What To Do When a Girl Doesn’t Text Back

What To Do When a Girl Doesn't Text Back

You approach a nice girl and begin a conversation. You spend 30 or 40 minutes talking to her the first time. She was charming, pretty, and exactly your type. It goes well, so you ask for her number. She doesn’t write back. Or she responds back quickly and then, after a few more short texts, she never texts you again. Maybe you are wondering why? Ok, maybe she’s busy. So you wait a bit and the waiting gets longer and longer. After a few days, you realize she’s ignoring you. Why hasn’t she responded to your text?

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Why doesn’t she text back?

In a majority of cases, the reason why she hasn’t texted you back is because you didn’t make a good first impression. Of course, it’s also possible that she lost her phone while rescuing a child from a burning home or something like that, but let’s focus on making a good first impression. To avoid her not responding to you, remember to:

Make a good impression when getting her number

She probably won’t have enough time to get to know you well enough just from your conversation, so the impression you make with your presence is very important. Be friendly, polite, and not too pushy when you ask her for her number. She has to know that you intend to meet up with her again. If she doesn’t show any initial interest, you know that trying to contact her later will be a waste of time.

State your intentions directly. For example: It was nice meeting you, I really liked our little chat. I’ve got to go, but this Saturday I’ll text you and we can go to the movies or this great new Indian restaurant. What do you think? This way when you ask her for her number, you are clearly showing your intentions to meet her again.

Girls that are interested in you will be happy to give you their numbers. If a girl hesitates or refuses, just move on. There is always a risk that the girl is just being polite and sociable. Notice if she is smiling and laughing or just chatting with you like she has nothing better to do. Contacting girls who seem interested in you isn’t a waste of time. There is a good chance that texting them will go well.

Make sure you text her at the right time

A lot of girls have an “I don’t want to be considered easy” attitude. It’s almost guaranteed that after meeting up for the first time the girl is waiting for you to text her. But when exactly is the right time?

If you took her number, you showed her your interest. If she gave you her number, there’s a great chance that she is interested in you as well. But at this stage nothing is sure! So play it cool. As a man, you have the advantage of choosing the right time to text her. The girl’s role in this whole love game is giving you her number and waiting for you to contact her. Make this advantage work in your favor!

Girls like to feel desired and pursued. Don’t text her too early. If you just met her a few hours ago, keep yourself busy and don’t text her right away. It depends on the situation, but a good rule of thumb is to wait at least 24-hours to text her. You made a great impression on her. You were polite. You asked for her number and now you are ready to text. That’s exactly how it should go, but let her wait a bit and she will begin waiting for your text in anticipation. Let some insecurity grow in her head. Men and women don’t like to feel that someone has ensnared them. She gave you her number, so she’s partially hooked. Keep it this way and don’t make any sudden moves. If you met her on Friday night, text her no sooner than Saturday night! You like her, but you are busy, popular guy, right? That’s what she should think.

Don’t wait too long to text her either. Make sure that your first text is no later than 3 days after your first meeting. She should feel that you are thinking about her. Don’t give her the impression that you are texting her just because you have nothing better to do.

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What to include in a first message

The first few messages are crucial for making a good impression. You can completely screw it up if she is still deciding whether she likes you or not. When you text her for the first time, keep it friendly. Refer to something that you talked about in a previous conversation. For example, if she said she was going shopping the next day and that her cousin was visiting, use this information to show her that you were paying attention. But always keep it casual and polite. For example: “Hi, how are you? Did you enjoy hanging out with your cousin today?”

Ask her questions and avoid texts that don’t lead anywhere. At first she will return your texts, but if they don’t keep her engaged she might stop. Remain calm in this situation. You’re going to be fine. It’s always nice having a great conversation via text, but the point of texting or just communication in general is getting into her REAL LIFE.

Make it clear that you want to hang out in your text messages. Girls get bored when the conversation doesn’t lead anywhere besides “LOL” or “hehe”. It just seems pathetic and that you are another uninteresting guy. After a few texts, it’s crucial to setup a time and place to go on a date with her. Be sure to include the place and activity you have planned out.

– You said you were free Friday, so let’s take it easy for a bit and go to this new bar/restaurant/movie theater/coffee place, I wanted to try it out.

If she says she isn’t sure, convince her by saying it’s always easier getting to know someone in person. Make it clear that you want to see her face to face. If you don’t have time to meet up with her today or tomorrow say:

– How about going out to dinner sometime soon? Which day works best for you?

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She may not respond immediately, but she should respond by the following day. Wait patiently. Don’t show her that you are too invested in her at first. Beautiful women chase men too, even if they don’t admit it. They don’t like to feel like your too interested in the beginning. If you really like her and she doesn’t call or text back within the next few days, call her or send a message.

Persistence via text or phone can make wonders…

Remember it’s important to remain cool, and text in a laid-back way. Don’t fall into the same traps that most men do; being needy, full of complaints, or pissed off at a girl for not replying; you’ll be sure of not getting a reply!

