How to be More Popular: 8 Life Hacks For Becoming a Desirable College Guy

By Patrick Banks

Posted 3 years agoDATING


So, you want to be the guy on campus that girls want to date. Accomplishing that is both simple, and complex. Take a look at the guys around you. To be desirable, do better than them. It’s a simple concept. Pulling it off, on the other hand, isn’t so easy. You have to address so many areas, not just your physical appearance.  

Now for the good news. Guys, this is totally doable. All you have to do is put these eight life hacks into action. 

1. Dress Impeccably

First, don’t confuse dressing well with overdressing. Here are some basic pieces every man needs to have in his wardrobe. Nobody is going to be impressed if you show up in the suit to a jeans and t-shirt event. You’re just going to look pretentious and weird. The key is to wear the right jeans and t-shirt. Dump the low-quality jeans from the rack at Wally World. Go to a department store, and a get a well-made pair of jeans from a decent designer.

Then, for God’s sake try them on and look at yourself in the mirror. Be realistic about your body type and the shape you are in right now, and pick something flattering. Not sure what’s in style? Grab a men’s magazine and find out. As for t-shirts, grab something that fits nicely and is made from a decent fabric. Use common sense when picking out logo tees. When in doubt, solid colors all the way.

2. Learn to Cook

Women are constantly told that they can win men over with their cooking skills. Maybe it’s true. Maybe it isn’t. What is true is that women will fall all over a man who knows what he is doing in the kitchen. You don’t need to be a master chef, but you should have the following in your repertoire:

  • A Decent Salad That Doesn’t Come From a Bag
  • A Hangover Friendly Breakfast
  • A Properly Cooked Steak Dinner (Chicken Breast For Her if She is on a Diet)
  • A Few Pasta Dishes
  • Some Vegetarian Entrees

There’s an added bonus to cooking. It helps to make ladies feel more comfortable with you in their home, and more at ease if they are at your place. Familiarity can lead to intimacy. 

3. Have a Life Plan

Look around. You don’t have to have it all together, but you should have a plan in place. Basically, you want to come off as at least a little more together than most other guys. Know what you are going to do when you graduate. Start a savings account. Apply for internships. If a girl asks you what your future plans are, ‘Uhhhh, I dunno.’ is one libido killing answer.

4. Keep up Your Friends And Your Interests

Never ditch your friends or your hobbies to be at the beck and call of any girl. At best, you’ll seem weak. At worst, revolving your life around her schedule is going to seem creepy. Girls will respect you if they know you won’t change plans with friends just to hang out with them. Finally, don’t let your grades slip. Keep up with your homework, and be sure your writing assignments are up to par.

5. Avoid Fighting With Her Friends

You’re seeing a girl. It’s going well. The only issue is that she’s got a few annoying friends. There’s one in particular that you really cannot stand, and you’d love to say something that would really shut her up.

Don’t do it. Do not do it.  You will not only blow it with this girl, but word will get around. You will be deemed a rude hothead who cannot behave like a civilized human being. Take the high road.

6. Keep Your Place Clean

The condition of your dorm room or apartment is key when it comes to impressing women. Buy a laundry hamper. Put your clothes in it. Learn to use a vacuum cleaner, mop, and a broom. Air freshener is your friend. Remember that you become used to stale odors where you live. If you have slobs for roommates, crack the whip. 

7. Plan Great Dates

Netflix and chill are killing your dating game. Girls can hang around with anybody. That doesn’t impress them. Guess what else doesn’t impress college women. Frustrating conversations like this:


Guy: So, uhh, what do you want to do?

Girl: Oh, whatever you want. Surprise me.

Guy: I mean we can do anything you want to.

Girl: You pick.

Guy: What do you feel like?


For crying out loud, take her to new restaurants. Plan a picnic. Get tickets to something really cool. Take her to a winery. Make an effort. Spend a little bit of money. Show her a good time.

8. Learn to Hold a Conversation

This cannot be emphasized enough. Learn how to carry on a conversation with a woman. Here are a few simple guidelines:

  • If you are only getting yes or no answers, you aren’t having a conversation. You are carrying out an interrogation. 
  • Don’t  just talk about yourself.
  • Be opinionated. Don’t believe the crap about girls needing to be told they are right all of the time.
  • Pay attention to body language. Read more abouther body language as well as a few alpha male hacks to instantly boost your attractiveness.

  • Ask open-ended questions. Then respond in a way that shows you listened.
  • Don’t lecture.
  • Be a bit flirty from time to time to not bore her too death and end up in a freindzone.
  • Read books and pay attention to pop culture. Have interesting things to say.
  • Just in case, prepare a few topics to talk with her.
  • Ask any girl, why she likes the guy she is currently with, and she will probably tell you that he is easy to talk to. Pay attention to that.  


    If you want to be the guy that girls want to be around, you have to get it together. Be the alpha male. Pay attention to your looks. Grow up and get it together. They payoff is worth the effort and then some.

    Last but not least, here are the top 5 dating mistakes to avoid in campus this year.

    About the author Patrick Banks

    Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.