but everyone should spend some time alone if they want the best chance at long term happiness.
Being single isn’t a problem in need of fixing and if you view it this way, you need to spend some time single.
You probably will never be truly happy with your life, single or taken, until you focus on yourself and change the way you think.
If you are one of the many people who think that you are unhappy because you’re single, keep reading, you’re about to learn how to be happy being single.
The first step to happiness in your single-life is discovering the perks of being single and how you can take advantage of them.
How to Be Single And Happy
You have more time available, you should use it to get to know and focus on yourself and your future. Deep self-knowledge will help you:
1) Choose better partners as a result of getting to know yourself.
A) Your likes, dislikes, quirks and other traits are a few factors that can help predict a potential partner’s compatibility with you.
This will drastically improve your chances of committing to the right person.
Spending your time productively while you’re single will increase the probability of your next relationship lasting the rest of your life.
B) Choose the right career path and become successful.
Devoting as much time as possible to your quest to become self-aware will greatly aid you in finding a career in which you’re most likely to thrive.
This discovery will render you a worthy opponent in your battle for success.
C) You are far more likely to wind up in a happy after you really get to know yourself.
Success and confidence are attractive—these are some results of becoming self-aware and they will broaden your romantic prospects.
Another benefit is an increased chance of financial stability, which will come naturally with career success.
In addition to learning how to be happy being single, you’ll be increasing your odds of future happiness regardless of relationship status.
Eliminating some financial worry will enable you and your future partner to better focus on each other.
Depending on the scope of your success, you could wind up completely eliminating any chance of one of the leading causes of divorce from your future relationship.
D) Once you’ve realized your passions, set goals around them and achieved success in different areas of life, your self-esteem will skyrocket.
Self-esteem will enable you to be happy as a single person. Self-esteem will also help you in the future when you choose a partner.
With real self-esteem, you’ll understand that you are putting yourself first by staying single.
You will not lower your standards, and know that you’re better off alone than settling for less than you want and deserve.
2) You’ll have more opportunities to work on all of your other relationships.
These relationships usually take the back seat to your romantic relationship.
The time that you’ll gain being single will allow you to nurture your relationships with friends and family.
You’ll even have time to create new relationships! Being single doesn’t mean being lonely.
3) You have far more freedom in several different avenues, enjoy it!
A) You can spend your time the way you want to.
As part of a couple, you had to spend time doing things that you wouldn’t be interested in individually.
The time you’d spend on these activities will now be free to spend the way you decide.
B) You can make your own decisions; answer to no one.
C) Being single frees you financially in a way you’ll never experience in a relationship.
You only have to think about yourself when making financial decisions and definitely don’t have to consult anyone else.
You can spend your money however you’d like! You’ll increase your financial freedom more by automatically saving money by being single.
You can skip that trip for flowers and chocolates this Valentine’s Day, unless you’d like to buy yourself a treat!
D) Being single doesn’t mean that you can’t have any sort of love life, it means you’re free to decide if and when you’ll date.
Going on dates can be fun and more importantly, can help you learn more about yourself. Perhaps your idea of an acceptable mate has changed since you began your self-discovery, you’re constantly evolving.
If you like dating, you can go on a different date every week. You’re now free to date or not date as much or as little as you want.
Spending some time with yourself is important, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up romance and dating altogether.
You might feel like experiencing the ‘best of both worlds’ or you may prefer to stay away from anything even remotely related to romantic relationships for a long time.
4) Being single can actually benefit your health.
A) Single people sleep better. People in relationships generally share a bed with their partner, they often don’t have the same schedule, toss and turn, snore so loudly you wake up, or something else that frequently interrupts sleep.
B) Relationships come with stress. Your stress-load will definitely lighten quite a bit when you’re single.
C) It’s extremely common to lose weight when you’re newly single!
5) Achieve Independence
Many people in long-term relationships are or at some point become dependent upon their partner. Learn to be independent when single so you can be independent in a relationship.
This could help you in the future, being dependent on your significant other for emotional support and healthy things are fine.
When you become too dependent on your significant other, not only you are less able to tackle life on your own, but you starting to lose yourself.
No relationship comes with guaranteed success, and the less dependent you are on your relationship, the better off you’ll be if it ends.
If you lose yourself because you become too dependent on a relationship, if it ends you can become so lost.
Break-ups are a lot harder if, somewhere along the course of the relationship, you lost your identity.
Happiness should never be completely dependent upon another person.
By this point, you should not only understand how to be happy being single, but realize that it’s a good idea to choose to spend some time single.
Ignore the way being single is portrayed in movies, television and music. All of these have a flair for drama, hence they dramatize and romanticize relationships.
Being single is neither a flaw nor does it means that you are flawed in any way. Being single isn’t a weakness—it’s strength and that’s how you should look at it! It means you’re strong enough to be alone with, and take care of yourself.
Knowing you can get through life without being dependent upon anyone else is an empowering feeling that should be embraced.
Wake up to the opportunity that is before you, inviting you to understand, love and improve yourself.
You don’t need to find ways to be happy in spite of being single, you already have new opportunities for happiness because you’re single.