Of course it may seem impolite that she hasn’t responded, but remember to her you’re a stranger! She doesn’t know that much about you so there isn’t any point in getting pissed off. It will scare her off for sure.

Being sad and needy is even worse. You want to be seen as an attractive, popular guy, so wait a few days before texting her, and don’t write anything like “I just want to talk to you, blah blah blah”. Manliness is what girls find most attractive and being needy is not very appealing. Try being nonchalant and treat her like anyone else. Because that’s exactly what she is! It isn’t the first number you’ve ever gotten, so if she doesn’t respond, it’s her loss.

After a few days try again without caring too much about it.

Text her and in a nonchalant say:

Lisa, I figured I’d see what you were up to since we haven’t been in touch lately. I just got back from a nice weekend in the city and am back to working hard. Hope you’re doing well… let me know what’s up with you! – Thomas” Treat the situation carefully like you were just reconnecting after being busy with your own things.

Sometime she will reply, sometimes she won’t.

Some girls don’t have a lot of time to text. In this case make it a rule of thumb to respond in the following ways:
She doesn’t reply after one day- give her another day to respond.
She doesn’t reply after two texts or a of couple days- give her a few more days to respond.
And so on, and so on…

What To Do When a Girl Doesn't Text Back

If she really never responds:

There could be a few explanations for this. Maybe she’s taking a while because she’s shy. In fact, she could really like you and just wants to make sure things go well. However, there’s always a chance that she’s just not that into you. It can happen to anyone, so don’t take it personally! Don’t give up on girls. Take a risk next time and make it apparent that meeting in person is better than just merely texting.

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About the author Sarah Williams

Sarah Williams is an avid blogger who specializes in dating advice. Her interests include gender relations and the underlying mechanisms that drive human interactions. You can check out her thoughts on men, sex, dating and love at Wingman Magazine.

  • Only7inches

    Be supremely confident, call, don’t text

    • Ian

      True, though the problem with that today is that it can be even more of a put off, especially for people under 30.

    • Jump Lane

      sooooo true. why hide behind technology. you’re best weapon in the war between the sexes is your masculine presence. be yourself. be a MAN. walk up and talk to the women you are attracted to. youe the phone for setting up meet up (DATES).

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  • Hugo

    To me text is better cause is most romantic.

  • Gianflavio

    “If she really never responds:

    There could be a few explanations for this. Maybe she’s taking a while because she’s shy. In fact, she could really like you and just wants to make sure things go well.”

    ….really? REALLY? come on.

    • Alex K

      I hear you, but it really depends who you are dating. I was dating this girl from Brazil who wasn’t comfortable with her English skills at all. I assumed she wasn’t interested, but upon securing a date, we immediately clicked. After we progressively got more comfortable with each other she explained that she was too shy to text, as she didn’t want to come across as uneducated or stupid. She later insisted that she was very much in to me; therefore, she neglected to text in fear that she may ruin it.

      • Gianflavio

        thats like a special case but i feel you

  • Gabriel

    Don’t take it personal? How the fuck is that anything BUT personal? SHE doesn’t like YOU. And don’t tell me appearance isn’t 75% of the equation. Dumb advice too, who the hell just talks dirty randomly like that? Must be advice for a much older and simpler generation.

  • Gabriel

    this guy has got to be the biggest fail ever. Way to swallow the blue pill, my friend.

  • Seth

    I tried to chat a girl but she never responds I like her very much but I will never give up

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    • Alex Igbax

      dude just give up, if a girl likes you she will put in some effort into it by texting back or trying to show you she is interested

      • do

        No she’s 1000% right,girls really do play that ignoring game like a mofo. petty much act as if you never meant them and your not that Interested. Let me give u a example,my ex we were goin out for a year,f****** like every time we hang out. But when I called or texted she sometimes would respond at all or take hours. I use to get kind of pissed about that and thought the worse,then I thought to myself I need to chill out. So from that day forward,i would take long to text back and sometimes not respond and that shit drove her ducking nuts.when we would meet up she always asked me were you busy today and after a while she would ask how come you haven’t texted me today or called. I know it may seem hard but women do and see things way different then men. We are the pursuers and they pretty much pick and choose,women get way more attention then men. I have been doing that with multiple women and for the past year got more p**** this year then ever before.its a mind state friends,if anything get you some pussy from a Backpage h*e. Because come one that’s what guys really want after a while of not getting any.once u do that,your head is clear and u got some.so now when u get women I the real world,your not so eager to get her,and you can play it cool.remember ,act as if you don’t care and your a busy person,keep the texts short and simple intill u get her hooked on you,because once they are hooked trust me they will want a full paragraph text.women aren’t like men remember that,they can get dick 100 times faster then we can get p*****,so if come off as clingy or a creep,she will hit up the next guy inline trying to get at her.

