We often focus so much on building our self-confidence around women that we forget that girls can be shy as well. Just because a girl is shy doesn’t mean that she’s unattractive. She might be the most beautiful girl in town without even being aware of it, like an unpolished diamond.
Imagine a group of girlfriends. Who’s the most likely to catch everyone’s attention? The most confident and loud girl is usually the one getting all the looks, but she’s also the hardest one to get. That doesn’t make her the best one! Often, shy girls are undiscovered beauties worth your effort and attention.
Instead of complaining about how you don’t know how to act around females, try your luck interacting with less confident girls. Approaching a girl who is shyer than you can boost your own confidence! If you’re a shy guy and the girl you’re trying to start a conversation with is also shy, it may be tough to get things going. Increase your chances significantly by learning the subtle indicators that tell you that she’s attracted to you.
7 signs that let you know a shy girl likes you:
1. She engages you with direct eye contact
She looks at you. If you’ve checked to make sure some other dude isn’t behind you and you catch her looking your way several times, it isn’t a coincidence. Women don’t offer sustained eye contact for no reason. A girl that meets your eyes and gazes directly your way is displaying the most common sign of female interest.
Even with shy girls, eye contact is something that they can’t avoid if they’re into you. She might turn away when you return her gaze. That’s a great sign! You have “caught” her looking at you. Shy girls don’t just stare at you openly.
Keep up the eye contact and smile. When she looks elsewhere, do it as well. If you break eye contact first, she might treat it as a rejection and become even shyer.
2. She is smiling at you more than at other people
Smiling is a natural human reaction, but it can be tricky to understand well. If she’s shy and smiling at you, don’t treat her smile as the main indicator of interest. Look deeper. Girls are naturally more friendly and empathetic than guys are, and they often smile at people to make them feel more comfortable.
Smiling can mean something or nothing. She might smile just because she likes you as a friend. Pay attention to how often and what type of smile she displays. Is it directed toward everyone or just you? If she seems to smile at everyone, I wouldn’t get to worked up about her sending a smile your way.
But if she seems to mostly smile at you, while looking deeply into your eyes and blushing, you’re probably her type! For shy girls, this type of smile means a lot and is also the easiest way for her to show interest.
3. She laughs at your jokes
Of course you’re a fun and interesting guy. Everyone knows your jokes are hilarious. But is this girl laughing at ALL of your jokes and witty comments? Even at the less sophisticated ones? The ones nobody else even laughed at? Is she always giggling in your presence, as though you were the funniest guy on earth? This can mean two different things. That she has a great sense of humor or that she’s into you. It probably means both.
4. She engages in accidental physical contact
If she’s “accidentally” touching you during your conversation, it’s a good sign. Females are more aware of their bodies and like physical contact with the people they admire. If it’s just a small, accidental brush against your shoulder when she’s talking to you, it’s a good thing.
Be careful! Even if she’s a shy person, if she’s always hugging you, it might mean the opposite, you may have been friend zoned… She might treat you like a great friend, feel comfortable with you and share her feelings, but don’t mistake those brother-like feelings for anything like desire.
5. She interacts with every guy but you
This is very typical “shy girl” behavior. Sometimes a girl’s shyness is only directed toward the guys she’s interested in and doesn’t affect her confident behavior with other guys. Have you known each other for a while and noticed that she doesn’t have a problem talking to other guys but seems to be avoiding you? Or have you just met her in a group setting and noticed that she’s talking to everyone except you?
She might be afraid to talk to you because she likes you and doesn’t want to blush or say something stupid when she’s in your presence. She might also think that you’re interested in her and wants to check to see if talking to other guys will make you jealous—kind of like a test. When you see her talking to another guy and you can tell that she isn’t into him, just smoothly join in on the conversation!
5. She is behaved strangely
Did she accidentally drop her stuff on the floor or display some other clumsy behavior? Has she asked you some random questions that she knows you’re unlikely to know the answer to? When she talks to you, does she suddenly begin quickly talking about unimportant subjects like her life depends on it? Is she usually loud but quickly turns quiet in your presence? Or vice-versa?
These all could be signs that she’s nervous around you. If her shyness doesn’t stem from severe social anxiety, and your presence seems to make her behave strangely, take it as her own special way of showing her attraction towards you.
6. She’s fidgety and adjusts her clothes
She’s trying to present her best self to you. Maybe she’s touching her hair or making sure her clothes look right or her glasses sit correctly on her nose? Whatever it is, she’s trying to make everything look perfect in your eyes. She cares what you think about her and how she looks.
Did you know that an easy way to see if a woman is interested in you on a date is to take note of how many times she excuses herself to the restroom? If she goes to the restroom frequently, she may be checking out her appearance so that she looks as good as possible for you.
7. She’s everywhere you are
She eats at the same restaurant as you. She hangs out with your friends, and goes to the same parties. You have some hobby that she’s suddenly discovered she’s obsessed with as well… When everyone else has left, she stays if you are staying longer.
Of course, this could all be a coincidence, but if this happens along with some of the aforementioned signs, maybe she’s going to all those places because of you. She doesn’t want to make it obvious, but at some point she will be everywhere you are.
Her signs won’t be clear and they may even be tricky! On one hand, she wants you to know that she likes you; on the other hand she’s also afraid. Often, being shy comes from low self-esteem. Just to keep her feelings from becoming obvious, she might behave like she doesn’t like you at all!
Keep in mind that it’s hard for a shy girl to make the first move. She would probably prefer giving you opportunities to take the next step. Don’t treat her the same way you would confident, self-assured girls. She needs you to take the lead. Talk to her, and be friendly. Don’t expect her to ask you out. You have to. Look for any opportunities she gives you to take your relationship to the next level!