Why Do I Feel Worthless? 7 Ways To Increase Your Sense Of Purpose & Why It Matters

By Sofia Alves

Posted 3 months agoGROWTH

As a society, we still have long ways to go before the subject of mental illness becomes so widespread that anyone can feel free to share their story. It’s interesting to note that people generally don’t have trouble speaking about their physical health, while themes such as mental issues and problems are rarely openly talked about. The 21st century is in full swing, yet we still have trouble confessing our deepest fears and communicating our true emotions.

And those who aren’t afraid to speak up sometimes get stigmatized and criticized for their ’lack of ability to endure these rough periods’. From an early age, we’re taught to suppress our emotions and ’toughen up’. This can be especially hard for boys/young males since we all know that ’boys don’t cry’.

But this kind of behavior only leads to creating even bigger issues: suppressing your emotions is never a good choice. Those who do that often time struggle later in life and have trouble finding their spot in the world. If you have difficulties discovering your sense of purpose it’s paramount that you start working on it as soon as possible.

The society made us think that we need to accomplish particular things, usually materialistic and superficial, in order to be ‘worth’. Nothing more wrong than that! The true, happy being and sincere, loving connections with others together is the biggest ‘worth’ and the essence of life. You don’t need much more than that!

You don’t ask an animal or a plant why it’s alive. It’s alive with all its beauty for the sake of being. Its existence is the ultimate reason and purpose. And the same applies to humans. People often link their self-worth, with some kind of achievements, confusing if with a sense of purpose.

In this article, we’re going to talk about how exactly to accomplish this and why this discovery is so important.

The Importance of Having a Sense of Purpose

In case you were wondering why having a sense of purpose is so crucial, we’ll just remind you of a 2011 study published by Applied Psychology which says that those who reported higher levels of eudaimonic well-being were also the ones who lived longer. This ’eudaimonic well-being’ is directly connected to the feeling of having a sense of purpose in life. It’s also connected to having more control over one’s life and doing things that you consider to be purposeful.

So, if you aim at living a healthy, happy, harmonious, prosperous life, we’d strongly advise you to find this sense of aim, if you lack one. But anyone who has been in such a position of a lack of purposefulness can attest that this is much easier said than done.

Aimlessly wandering through life isn’t exactly the most fun, and if you’re one of those people, rest assured that we hear your weeps and cries. We’re more than aware that no one can instill the sense of purpose in you but we nevertheless recommend you to hear us out and take into consideration the following seven ways you can use to increase your sense of purpose.

Pay Attention to Your Dreams, Hopes, and Desires

One of the most essential things to realize when you’re struggling to find your life’s goal is to pay attention to yourself. Start with a little bit of self-reflection (virtually look yourself in the mirror, if necessary) and ask yourself these questions: What are my dreams, hopes, and desires? It’s paramount that you highlight and accentuate the word ’my’ here.

This means that you have to stop worrying about others for a moment – what they might think or say – and fully commit to realizing what exactly is it that drives you. Often time we get caught up in doing things that others expect us to do, without ever realizing that we’re not doing anything that makes us happy.

So, the next time you feel like doing a little bit of soul searching, maybe start by asking yourself about the things that you’d like to do in life, instead of thinking about what this or that person, or the society asks you to do.

Help Others

Once you’ve made this kind of realization and you’re somewhat more certain about the things that are making you happy – only then it’s time to start figuring out other stuff. If you still have trouble finding your own true path in life, even though you’ve already done this self-reflection numerous times in your life, maybe your goal (or one of them) is to help others. Many people are deeply altruistic and can’t feel happy if they don’t make others happy.

Finding your sense of purpose is a trial and error game, but the most important thing to note is to never give up searching for it. You know those inspirational quotes that say that ’it’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey’? It may sound like a cliche, but it’s actually quite true. Find the cause that you care about enough and dedicate your free time to helping others, if it’s something that cheers you up and makes you happy.

Care for a Pet

Helping others is awesome, but caring for someone or something can be an even greater feeling. Not only does it feel good to be responsible for someone/something, but it’s actually life-changing, in a way. Anyone who’s been in a position to care for a pet knows just how rewarding it is to wake up every morning and have someone by your side. This animal (it can be a cat, a dog, a bird, a turtle, or a snake – it doesn’t matter) relies heavily on you and this creates a sense of purpose like few other things in life.

Let’s say that you get a dog, for example. Now you have to feed it every day, take it for walks, play with it, etc. You constantly have to learn new things about that particular breed, so you start reading books, visit dedicated blogs and read articles like those that you can find at Totally Goldens, for instance, and so on.

You embrace this new role more and more and suddenly, without even realizing, you’re not even thinking about what’s your purpose in life. When this moment strikes you, you’ll probably also think that this is exactly what you needed. In many cases, it’s this moment in time when we realize that we’ve stopped asking questions about our purpose that we’ve actually found it.


Reading is one of those few activities that can take you to places that are beyond your imagination. Ever so often we get caught up in our daily routine that we find ourselves constantly thinking about different ways on how to break up these procedures and stop the ’Groundhog Day’ from happening time and time again.

In some cases, this is done easiest with the help of a good book. That’s why it’s crucial to find enough time during the day to read something that inspires and motivates us. Sometimes we just need a little push to get things going in the direction of our preference. Reading gives you a different perspective on things, thus helping you get out of the rut and ordinary life that eats up your energy and creativity.

Find Enough Time for Yourself and Pick Up a Hobby

While we’re on the subject of creativity, we strongly advise you to pick up a hobby that’s going to help you cope with any problems and issues that you might be facing at the moment.

We’ve already talked about how important it is to listen to your hopes, dreams, and desires. If you enjoy doing something creative in your spare time, it’s paramount that you start doing that immediately. You can write songs, paint, do woodwork, play an instrument, learn a new language, and so on. Any of those things can help you immensely in discovering your life’s goals and purpose.

Staying curious and eager to develop is not only good for you, but for your relationship. Better to bring fresh energy to the relationship from your new passion than breaking boredom with cheating or flirting with others, right? Goes both ways!

Just remember that this purpose doesn’t have to mean that you need to do something big. Take your time and be patient. There are numerous examples of people who found their purpose much later in life. As we’ve already indicated, it doesn’t matter when this happens: but whenever it does happen, you’ll be content beyond ever imagining.

Talk and Listen to People Carefully

A great way to (re) discover purpose in your life can be even just talking and listening to people more carefully. In today’s world, these social skills tend to be hugely neglected due to many different factors and reasons. It’s quite sad to see that we have more and more difficulties in communicating the right way between each other.

And sometimes this lack of communication is the ultimate cause that triggers many mental ailments and issues such as anxiety, depression, or isolation.

If you have trouble talking to people face to face, we recommend you to start as soon as possible. This is something that can help you get out of the slump, even though you might not realize this at the moment. Be patient and start slowly: exchange a few words here and there with the stranger in the street, or at the supermarket while you go out to do grocery shopping. All these things can help you hugely to increase your sense of purpose.

The Bottom Line

More and more people struggle to find a sense of purpose in life. Going aimlessly through life is something that many individuals would like to avoid, but breaking this spell and vicious cycle can be hard at times. That’s why, in this article, we’ve given you some ideas that you can utilize to increase this sense of purpose in life.

About the author Sofia Alves

Sofia Alves is a volunteer with local dog rescues and a freelance writer. She treats all animals as if they were her own. Sofia’s family includes her husband, a 3-year-old daughter and a sweet 7-year-old Hungarian vizsla, Lily. Outside of loving pets and spending time with her family, she’s probably bicycling somewhere in nature.

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