      • do

        Another thing to note,if that’s doesn’t work,dont get mad or bitter about it,because that ruins the chances of her possibly hitting you up inthe future.heres a example I had a girl who was i trying to get at for about a month,nothing worked so I just STOPPED TEXTING HER I DIDNT GET MAD OR TELL HER ANY BITTER SH*T,I JUST LET IT BE. SO A FEW MONTHS down the road I get a text and it’s her,i said “who’s this” she said”its Clarita remember we meant at the mall few months back” and I’m like” oh yea what’s hoes every thing?” She says you wanna hang out” so we hung out and I end up f**** for a two weeks and then stopped responding,didnt Find her that Interesting,but at least of got some from her.

  • william

    I’m late but can anyone help,see ive been seeing this girl I like. we would text each other and have nice conversations but one day I texted her and no response so I waited a couple days then I texted her “we should text when you have the time” and no response and I know she saw it cause when someone reads a message it says on my phone when they are looking at it. so can anyone help me please I’m pretty much desspret at this point.

    • Julian Manti

      God help u there my friend. I ain’t got a clue

    • Jaquline

      She’s ignoring you my dear. Take it from a girls perspective…..if we ignore your text or calls we are not into you at all.
      The best way to get a girl is to ignore her. Girls hate it. It’s in our blood we just can not stand being ignored. I have talked to guys before that I wasn’t really all that into and then they started to wait really long to respond or didn’t answer when I called and it drove me mad. I was instantly hooked just because I couldn’t have them. Girls want what they can not have and it will never change. This article is somewhat on point but if you really want a girl to want you, wait wait wait it out. She will come. We always come back.

      • penguinApricot

        Most girls have options.

        You still have to make a move, because they are not pro-active;
        (they read horoscopes, and listen to feelings)

        Keep your contact brief , positive and funny.

        wait: 3 days, if nothing then 1 week, if nothing then 2 weeks, if nothing then 1 month, if nothing then 3 months.
        And don’t mind she is spending her evenings making love to an unemployed artist with HIV.

      • Greg

        Liar, I didn’t immediately respond to a girl’s text one time until a few hours later and she flipped out and canceled our date that night. Don’t give people advice like that, you can really mess up someone’s life. Speak for yourself, not other women please.

        • Monarch

          What Jaquline said is true. I mean, if you ignore a girl for a bit. It drives her nuts, but don’t overdo it. Otherwise, she’ll lose interest in you quick.

      • Gabe

        You know I could really use your advice. Would or could you help me out?

      • Gabe

        Hi Jaquline. I could use some advice. Can you help me?

        • Monarch

          What advice do you need?

      • Uncanny_Valley

        Excellent job, Jacquline.

      • Joseph Harris

        Here are two questions that I have. (1) After the first conversation, do the girls expect the guy to reach out to you for the second one more likely than the girl? (2) After the second one I try to wait for her to then respond to me, but how long should I give her to respond before it’s too late to know that she’s just not that interested? 2 days after our last chat be a good guess?

      • John

        What if she texted first

  • nathan. b

    i don’t if this a problem but if you get a girls number and say hey she says hey and then accidentally one of your friends say who is this and then you say sorry that was my friend and she doesn’t reply for hours after, keep in mind i don’t her personally my friend hooked us up, is that bad

  • penguinApricot

    I hope you accept reality before you get too old.

  • Greg

    The hell is this crap? If they don’t respond it means they don’t respond. There is no such thing as a guide to getting a girl, you either get her or move on. These dating advice people are either lying jerks or really ignorant. I took dating advice once, worst decision I ever made.

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  • Mohammad Hassouna

    hey I have a small story and I need some ideas I met a girl 3 days bk in a club she was amz we danced drink we had a lot of nice time next day I text even if called with no responce I text again and till now nothing
    any ideas people she is really my type

    • Uncanny_Valley

      She has a boyfriend and she’s being honest. Maybe she regretted what happened in the club. Move on.

  • Screaming Panda

    Women who are terrible at communicating with other people or are just plain dishonest seem to get a free pass in society it seems. What’s wrong with texting a guy or simply tell him in person that she really isn’t interested in you anymore. The pressure is on the guy to make a great first impression, exude an air of confidence, and give a woman that he’s interested in attention all while getting the cold shoulder in the end. Something is wrong with that picture. I say don’t wait. If you don’t hear from her within a day or two (max) then move on. This world has over 7 billion people living in it. There’s no point in wasting your limited time alive on one woman.

  • Jimmy Johanes

    be as handsome as me xD

  • Joseph Harris

    I like to follow the two strikes and then never give a 3rd chance rule. For example, say a girl promises to see you and on that day of promise she tells you something like being sick, family thing, etc. You can give her a pass the first time because you can’t be that certain whether she’s lying or not. If she does it a 2nd time, then you can confidently know that she at least doesn’t want to make time for you (even if she is not lying). Once that happens, just tell her something this, “Sorry, but I only have so many free days to give, so I sadly must cut ties with you “name”, wish you the best!” At least then you’re being nice about it while asserting your manliness then to her by showing how confident you are in yourself then.