The 8 Best Ways to Keep a New Girl Interested in You

By Leslie Wyman

Posted 7 years agoDATING

So you’ve got this cute girl you’ve been seeing, and sure, you’ve been seeing her for a couple of time now. You’ve taken her to dates and fancy-looking places, but that doesn’t mean she’s completely head-over-heels with you.
The 7 Best Ways to Keep a New Girl Interested in You

While she may like you, it doesn’t help when you’re just taking her to the same place over and over again and doing the same things. She’ll surely get bored eventually.

Let’s put it this way, if you were given the same food for a whole month, even when it’s your favorite, would you still like it? I know I wouldn’t because I’ve tried! After tasting the same for days, don’t you think you’ll eventually get tired of the same exact dish? I don’t think so.

Taking a new girl to the same old places and not trying new things will lead to an uninteresting date, which results in a failed attempt in love. While nothing can be greater than falling in love, nothing can also be worse than falling out of it.

It takes much-needed effort to keep a girl interested in you, and you have to work hard for it. Don’t just take comfort in the fact that a girl likes you; she can’t love you forever if you don’t put a little sweat and work hard to get your relationship working.

If you want to make sure she’s going to cherish and treasure you forever, know how to hold her attention, always make her feel special, and do the little things that matter big. With luck and hard work, here are seven ways to keep a new girl interested in you.

1. Take Control Of The Relationship

When you go out to date, don’t let her “plan” the details of your date for the both of you. Instead, do all the necessary planning for a perfect date. A woman loves a man with a plan, and by planning the dates yourself, you can show her how responsible you can get when it comes to things like these.

Take control of what’s going to happen in your dates and night-outs, as this will make her keep her interest in you and the things you planned because she won’t know what to expect! Women like excitement and new experiences that are worth her time, and if you can do that for her, she’ll love you even more!

2. Always Be Creative

Now that you’ve established that you plan the things that you do, the next step is to be creative about it. If you’re going dinner for the night, unless it’s her favorite restaurant, unleash your creative side and be imaginative.

In whatever you try to plan or scheme, try jazzing things and be different from others. Always be spontaneous and unpredictable. It also helps to list the things of a woman’s interests, to accurately target places that might be fun for her.

If she adores animals, take her to zoos or pet cafés that have dogs or cats. If she likes to stroll, take her strolls in beautiful parks at night, or going to different art museums that would interest her, or just a simple bike ride around town works as well.

Keep her guessing on what to do next, like trying different dates that aren’t the norm. Women like it when they know you are fun to be with and you can act on your impulses.

Doing things that are enjoyable, different, creative and memorable will make her love you ten times more, and will get her to look forward to the next time you’ll be together.

3. Stay Mysterious

A lot of men will often tell-all to a girl when they first meet, which can be a good thing. For the most part, the goal of first dates is getting to know each other. Revealing too much can also be a bad thing.

While knowing each other is a certain must, you must also consider keeping a little bit of mystery to yourself. Let your girl know for herself things that might interest or impress her. Trust me; women can be attracted to finding out other’s accomplishments for themselves rather than being blatantly told to them. I know it does because I’ve been doing it a lot!

Over the course of your relationship, reveal new things about you that she has not known yet. Like stories and scenarios from your past, your hidden hobbies and passions, and other pieces and bits of information. This way, it can help her stay interested in you and the stories that you are yet to tell.

For instance, if she asks about your driving skills, and you happen to drive a nice car, just tell her that you like to ride motor scooters. After revealing the truth, she’ll be impressed not only with the vehicle you’re driving, but also the sense of humor and humbleness that you possess.

Of course, not revealing too much, especially on first dates, isn’t a good thing. But, when you’re trying to make a girl yours forever, learn to keep a little bit of mystery, to spice things up!

4. Great Conversations Matter

At any point in a relationship, being an excellent discourses and conversationalist is always useful and is an important skill to master if you want to keep her interested in you. Engaging in topics that interest the both of you could do the trick.

I have already highlighted the fact that you should do your research and keep track of the things that interest her. Now, use these topics as conversation starters and ask her questions about them, this helps create great conversations between you two that she will surely remember.

By displaying the interest you know about her, she will be hugely flattered about how much you’re willing to find out more about her. Ask her questions and carefully listen. By making her discuss the things she is interested about to you, she will be more open to you about her experiences and whatnot.

For example, if she’s passionate about animals and she recently just visited a zoo, you’d want to mention these things to her as part of your conversations. When you talk about stuff that she likes, it serves as a virtual guarantee that she’ll have a good time with you, and will make her want to repeat the experience with you.

Bonus tip, when you want to impress the girl that you desire, even more, send her love notes, flowers, chocolates, and all that cheesy stuff to her office. Not only will you be her in mind the whole day, but it can also serve as great conversation starters when you meet her later.

The point is, great conversations can most often lead to the right track in relationships. Master the skill of conversing, and open topics that will potentially make her feel good about your presence. This way, she’s always going to be interested in future conversations she will be having with you.

5. Be A Gentleman

Trust me when I say this:  Chivalry isn’t dead!

Women still like it when the guy that they date are gentlemen. Women still crave for them. Because being a gentleman is a powerful way of saying that you are a man and she is in good hands when she’s with you.

These little things still matter to women, so if you want to meet her at the end of an altar, show that you care. Open doors and pull out chairs for her, make sure you put your hand on her lower back when walking across the street, or making sure that you always walk outside of the curb.

