No matches on Tinder? This “trick” will help you change that

By Patrick Banks

Posted 3 years agoDATING

No matches on tinder? This "trick" will help you change that

Troubleshooting your Pictures

Pictures speak a thousand words, unfortunately some of us don’t realise what words our pictures are actually saying.

The problem is that girls will often read a lot more into your pictures then you will, they’ll fully analyse the entire situation of a picture within seconds of seeing it (two seconds to be precise) and will instantly decide if you’re worth looking further into or not.

Let’s go through a few common mistakes people make with pictures on their profiles and how to fix them:

No clear identification

Whether you have only group photos, no photos showing your face or only photos of you far away; if the girls can’t tell what you actually look like then they won’t be willing to gamble on you (they might think you’re hiding something). The best way to make sure the girls know what you look like is by having a clear headshot photo with your shoulders in. Headshots say, here I am, this is what I look like and I am definitely the choice for a primary photo.

Bad quality photos

If offered two bottles of wine, a tacky, cheap label or a beautiful, elegant label then we will always pick the better quality packaging. Think of the quality of your photos as your packaging, the better the quality of your photos the more appealing you will appear. Be careful not to go too high quality, having only professional model shoots will make you look fake.

Photos with the wrong groups

There are two big mistakes people make in group photos: not being the most attractive person in the group and taking photos with girls. You might just be posing with your female cousin but all the girls will be thinking, “he’s slept with that girl” and you may be a good looking guy but if you’re stood next to a more attractive friend then the girls are just wishing you were him. Aim to have social pictures where you’re not with girls and where you’re in a group of friends who are just slightly less attractive than you.

Lonely and uninteresting pictures

Girls can get away with only selfies for their Tinder pictures, but we guys? Not so much. When you put up selfies, it makes girls think that you’re lonely and uninteresting. Try to use pictures that have been taken by someone else and try to have them in interesting situations or locations… Those pictures of you mountain climbing should come in handy here.

Undressed and unimpressed

This one can come as a surprise but those topless pictures and pictures of you striking a ‘double front bicep’ pose in the gym can actually put girls off. You may look like Thor but the girls will just roll their eyes and think, “another one of these idiots”. You want to show off your physique subtly, leaving a little to the imagination can make girls more interested. A perfectly fitting shirt with the sleeves rolled up or a Henley shirt will work wonders.

Using babies to add cuteness

You’re there cradling your niece in a loving photo, unfortunately, the girls won’t think it’s your niece and suddenly they aren’t interested. The problem with babies is that paternity can come into question. Swap human babies for animal babies, instant cuteness, and no questions.

Claustrophobic photos 

If your photos are all inside, with low lighting or cluttered (or all of the above) they will make the girls feel claustrophobic. Take light photos outside in open spaces to make your profile feel more appealing, preferably in an area of outstanding natural beauty for added charm.

Lack of style

Everyone has different style and taste but if you’re not dressed well then you won’t be attracting anybody. Always aim to dress above your attractiveness level, find a celebrity that looks like you and that dresses in a style you like, copy their fashion and you’ll end up looking great in your photos and in everyday life as well.

If you rectify any mistakes you’ve made above, you will be well on your way to getting yourself some matches.

About the author Patrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.