Doing the little acts of courteousness like the ones mentioned can assure her that you are a guy that she can trust and depend.

Ask permission from her about things like calling her, because the last thing a woman wants is a guy that calls her twenty times in the middle of the night. If you start to act like you’re ready to be married after a first date, then you’re probably better off somewhere else.

Moreover, don’t be the type of guy that gets mad quickly, and puts too much pressure on the girl they date. Make her feel comfortable with your presence, and always keep your cool around her. After all, the two of you are still just getting to know each other.

Don’t act creepy and rush yourself into anything, and have her decide for herself when she wants to take your relationship to the next level.  Trust me, the biggest turnoff is being creepy and acting desperate. I’ve experienced it too many times, and I, for one, find it extremely disturbing.

The woman you desire will respect you, and she will let you know where you stand. This way you will have a better chance of ending up in the relationship that you want.

Don’t forget to look smart and dashing on every date that you have; any gentleman knows how to make themselves look cool and fashionable, and knows how to groom themselves properly.

Make yourself look presentable all the time, and don’t be afraid to ask her about it. Good looks can increase the chances in winning your girl.

Overall, prove her right by being the reliable and trustworthy man that she wants. Stay calm and always be a gentleman if you want her forever.

6. Maintain Your Personal Spaces

If you think clinging to your girl is a thing that excites her, then I may have bad news for you.

Always keep a healthy space between the both of you. If you’re going to see your girl 24/7, then she might not like that to happen. Besides from being extra creepy, it’s just going to suffocate her. It is vital that you maintain the both of your lives outside the relationship.

Personal spaces matter, so that you are not restricting her only to see you all the time, it will also retain both of your identities.

Remember all the fun stuff that made you attractive to your girl in the first place? Keep doing those. Keep hanging out with your friends and keep doing the things you enjoy. Not only do you not run out of interesting things to talk about, but she also can’t be bored with your constant presence.

If you’re a satisfied and happy man in whatever aspects, be it work or hobbies, then when a woman truly admires you, she will do whatever it takes to convince you to make her a part of that busy life. Maintain your busy lives together, ensuring that you both have the ample time for each other.

Keeping personal spaces can give her room to miss you, rather than being uninterested in your presence instead. So if you plan to make a girl interested in you, make her pursue you all over again and live your lives in the middle of everything.

7. Be Truly Interested In Her

If you want your girl for the rest of your life, show it to her. Nothing makes a woman’s heart flutter more than a man who’s genuinely interested in her. Don’t just date her because of her appearance, date her because you want to date her.

I suggest keeping a good track of the things she likes doing, her ambitions and goals, and most importantly, her friends. Get to know her circle of friends, and make them like you as well, this way you’re confident that she can trust you.

Tell her things that make her blush, like complimenting her every time and being cheesy around her. Appreciate her presence and say it to her.

If you’re sure that she’s comfortable with your presence, then go and make the first move. Women like it when men initiate the first kiss or anything else. Make her feel sexy and attractive, and don’t you dare let her down.

Making her feel that you’re genuinely interested in her will make her feel the same. If you want your relationship to last a lifetime, then I suggest you put an effort in showing her that you plan on doing so.

8. Impress her with an expensive gift

Gifting your girl a diamond ring can be one of the best ways to keep her interested and intrigued. Showering her with small gifts like diamond rings or jewelry tends to make them feel even more loved and portrays you as a complete gentleman. And if you are in the stage/phase where you feel the girl is just perfect for you and can see the future with her or just want to impress her in general. We got the best, the best idea. Women always love a good surprise then why not surprise her with an expensive gift. She would have never seen it coming and this gifting her something expensive will send her head-over-heels for you.

There can be many gift ideas one can give but none can deny a huge diamond ring. But now it might have made you wonder, A diamond ring? Won’t it break my bank? No worries. There are so many alternatives to a diamond but if you want to give her something that’s ‘real’ you can opt for something called the man-made diamond.

As the name suggests this diamond is indeed grown in a laboratory but is way cheaper (30-40%) than your naturally grown diamonds. This diamond is identical to that of the naturally grown diamonds having the same characteristics and all the properties. It is so similar that it cannot even be distinguished by naked eyes. And it even confuses an expert when it comes to telling it apart. The best part is that this does not come from any areas of conflict. you can be worry-free that you are not supporting anything related to the history of violence.

One doesn’t need to give rings when they are planning to propose, jewelry such as rings can be given on any occasion, be it birthday, friendship day, valentines day, as a promise ring, or as a general gift. It is important to see the meaning behind the ring rather than the ring and gifting a ring to the girl you want to impress is the best idea because when she sees the ring you gave her it will always remind her how effortlessly you stole her heart.


Beginning a relationship can be either be fun or a hectic ordeal, you get to decide for yourself. However, when attempting to love, you’ve got to remember to put effort and commitment, especially if you want your girl forever.

That’s why it’s important to know what to do and when to do it. Follow the tips I gave above to increase your chances of winning the girl you’ve been seeing. With luck, you’re already following the right direction.

Keeping a girl’s interest in you could take effort and might take some of your time, but it sure is worth it. Trust me; it is.


About the author Leslie Wyman

Leslie Wyman is a fashion expert to many and a love expert to some. While she might be a great designer of different trending fashion statements in the fashion industry, she also writes a lot about things and whatnots about love. Leslie passionately designs fashion items found from sites like French Connection AU while keeping track of the love that’s around her. In her downtime, she likes to browse the internet for real-time updates about the world and the job that she does.

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